My son (23) has basically turned his back on me again. He does this everytime he lends/asks for money and its time to pay me back.
I have now got fed up, I spoke to him, he swore at me.
I sent him text messages and he swore at me.
My question now am I wrong to demand payment this time.
It was a lot larger sum than what it has been in the past?
I am about ready to wash my hands off my son now... call me cold or blame me I have had my share.
2007-06-24 06:10:26 · 6 answers · asked by unity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How in the hell does a grown a$$ man ask his Mommy for money and then have a tantrum when it is time to pay it back?
I would let this be the last and final time that I lend him money? Whatever the amount, consider it the price paid for this lesson. You have paid for this lesson before, and now it has cost you more. Since you are into electronic communications with your son instead of face to face confrontations, tell him that you will not ask for the money back, you will take him to small claims court for it and let the judge decide. Also, tell him that you will no longer be his private bank, if we don't let our children fall, how will they learn to get up? I know your heart was in the right place but, we have to let them stand on their own.
Peace
2007-06-24 06:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to have him pay you pack. Your son is not baby, not a child anymore. He is a grown man now. He knows that he should pay you back , but he uses the excuse that you are his mother and should always help out w/ his money problems. Not true. Now is the time to start to stand up for yourself. If you dont want to send him to court b/c of the large sum of money you gave him then let him know this is the last time you will ever help him out w/ money. He can beg all he wants do not give in. Stay strong.
2007-06-24 20:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Erica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent should never lend money unless you have set up a lifetime discipline of paying you back. More than likely, you'll never see it. I imagine since your behavior in the past told your son that you weren't to be respected, he's just following what you taught him. Why get upset now. Don't contact him. Stop calling, stop texting. He'll be back. Next time, say no.
2007-06-24 13:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One would think that you might have learned your lesson after the first or second time he did this. No its not wrong to expect him to pay you back. The reason he's not is because your letting him take advantage of you. Time to put your foot down.
2007-06-24 13:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get that money back. If he doesn't pay you back in a certain amount of time, then add a tax sorta thing. Tell him to get a job if he doesn't have one.
2007-06-24 13:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by Al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is a frequent occurrence with him, you've every right to demand he pay you back. especially if that was the deal when he borrowed it. you may not see this money again but don't wash your hands of him just yet. just don't loan him anything either.
2007-06-24 13:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋