I have been attracted to other woman since I was 12. I became a Christian when I was in my early 20's. I have desperately been trying to live a life pleasing to God, by not practicing ****-sexuality, even though I am very attracted to woman. I'm out to close friends who seem to accept me well enough, as long as I don't act on my same-sex attractions. Problem is most of my friends are married now and I find myself becoming very lonely and depessed. I want to follow God and do the right thing, but I am heading into my 40's alone, single and lonely. My friends are all busy with their familes. What should I do?
2007-06-24 04:30:06 · 14 answers · asked by gaybluechristian 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You can't live in sin and expect God to be in your heart. God doesn't coexist with sin, so you either have your gay lifestyle or your have Christ.
It says in the bible its wrong, I'm not going to preach to you about it.
If you truely want Christ to rule your life, you have to leave your sin. Ask forgiveness, ask Christ to come into your heart.
Don't base your happyness on being married or finding a partner, your happyness is found in Christ alone.
2007-06-24 04:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mulereiner 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
First, the bible is a book written by men a long time ago. If there is a god out there the bible is not his words.
Secondly, if you insist on following it, where does it say a woman can not be with another woman? Man with man, yes, but nothing about women. Maybe a technicality, but there have been church doctrines built on less.
You are who you are. Either through the random fluctuations of the universe, or God made you that way. Either way why do you want to be so unhappy?
Go out and meet some nice women, you are not alone. If your friends can not accept you for who you are, then are they truly your friends?
Either that, or God just gave you a carpy life to see what you would do. And you want to worship that sort of a god?
2007-06-24 11:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Simon T 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that is really sad. i'm not a christian and i dont see anything wrong with being attracted to the same sex. if there is a god, why would he sentence you to a life of lonliness? i would accept you as you are, if there is a god why wouldn't he? i believe this life is all we have, and it's high time you start living. i hope you find the love you deserve.
2007-06-24 11:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by amanda c 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This God is no good to you.
All that Christians will do is tell you that what you are is wrong and terrible, and that God will save you. If God's done nothing after 25 years of prayer, it's obvious that he wants you to be how you are.
No one else can tell you how you should be. If you truly think that God created you, then God created you this way and would not be disgusted by you at all.
You can follow your heart and follow your soul at once, and if God is truly such a pig that he demands you go against your own nature, than forget about God. With preachers molesting their altar boys and the highest levels of religion writhing with corruption, do you really think they should be telling you that you are wrong?
No matter what causes homosexuality, there is nothing wrong with it. Only a fool would demand you change because it disgusts them.
2007-06-24 11:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Akira M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that you are struggling with these feelings. The answers have to come from you. I am not gay, or a believer. I understand you not wanting to "cross the line", so maybe just a close platonic relationship could be fulfilling. There has to be SOMEONE going through the same feelings you are. Best of luck to you.
2007-06-24 11:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would pray to God and ask him to give you an answer. Not all religions feel that homosexuality is wrong, you have to do what is right for you and feels natural as a person. Life is too short not to live as who you really are. As long as you aren't harming someone else or trying to force your beliefs on someone else I do not see the harm.
2007-06-24 11:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself this. Would god want you to suffer unnecessarily? If he gave you these feelings then I say go for it. Be true to yourself. If you aren't honest about these feelings, it makes me wonder what other parts of yourself you have repressed simply because you have been told to?
I can't believe in any god that would force people to live lonely unhappy lives because they have the urges to be with the same gender and not with the opposite one.
2007-06-24 11:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by c i 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
God loves you and accepts you the way you are. Now, you must seek a path where you love yourself the way God made you as much as He loves you. If you are good enough for God, you're good enough for everyone else.
2007-06-24 11:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
See how good religon is,It makes everyone feel happy and wanted.
This is just wrong your own people have made you hate life and your self.There are some churches that accept homosexuals, go to one and be your self. rember Jesus said nothing about being gay.
2007-06-24 11:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, I would like to encourage you in your efforts, it must be a great struggle to live in Christ. keep strong!
I don't know, and you don't know if you'll ever be attracted to a man, and ever get married, but it is a possibility.
In the meanwhile, I suggest you go out and volunteer, get involved in church, in your community, sponsor a kid from another country and keep in touch with them, volunteer at the animal shelter, at the local old folk's home... you'll be touching many lives, you'll have a nontraditional, but still important, family.
blessings in your walk, keep praying.
2007-06-24 11:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by Christian in Kuwait 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋