Parental issues..?

Question

My parents seperated 2 years ago. My dad moved out. I stayed with my dad a couple of times a week, until one night he felt something was wrong so he drove to mum's house and she wasn't there. She was at another man's house who she'd known for a short time. My dad was terribly upset from then on. He'd ring if i was at her house almost in tears, it was horrible. Mind you, my parents were just split, not divorced. I still thought they were together. So through this awful patch, she was seeing this man and is still seeing him today. 6months ago she told me she was moving into his house and there was pretty much nothing I could do. So I moved in with my dad, hating mum and her "boyfriend". Now she acts all soppy around me and says she misses me, but when I lived with her she'd always be on the phone to her boyfriend and always screamed at me for everything. I am still so bitter towards my mum and her boyfriend now, but she wants at her house more often, which I hate. What do I do!? Plz help

ok sorry to make it such a subtle question. I will answer some of your questions: I am 15 years old. I do not really have a very good relationship with my mother. I am now just constantly bitter to her, she's also a very angry person, but turns into a childish attitude occaisionally, which makes me think she has a possible psychological problem? I think this is because she was physically abused as a child. She was in such a hateful environment. Also, my father is great, but he's no mother. He can also have some anger outbursts, but I say this is from the pain he has inside. He loved my mum so much, but I doubt she ever loved him. They were married for 10 years (I was 2 when they married) and I never saw any affection. My mother was living below the poverty line when she met my financially stable father, so go figure, I guess...

I just feel so torn...It's not very nice living with one parent, truly. Actually it's awful. Thank you for your help, though.

Answer 1

I am not sure what you are asking here hun? I mean if you are living with your Dad and he is treating you right, then what are you worried about? Your Mum? Don't be worried about her, she seems happy and content, and although she is missing you---she isn't missing you enough or is wanting you around enough to pick her child over her boyfriend. For now simply enjoy your dad, visit your mom when she makes the effort. When she says she misses you, let her know that she is missing you--BECAUSE of the choices and decisions that she made, and that you won't be guilted into living with her.

Good Luck hun, I am sorry that you have had to deal with the parents problems and that you are stuck in the middle of this. It will get better. You are a good person and remember that it will be ok.

Answer 2

how old are you? that must be really hard. you didnt mention if you and your mother had a good relationship BEFORE the seperation or your parents, but if you did then i am sure that makes it that much harder. it is great to see that you get along with your father, and i hope you know that you are very lucky. it seems like he is a great dad. i think that he needs you to be with him as often as possible because you are all he has. and if you dont want to be with your mom, do be with your mom!

my parents are divorced and i dont like going to my dads house. when i told my mom she brought it to court and made it so that i only am with him two times a week and i am allowed to call my mom at any time and ask her to pick me up. its been working great for me, maybe you can ask your dad to do the same thing?

i really hope everything works out for yuo.

Answer 3

If you are not comfortable and being loved by your mom, stay away from her. She left you and your dad for the sake of her
"boyfriend". If she is genuinely interested in you let her decide to leave her boy friend for good and come and stay with you. Till she makes up her mind, you stay where ever you are or move with your dad. He needs you emotionally
savithri

Answer 4

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Answer 5

your parents split up, your mom moved on
dont hate her for that
your DAD needs to do the same...

Answer 6

Hmmmm.That's something you don't see every day.Don't panic.I'm sure your parents will get along and everything will be OK.