If you know you will marry the person and there is no difference in your spirtual and emotional relationship before marriage and after marriage... what is wrong with premartial sex in christianity? For example, say a couple met each other and one year later they get married. They've kept their virginity til their wedding day. The 2nd couple were together for 5 years. They know each other spritually and emotionally far more than the other couple and they lost their virginity in their 4th year of the relationship. They know they will get married in 2 years... Does that signed paper make it all the more different?
You may say that they don't know if they will be together in 2 years... well how do you know that the first couple won't get in a divorce? It doesn't make sense to me... someone with the Christian backgrond please explain...
2007-06-24 06:20:06 · 14 answers · asked by Lady 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The Bible teaches abstinence before marriage. Sex is such a strong desire, and God wants us to be happy in a bonded, binding relationship. Too often pre-marital sex does not end in marriage......and folks get hurt deeply. God does not want us hurting. In a committed marriage there is much less chance of getting hurt. This, of course, means a marriage where both parties are committed to the Lord, and put Him in His proper place, as the Head of their home. God's 'rules' are for the purpose of helping us be happy, not for making us miserable. Hope this helps.
2007-06-24 06:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, it isn't the signed paper that makes a difference. It is the solemn vows taken before God and His Church. It is those vows that seal the couple in a holy relationship with many responsibilities and some privileges. Making those vows means freely taking upon yourself all the responsibilities of marriage, including the raising of children resulting from sexual intercourse. Not taking those vows means leaving the door open so you can bail out any time you want to (an in case you haven't noticed, many guys bail out precisely when she says "I'm pregnant"). The fun was great but responsibility? No way! If that's what I wanted, I would have married you!
2007-06-24 06:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first couple obeyed God's commands about purity and sex. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body,". it does not matter about whether or not they get a divorce. that does not concern your body. If this couple were to divorce, they should abstain from sex until the get married again. if they dont get married again, they shouldnt (God's word) have sex again.
the second couple openly disobeyed God's word. it doesn't matter how well they knew each other spiritually&emotionally. God set marriage apart to be a holy cerimony. the traditional white dress is supposed to symoblize the bride's virginity.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; "
the 3rd link i have on here is a Christian group that campaigns for abstinence until marriage.
2007-06-24 06:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the second couple KNOWS they will be married in 2 years, then why are they not married NOW?!?!
People who have sex before marriage are acting like they are married, but they have not made a commitment to each other in front of othrs. They are living a lie.
People who SAY they are getting married sometimes break up before they have exchanged their vows.
2007-06-24 06:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says it explicitly that premarital sex is a no-no. Therefore, Christianity says that premarital sex is not okay under NY circumstances.
"Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication [that is, unmarried sex], let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." (1 Corinthians 7:1-2, KJV)
"Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" - (1 Corinthians 7:8-9)
1 Corinthians 6:18: "Flee from sexual immorality."
Personally I'm an atheist, but I attend Bible study (Baptist) courses to better understand the religion. From what I've been told, if the Bible says no, the answer is no. Baptists allow for very little interpretation of the Bible and take it straightforward. I was raised Catholic, and premarital sex in Catholicism is strongly frowned upon. There is a lot of hypocrisy within the modern Churches, however, the religion itself says no premarital sex.
And as for divorce, the Bible also says that if your partner no longer desires to be with you, then to let them go. I haven't found this passage, but I was told this by a divorced Baptist. Therefore, divorce = okay, premarital sex = not okay.
Then again, according to the religion, as long as you accept Christ as your Lord and Savior, then you've got a ticket to Heaven. Even if you're Hitler.
2007-06-24 06:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by sun of samsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible deals in absolutes. If you're a believer of the Bible and you take its words as written, then any sex before marriage is wrong. Being that it does deal in absolutes, the only way you're absolutely married under God's eyes, is when you have taken the vows. Good intentions don't count. So, it has to be a "sure" thing and the only way that happens is when the ring goes on the finger and they say "I do". Thanks for the question, and have a great day!!
2007-06-24 06:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually,in the sight of God they were married when they had sex(the becoming one flesh). The marriage is not when the State says they are married.
Biblical marriage is when a man asks the parents/guardians of a woman and they agree. And then the man and woman lay with one another(make love). It is a covenant marriage,and a blood covenant if the woman is a virgin. Therefore it is honorable before God. You don't need the governments permission,that only invites the State to tell you how to live(not God's intention).
2007-06-24 06:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by david b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, its funny. Christians in America have a really different view on premarital sex than Christians elsewhere, which stems from the Puritain background of the United States.
Premarital sex is not a big deal. Priests in many areas don't even bother to preach abstinance because they realize it is more important to preach about safe sex, something more people are likely to listen to and practice. According to the Bible, God doesn't want you to have sex before marriage. Marriage is not a sacrament, it is not completely required and if you have sex before hand, God will forgive, regardless of whether or not you are still with the guy years later. God is forgiving and marriage was man-made and placed into the church and bible later to keep a stronger reign over the church atendees.
Modern preachers know that God will forgive such a trivial sin and good preachers know that teaching how to prevent the spread of disease and bastard children is more important at this point in our evolution.
2007-06-24 06:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by elliecow 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
There are no loopholes in God's regulation. The bible says Adam took Eve as his spouse. In different words, the act of sexual intercourse sealed the marriage covenant. So it fairly is as we communicate. Husband and spouse are suggested to consummate the marriage while they have sexual intercourse. i will upload one fairly off subject rely theory. God on no account suggested to head to the State for a marriage license. it is not interior the bible. a marriage is between guy, woman and God, not guy, woman and the State. while human beings ask for (this is voluntary) a license to marry, they're coming up a three-way limited partnership with the State wherein the State assumes the area of "protector" of its assets. what's the State's assets? the youngsters of the marriage. And once you request (returned, this is voluntary) a delivery certificates, you properly known the State's possession of its assets (your little ones). not one hundred years in the past there have been no marriage licenses or delivery certificates. All births and marriages have been recorded interior the kin bible. yet on the grounds that we've made guy's government our new god, it would take on the area of "protector" by utilizing issuing licenses to marry and laying declare to the end results of those marriages.
2016-09-28 09:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not about being Christian... it is a morality value also present in Judaism, Islamism, etc...
depends how dedicated is the background of the couple in question... where they live, how old? and if it is important for both to save it.
For a woman being a virgin brings great praise to her, but nobody can say if a man has stayed virgin or not..and he's not expected to be; maybe so that he will know what to do on the wedding night :-)
2007-06-24 06:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by ha a 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋