Have you noticed that alot of men want the 'benefits' of a relationship?

Question

...but they are not willing to put in what it takes to MAKE a relationship???!!
I think they should go for casual sex.... but they say they 'want more than that'

CAN I JUST ADD THAT I DO LOOK BEFORE I LEAP!!!
THAT IS WHY I DO NOT GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM AND DEF DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH THEM! IF THAT WAS WHAT I WANTED FINE - BUT OBVIOUSLY I WANT MORE THAN THAT MYSELF

Answer 1

I've noticed that alot of women are more than willing to give men the benefits of a relationship without expecting a real committment.

It takes two to tango.

Answer 2

What a man says and what he does are two different things. If you want a real relationship, the man will spend time with you. You will go places together and enjoy conversatons as well as just being together. If his idea of a relationship is getting fast food and hopping into bed, it is not a relationship. Casual sex is casual sex. When a guy tells you "he wants more than that" what he is saying is what you want to hear. It works well for lots of guys. You deserve better.

Answer 3

Huh ? I have never cheated on my wife, but right now, if I were to cheat, I would tell my date exactly what I am looking for. Right now, since I am married, I would be the ###hole looking for a one night stand, or a fling in the parking lot, or just a casual wham bam thank you ma'am. When I get my divorce (that has not happened yet) I will not be ready for a relationship, maybe for years to come. But I will want a girlfriend with benefits. Or a roommate with benefits. Or a maid, with benefits.

Currently, I have been in a living hell ! Read my bio. I have done everything I can do to save my marriage, yet my wife has betrayed me on many different levels. Divorce is inament. I

So I am a good guy with baggage that needs to be put on United Airlines so they can lose it. I want very much to have a loving relationship, with a future. But I have kids and a sick wife. But right now, and to be blunt, a b___job would do ! And if your still in bed with me in the morning, then we'll talk!!!

Answer 4

I see some very sexist answers and want to disagree... Some guys might be like that but not all. In fact a lot of the guys aren't like that. At least I wasn't like that and i worked hard for my relationship... I think the best thing to do is try meeting people that are more decent.. not someone who only likes to have you for sex. And if you don't like that in the first place why don't you just say no in the first place?

Answer 5

Yes, many men do seem to enjoy the physical benefits of a relationship as oppose to the commitment aspect of it all. For some reason, their lower halfs mean much more to them than someone who will give them the love and respect that--at least, I would think--most people would long for. It's quite sad.

Answer 6

YES!

All the guys I ever wanted to get in a relationship with wanted just the benefits. How selfish! Some said it straight out but they usually beat around the bush..

Answer 7

some guys are like that, same as some girls are. but if you look in the right places, you will find guys that WANT to build a strong relationship where the "benefits" are to the side, the not main part

Answer 8

casual sex!!!! good lord is there anything worse than being told honey lets have sex but only causal sex cause i dont love u that much.....sex is a way for a guy to express himself...guys are just more forward about it than girls...i believe causal sex is the fall of all relationships...always have passionate sex..always...if ur not feeling it make him wait...its better than being bored in bed
--hav fun

Answer 9

I want both, and the girl will give it to me, usually within around 7 hours of connecting with her (time is accumulated through meeting a girl, time apart does not count). You will give in to the guy who is either a jerk or a so called "Pick-up artist" simply because hes 10x better than any other guy out there. This applies to even if you know that hes a pickup artist or a jerk. He knows he is, but he still gets you into bed.

Which girl wakes up and wishes she doesn't want to be swept off her feet? (good line from Hitch)
understand this, if you actually fall in love with a person, you will have sex with the guy.

rest assured though. if you date one of them nice guys, you choose the time when they get to have sex, (or the benefits so to speak). A jerk will have gotten you to sex within a month's worth time meanwhile the nice guys takes months and even years to get it once.

Flame me for this, but you will come to understand once you have dated all three types of guys. But let me tell you this, don't give me thumbs down when you clearly haven't been with all three types of guys yet.



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Answer 10

i dont see any benefits b/c the only boy i`ve been w/ which im still with thinks sex is wrong before marriage and he cares so much about me so really i dont see when one of us is benefiting more we both love each other and dont get more attention then the other so sorry!