Cheated, Lied, And Cried....Now she wants me back?

Question

Weve been together for 3.5 years and have a daughter together. Weve broken up twice in the past 6 months because of HER cheating and lying. She cried her eyes out and I came back again for the third time. She has assured me she wants to be with me and that it took her this time to realize that...but regardless Im still paranoid and worried that it will happen again. She doesnt act very happy with us all the time and gets annoyed by me asking soo many questions and being paranoid. I never used to be like this...but since shes cheated and stuff Im very worried but i love her soo much and want badly for things to work out. Ive told her that if she thinks shes going to so it again or if she isnt happy to just tell me so we can save ourselves the trouble of being hurt again and wasting our time. She said this is what she wants and she is happy but actions speak louder than words.

Answer 1

Seems like red flags are flying up all around this woman and you just keep ignoring them... then to make it worse you had a child with her??

This is what dating and not sleeping together before marriage is all about. Then you don't bring innocent children into relationships when you aren't even sure if the other is the one.

Now you have a real mess. You want to believe her, but you are right, actions speak louder than words and hers are screaming run!

Instead of just taking her back... you need to set some conditions. Counseling for her.. some things for her to show she is trying to make progress and become a better person. No progress.... it's over.

Answer 2

You 2 do NOT need to be together. When a couple is working, they bring out the BEST in each other. It seems you 2 only bring out the worst. This woman has broken your trust 1 too many times sweetheart. It would be nice to think you could be this lovely, happy couple raising your child together. It's a nice dream but that's all it is. The dream has been shattered and now you need to move on....find happiness with someone else who will treat you the way you deserve. Also, it's horrible for a child to see all this. Is this REALLY what you want your children growing up seeing? They will model their own r'ships after you two and that isn't healthy.

Answer 3

Oh gosh, I have a sister like this and she always gets the nicest men. Everyone in her life is her caregiver including her children which she doesn't take any responsibility for at all.

You have to have some kind of masochistic tendencies to be with a woman like that. A mean spirit is never happy. There is no trust and there is no point. Please get out of this cycle now. You can spend your entire life being this miserable and it gets even worse. She will find another one without skipping a beat. She will never grow up until or unless she faces consequences. My sister never has. She's had two boyfriends and two husbands commit suicide. She is very well off from being a black widow. I'm sickened by how many take her back for more. GET OUT! If you can not do anything for yourself, because you have no self, do it for your daughter. It's already going to be perfect hell for her.

Answer 4

then don't go back with her. Show your the man and find someone else and take a break for awhile. Tell her you ment alot at one time but don't love her anymore. If she cheats more than once then its like she goes back to you to be comforted. thats how it is. I cheated once and knew my mistake. and well we are friends now but I had to end it because I knew I would hurt him never telling him I cheated. At least she admits it, but doing that more than once and always acting sad well she needs some counseling so she can get help. It would be best for her. tell her that. she is very depressed because of what she did. but she will tell everyone different about the whole cheating thing. and make it sound like your the loser. Don't let her get to you. well good luck. I know how that stuff is but I don't have a kid. I know how that feels though dude. but its time to move on. forgive love and be you though

Answer 5

I personally feel she is not worth it. For example, do you really know how many guys she slept with when she cheated on you? When making love to her, doesn't it bother you to even think she was doing this to some other guy when she is suppose to be faithful to you. 3 Times she has done this, and you have forgiven her, she does not deserve you. Maybe she does the cheating cause she knows you will forgive her all the time. Just remember this, "Once a cheater, always a cheater". Good luck brother.

Answer 6

if she's cheated on you more than once, then their really isn't any way to tell if she's capabale of being faithful. When she cheated on you the first time, she realized she made a mistake and so therefore, she learned from it. When she did it the second time, it was no longer a mistake because she knew exactly what she was doing and the consequences of her actions and what the results would be from doing so. I'd say she was not thinking of anyone else but herself and her selfish desires at the moment. I'd leave her because I wouldn't want to always worry in the back of my mind if she was still cheating on me or not.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

first of all it dont matter if she is crying,put her lying *** to the curb.if she has lied,cheated and cried thin she is a lying whore.i am srry but ts true.u cant always go back to her if shes crying,that mean u are a push-over man.that means,this girl has u in the palm of her hand and she can crush u over,and thin rebuild u.u need to stand ur ground and say u are NOT getting back together for the fourth time.

Answer 9

You are looking for validation to leave her. I'm going to give it to you. You have been down this road many times with her. Sadly, she is the mother of your daughter so you will have to deal with her the rest of your life. Move on. She is not going to change. She is one of those people that is sad they got caught cheating, not sad they were cheating. You deserve a girlfriend that will love and respect you. This girl doesn't.

Answer 10

Don't you learn, she has done it 3 times are you waiting for the 4 time? Leave her, she will just carry on hurting you, she doesn't love you she is just use to you always being there and always taking her back, no matter what she has done.