I feel she led him on.Since that time I can do nothing with him. The parents of the girl knew they had sex and failed to inform me. They have condoned the sexual relationship and encouraged it by allowing my son to stay at there house despite my very serious objections. I looked at his computer and it is filled with sexual messages between him and the girl. Please tell me how I stop this. Can I bring charges against the girls parents?
2007-06-24 04:04:24 · 5 answers · asked by Tapsy 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Probably nothing you can do to the parents but you can go to court and attempt to get a no contact order for the girl and her family.
2007-06-24 04:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by ASmiles1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK I just got done reading the first part of your question, and the only thing I can tell you is the truth, firstly you are wrong trying to buy him thing's and trying to make deals with him which ofcourse he's going to break, he is at a very vulnerable age and it is wrong what is going on between him and the girl, obviuousley she is something different in your son's life, he is infatuated with the wilder side of life, and he's so young, you are the PARENT you have to be the law maker and stop appeasing your son, ofcourse he is not able to keep promises he makes because he is in love, lol, yeh I know it sounds crazy, but when your child falls in love it is so very difficult to keep them on the straight and narrow, look you have to take control and ground his @$$ until he comes to his senses and understands that it's against the law what he is doing, also cut the wires from the computer if need be, ( I don't agree with hitting I am dead against it< you have to keep talking and work your way through this) so ground him and take advantage of the time and talk to him and most of all LISTEN to him, and the girl and her family? report them to the child protection agency, report this behaviour to anyone in authority who will listen, BAN them completely from your son's life ASAP before she get's pregnant probably the mother encourages this behaviour in order for her to get more welfare money to either gamble or snort, this family sounds like complete trash and you must do everything in your power to save your son the nightmare of having to drop out school and work to pay for a baby, when he's just a baby himself, and who knows if she does get pregnant, who the real dad would be, it is wrong what is going on and you have to nip it right in the bud. Good Luck.
2007-06-24 11:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by ~Celtic~Saltire~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your legal options are, but fighting against this girl is going to get you nowhere really fast. You need to step back and pick your battle carefully right now. What is more important in the long run...your son's education and being at home where he belongs or seeing this girl? Face it, young love/lust doesn't last long (normally) and the relationship will run it's course sooner or latter. If you continue to fight and scream and rail against the girl you will only drive him on and make it more important to him to continue to stay with her. If you take the approach that he can follow his heart as long as he takes precautions against STD's and pregnancy....and you don't want in your home or see nasty emails....He has to attend school daily and maintain his grades. He has to be a contributing member of the family (does his chores). He has to follow the house rules and be in by curfew etc. You can turn a blind eye on what he does with his girl friend. Face it, the deed is done and you can't change that, you have to work with what you have....Maybe family counseling would help....This is a difficult situation and I feel for you & family...Stay strong & hang in there!! Good luck.
2007-06-24 11:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not for sure how old they are, but if they are doing that, you can't always keep them from it even if you bring charges on them. It would just make your kid hate you. If a kid wants to have sex they will find a way. Trust me. Nothing you do is really going to help unless you keep your kid on a leash and don't let him do nothing. This is what all kids do. Just be happy he ins't a girl, so you don't have to worry about her coming home and saying i am pregnant. Just talk to your kids. That works a lot better. He wouldn't hate you as much. Commmunicate to each of them, the other parents the girl and the boy.
2007-06-24 11:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by TTC#2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually if your son leaves again you can report him to the police as a runaway. Then if the parents allow him to stay there they are contributing to the delinquency of a minor.
2007-06-24 11:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by Charles C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋