My dad is kicking me out of my home, help!?

Question

I had an argument yesteday with my dad when he told me to vacumm a hallway. when I pulled out the vacumm a huge object fell on my foot and it hurt so I cussed. My dad yelled at me for swearing. The vacuum wasn’t working and so I clicked the button several times to get it to turn on. I dropped it on the floor and went back to the couch. My dad was pissed and yelled at me because I left the vacuum on the floor he was annoyed that I clicked it several times. this morning I woke up on the wrong side of the bed because little kids were making tons of noise to wake me up. I went to the kitchen to get breakfast and my dad’s girlfriend Donna burst into the kitchen and grounded me because I didn’t clean the fridge last night. I misunderstood her and thougt that I was supposed to clean it this morning. I told her this and she didn’t believe me so she said that I was grounded and couldn’t leave the house. I was having a shitty morning and I didn’t need Donna’s nagging so I yelled to her that I didn’t need this stress that she is putting on me. she pinned me against the wall and clawed my arms. I kicked her away and ran out onto the porch. We argued and she smacked me in the head so I kicked her and the fight was on. She called my dad and he came back and told me to pack my stuff and he’s bringing me to a foster home. I have gotten into a few arugements with my dad and Donna in the past because of me not listening to them the first time but my behaviour has been improving over the year. I am a senior next year and a good student. I want to go to college and get a degree in science.

Answer 1

First of all that B*** Donna needs to keep her hands off of you. I am sorry your having such a hard time, I take it your mom is out of the picture for what ever reasons. Perhaps you can live with a relative that is less inclined to be so unyeilding to the growing pains of a teenager. My daughter is living with my father because she callenged me, and it took the one time for me to see she and I needed space. Your father can threaten you he want to put you in foster home, but if he does he will have to realize that Donna will be brought up on child abuse charges, show the authorities you arms! I dont' want to speak ill of your father but he really needs to get his head out of Donnas a** and take notice that his Young Lady is growing up and needs his support. Good luck Darling...keep in touch. I will do what ever I can to see that you do get to college!

Answer 2

First off nobody should be hitting anybody most likely your dad and this Donna have communication issues with you. I thing that you should see if you have a relative that you could stay with instead of getting throw into a foster system. I think that your dad and Donna to not have clear expectations and they can not communicate what they want you to help with around the house. Maybe you guys can start a system where they write down the things that they want you to do during the day and if the things are not done buy the end of the day the consequence. I hope you do go to school . Good Luck!

Answer 3

I'm wondering where's your Mother? If possible see if you can stay with your mother, or your grandmother , or an aunt since it's obvious that you and your step mom don't get along too well. If not ask your Dad to reconsider and tell him of your plans to be on a state college campus in the Fall of 08.
Stay focused and get that scholarship so that you can live on a college campus. Start looking for schools and financial aid that won't cost you an arm and a leg. Campus life will be good for you because you obviously know what to do....it's just the situation that you are in right now is a problem. Regardless of where you live, tell your dad that you are sorry for the misunderstanding. Your stepmothers reaction was a form of child abuse! So even if you do have to go to foster care...stay focused on getting into college and not being angry! You are a senior this year, you still need to maintain top grades to get into State U and be eligible to stay on campus! But, once you get there, stay focused on your grades and don't go thru the Freshmen slump! Much love to you!

Answer 4

The word for today is...
dysfunctional

Your father can take you to the foster home, but they won't keep you. You can't throw away your children. He will be the one that will have to answer for trying to throw you away. I'm sure that his new wife won't like him spending all of her money on lawyers just to get rid of you.

So, don't fret my pet.

We all have rotten mornings and days and nights. Hell, some of us have rotten lives. Try to be nice to the step-monster, I mean stepmother. I know that you did not misinterpret clean the fridge as do it in the morning. I also know that when a bad day starts it just seems to get worse. Just hang in there and if you can make yourself scarce during these summer months, do so. Volunteer, or get a job, just don't hang around where you can become a target for this crazy woman. Just remember that her anger towards you is really her own insecurity of her place in your father's life. You are, after all, a reminder that another woman was his first choice. So, like I said, be nice and gooey sweet to the step-monster.
Peace

Answer 5

It's not clear what you are asking. If you don't want to go to the foster home, then what you need to do is talk to your dad and his girlfriend. You need to be calm and not jump to react to everything they say. They are providing a home for you even if it's not what you would pick for yourself. You have to accept that they have rules and boundaries that they determine, not you.

You have a lot of control over how you are treated simply by thinking ahead and doing what you are asked. With the vacuum, you did make a poor choice there - leaving it in the hallway and plopping back on the couch. You probably know what you should have done was let your dad know that it wasn't working properly. Then he could have addressed that. It would have eased a lot of tension.

You are smart girl. Simmer down with the attitude that I know comes naturally. But if you want to stay there you will need to be responsible.

Answer 6

Do you have other relatives with whom you can stay?

Can you talk to Donna and your dad when everyone has calmed down? Let's face it . . . you only have one more year to go and then you can go off to college.

In the meantime, they are supporting you, giving you a place to live. Yes, that means you have to listen to them . . . not yell at them. Yes, that means they can expect you to do chores around the house.

You may just have to apologize and then tough it out for a year. I really don't think that vacuuming and cleaning out the fridge are too much to expect from a senior in high school. You live in the house, you should help keep it clean.

Good luck to you. I hope you can work it out without going to foster care.

Answer 7

You have been abused and if he drops you off let them know what going on.You have a right not to be abused in any way.You were not able to vacuum,you misunderstood what Donna said. Ok that happens,however her actions were wrong and so was your father's. If he will not listen or acknowledge your statements or facts leave. But first tell him how you feel and what happened.Maybe you need to stay with mom,grands or aunt.Anywhere where you can give respect and receive it in turn. Yes life is not fair but that does not mean we should accept being mistreated.

Answer 8

sound like you have a very interesting life i feel as if your dad is putting Donna before you well I'm in foster care nd understand stand were you are coming from but when Donna hit you you should have went and told your dad an if that didn't help you should have call the cops well try talkin to them tellin them how you fell good luck;)

Answer 9

Let me get this straight. Your Dad's girlfriend assaulted you first? Does this happen often? You need to call the police immediately. The best place for you is out of that house. Your Dad is doing you a favor. I'm so sorry you're going through this. do not put up with physical abuse and try not to strike back. Where's your mom?

Answer 10

Young man wait unto every one comes down Number one wrong thing to do never argument with your father listen to him and hear your father out it sound like though the years you this respect your father by talking back because you feel you no more them your father do, that a no no if there some you don't understand as your step motheir ,is ther anything you want me to do today? she problem feel you don't like her because she trying to take the place of your mother. and swearing is a sign of disrespect, when the vac fall it could had broking you should have told your father dad when I open the door the vac fall on my foot I try to click the vac on but it doe sing work , it sound like their misunderstanding you all need to sit down and talk, young man some time our parent could be wrong , future tell him hey dad you remember when you said this are that, you were wrong about.it and he might said your right I was upset about something and I'm sorry son .never try to win argument just sit and listen cross your leg and went they finish ask your father are step mother may I step our , talk walk it give you time to think before you act .because when you do are say something you can't take it back it call controlling your self