Am I the only one...that's not too fond of overweight people?

Question

Honestly, I've been keeping my feelings inside about this, but I wonder, does anybody feel the same??? I know I'm going to get some hate for this, but I get on a crowded bus, and I see somebody about 250 pounds taking up 2 seats, and it urks the h*** out of me. (I have to stand up and suffer because you're a fat a***.) I see one of them half dressed thinking it's cute and sexy, and it's not, it's gross. (There are Lane Bryants & Ashley Stewart clothing stores everywhere for them.) When I go shopping, there are more plus-size clothes than anything else. Their selections are endless. (Come on, normal-sized people still exist!) When I go into buffet resaturant, I have to wait forever for a table, because of them going to the buffet line about 1000 times. (Have you had enough? Put the fork down and move away from the table.) Is there anybody that feels the same way about overweight people?

...By the way, I'm not skinny or anorexic. I weight 120 pounds, with all of my weight in the right places. I go out and exercise with my kids, like playing in the park or going to the beach and running around. (I'll be damned if my kids become overweight.) I know when it's time for me to move away from the table (when I'm full ommon sense). It dosen't take a rocket scientist to figure out what to to. So, whatever you have to say...bring it!

To LeaS, I never said I was perfect or everybody had to be perfect. I do have 2 girls, and I would never put my kids down. But I would put them on a diet if I see their weight going in that direction! And to everybody else: All I'm saying is there is a point when enough is enough. When you feel yourself getting bigger, nip it in the bud while you still can and do something about it beford it gets out of control. It don't take much. Take a walk after work. Cut down on butter, take a few less bites, drink more water.

And when in the hell has this become a racial issue? This is for all people, black, white, chinese, yellow, purple, whoever...

I have NOTHING to be possibly be jealous about being overweight. Let's see: Having to pay extra for clothes, being self-conscious every time you go out, being stared at, made fun of, increased risk for diabetes, heart attacks, strokes...do I have to go on? Is that something to be jealous about? and to Jess, there is a such thing is a typo, but I guess you wouldn't know nothing about that since you think you're perfect already, right? I'm college educated, and since you didn't bother to ask, bit**, that makes you the STUPID one!

Answer 1

ok first off...i want to say that i am fat and that i COMPLETELY agree with you.....i don't know what these people are talking about when they say you're a racist....what does that have to do with this question?

my dad hates my friends because their fat....he is in the same boat as you....i was a skinny girl when i was little but my mom was a bully and i started overeating because of her.....i want to tell you that all those fat people that tell you that you're wrong are absurd because as a fat person i'm telling you that fat people are LAZY people....i don't like my fat self....and i am losing weight because i realized that i need to get rid of this demon taking hold of me once and for all.....

bless you for asking this question because it's about time someone did......im sixteen and i have my whole life ahead of me and i don't have the right to make excuses and mutilate the gift god has given me......

i don't hate my fat friends, i just hate when they eat fries everyday and wonder why their fat!

i don't know what else to say except that i have lost all compassion for fat people...i watch dr. phil and every monday, he has an experiment called the house of hatred and there is a morbidly obese person featured there that hates skinny people and makes excuses and says he can't lose the weight....that's what makes me mad about fat people.......

so to all the fat cows out there....i know how you feel....so GET OVER IT......the fact that they're fat is because they know someone is feeling sorry for them and they have a right to be treated with respect as any other person....

you know how the smoking ban is put in place and eliminates smokers from public places....and how they're complaining....well.....i think they should do that will fat people....and ban them from places where they serve food....i know that's impossible.....but it's my analogy....fat people don't realize they're commiting a crime against themselves, that they're abuse food .... drugging themselves and wonder why people hate them...why healthy people don't hold on the same level of esteem...would you respect a crackhead as you would a healthy person....no you wouldn't.........

i understand you're feelings and i feel you are absolutely right.....hope i wasn't TOO harsh:)

Answer 2

I think it's silly that you're judging all overweight people by the few that you've come in contact with.

I see that you have a point. It can be annoying when ANYONE is inconsiderate of others.

I am overweight. But when I'm at a buffet (which I try to avoid. I think buffets are sick) and there are lots of people there, I eat quickly and get out of the way. And, I'd like to mention, usually I only eat about one plate worth of food. I find it harder to find plus-sized clothing, especially any clothing with style that's reasonably priced (I mean, being overweight doesn't inject a chemical into your brain that makes you want to wear flowers). It is disgusting when ANYONE has flesh hanging out all over the place, but especially overweight people.

You are wrong to think that "fat" people have low self esteem, live to stuff their faces, and are not "normal".

So, while you have a valid point, especially since this was possibly just a rant (I'll give you the benefit of the doubt), your question was rude, and should have been posed in a different way.

Answer 3

Yikes in the language I'm fond of that fact that I don't have to be formal to be understood,,, well sometimes I do I guess, but if this wasn't just about language I'm fond of lots of stuff. Um maybe not so much fond of dangling participles. that sounds like sexually rude. Are prepositions anything akin to propositions? Um, I preface a lot of what I say with "Um" does that count? Is a prefix, like a correction before the fact knowin yer gonna make a mistake?

Answer 4

First, what are you teaching your children, aside from maintain a healthy weight? You're teaching them intolerance and hate.
Second, for some people it's not so easy as just pushing yourself away from the table, they never feel completely full, People overeat for so many reasons. Instead of thinking the negative thoughts, try training your mind to think tolerance and perhaps you can help. Being overweight doesn't mean that people are weak, it usually means that they have some problems. Just like you, who has intolerance for a public epidemic. That is why there are an increasing number of plus sized clothing out there, because there is a growing demand.
Take a community course in nutrition, and find somewhere you can volunteer, that will allow you to be in contact with "fat" people, in a service environment. Hear THEIR stories, help them find the perspective you preach so well. Help them get to doctors appointments, to get exercise like you do with your children. Exercise can be painful, and is much easier when you're having fun.
Turn you attitude around, at least try to. Tolerance to different peoples needs and excesses teaches children to be wonderfully caring people. Not children who are raised to be concerned with weight, not that you're teaching them blatant hate... BUT what if you're also teaching them fear ??

Answer 5

Not every overweight person is the same with the same problems/issues. I know many overweight people that eat salads & watch their fats & dont eat anymore than thin people. Then I've met overweight people that they dont eat as much as thin people but they eat the wrong things. Some people were born with it & its a medical problem that hasnt anything to do with food. Also, I was a size 6 when my 2nd child was 8 mos. old but when i started the "Depo Provera" shot (birth control), soon after, the weight started collecting & i always watched what i eat & excersised. Now im a size 12 to 14 (USA jeans) and i hate the way i feel. BUT I thank GOD for what i have.
Sometimes i would like to give some tips for some overweight people about "what not to wear" because it makes them look bad. OVERWEIGHT PEOPLE SHOULD NOT WEAR TIGHT CLOTHES. I been in the same situation on the bus too but I accepted it & forgotten about it because i dont know their story or medical history. Its none of my business either.
OH, You could be missing out on the best friend of your life.

Yahoo avatars dont have much choices in larger size clothing or for muslims at all.

I also dont like it when many thin people wear really short cut off shorts and shirts that make it look like their boobs are about to jump out of the shirt or wearing low cut jeans that are TOOOO low that show their crack or thong. ITs just distastefull. Sure i wish i was thin again but I would never dressed s**ty. (i wasnt assuming that you were dressing like this and i was not saying that you are a s**t. I was just making a statement about many thin people.) Oh, and i know that there are overweight people that are sluts too. I've met a few. AND you cant judge a person by looking at them. Just like you cant judge a person by their color. There are all kinds of people out there that are different inside and out
I also really agree with "Katharine D"

Answer 6

It was when the airlines started charging people for taking up two seats that I became aware the there really was a problem with people being overweight out there. Then, of course, Oprah and Dr. Phil and other tv shows brought it to mind how overweight people "can" be. Lots of us went to the weightwatchers sight to see if we were overweight or not.
There used to be legal secretary jobs wherein lots of way overweight people used to have because they needed work but also because they weren't out in the public, but other jobs I've known where there were lots of salespeople and they don't hire overweight people. I kinda wondered if they started those jobs slim and gained the weight because of the stress they had on those jobs.

Answer 7

Your reaction is not uncommon (even the people knocking you have had that reaction whether they will admit it or not) But left unchecked, your frustration could get out of hand and turn into discrimination. You should re-route your thoughts into compassion. When you see an overweight person, instead of getting angry, think of all the reasons why that person's unhappiness or genes or medical problems might have caused them to be that way and remember that not everyone is good at "just getting over their problems." Consider the fact that maybe they are on the bus to go to a gym or a nutritionist or a therapist to help them get their life in order. Every time you see an obese person and have a negative gut reaction, ask yourself "how can I change something about me for the better?"

It takes a lot of energy to be angry all the time, and since there will always be obese people, you are setting yourself up to be angry all the time. By redirecting your thoughts and focusing more on how to better yourself, you will eventually let go of your frustration and be a happier person.

Answer 8

I don't think people instantly feel so angry against overweight people. I just wonder, what if one of your kids happens to get a thyroid problem that you don't know about. Will you harrass your kid to lose weight and put him or her down until their self-esteem is really low? Or what about in the future when (if you have a girl) she has trouble losing the last 20lbs from a pregnancy, will her excess weight sicken you? I know you are talking more the extreme overweight people, but what if their problem started with a concerned mother trying to make sure her children aren't fat. There is nothing wrong with being healthy and aware of your weight, but to hate someone for todays fast food results and food additives isn't the answer.

Answer 9

I am an overweight woman and the only thing you said that "irks the hell out of me" is that you really think that plus-size women have more fashion options than slender women. I don't know where you shop but I've always had trouble finding a variety of chothing choices especially since I do wear clothing that fits properly so that nothing unflattering hangs out for the world to see. You can go to any clothing store that sells plus-size and misses clothes and I guarantee that the misses department is 3 times larger than the plus-size department. I feel than anyone who goes out half dressed is disgusting and gross regardless of the body type.

Answer 10

That's a rather rude thing to say. I know it's your opinion, but maybe there's a reason they're obese. You don't know them, and by the way you're talking (no offense, my good lady) I don't think they would want to get to know you. Like the wonderful lady a few posts above me said, try being compassionate instead of angry. Maybe there's way more to their life story then you could ever imagine. I am one who struggles with being overweight (and I'm not afraid to admit it), but I'm trying to lose it and become a better person. You may be skinny, but with the way you're acting right now (again, no offense, Madam) you have no manners. I may be obese, but at least I'm trying to be civil. People might think the same way about really skinny people. That they look "gross" and they need to eat. Neither is healthy, but that's the way America is. We're not perfect, so we shouldn't be acting like we are. I'm sorry if I have completely offended you, but I'm showing you the hard truth.