In getting upset about my husbands hobby....He leaves the house while I am asleep (after pulling 2 overnite shifts) to go do his hobby. I get about 2 hours of sleep, just like the day before because I have our 16 month old baby to watch. He has also and is planning another hobby related weekend. He takes off from work and spends $300-$1000 on his hobby, last time it was a event out of town, this time it is entertaining a crew of his friends at our house and providing food, beverages and refreshments for a weekend. He didn't even take a day off from work when I had our child. I work and don't EVER get to spend any money. I need work clothes but it seems we are always broke-his hobby sucked up all the money. Any suggestions?
2007-06-24 05:33:58 · 8 answers · asked by viper pilot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO!!! You are NOT being unreasonable!! Getting separate bank accounts is a good start. Lay down the law: this is his child, too, and he IS going to do his fair share toward the care of the child. With you working overnight shifts, he has to be there to deal with the baby while you sleep or you'll end up in the hospital and he'll have ALL the baby care to deal with, though that might be just. He needs to roll way back on his hobby, forget about getting another one, and focus on his family.
2007-06-24 09:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. This hobby isn't helping your relationship, and it isn't helping the fact that you have a child to raise. ...wait... i'd give you a long response, really.. but right now, i feel like you should just start making your own savings account, and make sure that you talk to him and tell him he should shape up.. err.. don't tell him about the savings account, though. The sign of the worst that's coming is when he can't afford his hobby and starts asking you for money. Don't let it go further than that. This is just wrong!! It's very selfish of him... and it's starting to sound like a dubious hobby. Ball's in your court.
2007-06-24 12:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Rogee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get seperate bank accounts for a start , why should he have all the money , and yes you are right to be upset, he should be home with you and your child on weekends , why dont you organise a weekend away just for you and leave him home with the baby , let him see how hard it is to work , keep house , and look after baby , he will soon change his mind and if he dont kick him out , so he can carry on his hobbies all by himself but with no money as you wack him with maintenace which you and the baby well deserve good luck
2007-06-24 12:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by sprookey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who pays the bills in your house?
My hubby and I both get allowances to buy our fun stuff with.
He needs to start acting like a man and take care of your child so you can get some sleep. If he wants extra money for his hobby, then he needs to start putting in more hours at work.
2007-06-24 12:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there are a couple of issues here - you're not getting help with the baby and he is not invested in the family, either in time or money.
Time for you two to have a talk about this - let him know what your feelings and needs are. It might help for you to work out a budget and maybe some scheduled time for you to get a break. Be gentle - his actions might be thoughtless rather than deliberately selfish.
2007-06-24 12:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by banana6464 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is his hobby? No matter what it is he who has his priorities directed to the wrong hobby! Since you work and make your own money, (but you can not enjoy it because mister mysterious is using it up for himself) open your own account and discover your own hobby!!!!
2007-06-24 13:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by sumayyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a talk tell him if were going to work this out you have to put our family before your hobby. Say we have no money for my uniform and tell him everything thats in your mind if he really cares he will quit or do it less often.
2007-06-24 12:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by lala 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His priorities are screwed up...family comes first. Hobbies get the left-overs.
2007-06-24 13:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋