I supposed to be seeing a guy but he is only out for one thing. He phoned me at 4 o'clock yesterday afternoon and I was at my parents so I'd left my phone upstairs. I him back as I missed that call. He text me back asking if I was sleeping at my parents or if I'd come visit him and sleep there. As I have to clean the room out for my sis anyway as I have officially got a place of my own I decided to stop at my moms. Besides He would only be getting what he wanted when he wanted if I said yes. He knows I want a relationship and I've tried asking him where I stand. he tries to bypass the question. It feels like one big game as we dont really text and call each other that often. Im trying to play hard to get. but he seems only intrested in one thing.
Come on now guys You ain't all after one thing are you? I had A use me for money, sex,and space. Where is mr suite me.
2007-06-24 03:52:08 · 26 answers · asked by Hybrid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have hope you guys arn't all the same. Ijust ain't met one really good nice guy for me yet. And I'd love to have a family before I'm thirty. Im 27 now Not too sure its going to happen until I wipe my past men from my mind completely the lot of them are losers. I keep saying thank you god for the beautiful flat that Ive just rented from housing association these men couldn't do any better.. LOL.
2007-06-24 04:08:10 · update #1
tell him to romance you and treat you good or NO nookie. don't let him use you. If you are looking to settle down them finish with him if he rejects the 1st idea.
2007-07-01 13:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by bluebinjulie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in a situation where I really liked this guy but he was just using me - you know not hearing from him for at least 2 weeks sometimes longer and then Id get a text or a call or a visit from him - but I liked him so much and he made me feel great and sexy when I was with him. Then I decided I deserved better so I told him I wanted my things back and I may see him again sometime with no intention to. There are good guys out there - 2 weeks later I met my husband we have been together 5 years and married for 2 1/2 years.
2007-06-30 17:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by cj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are like that of course. From what I've seen in my lifetime is that a lot of women look for relationships in all the wrong places. I would always hear them saying "oh why can't I find a good guy?" or something to the sort. Then they see a guy they think is cute and get swept away in the cycle once more. Remember that the foundation for a strong relationship is friendship. That's the most important thing.
2007-07-02 05:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by zxdmedgexz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a dating service if that's what you are looking for. Though you will probably find a lot of the same. Sex is better for men apparently.
If you don't find a good one, & still want a child, try a sperm donor at least they are useful for that. Men are only neccesary for companionship & sex to us too in the civilzed world. Humanity can survive without men but not without women. And sometimes having two parents gives conflicting views & can do more harm than good especially if you have an imoral man in the mix. Sadly it's usually men that cause many of the problems in this world. The uncivilized world run by men & just look how that's going, murder left right & centre. Though women are not perfect, abortion is a testimony to that.
ps a lot of the good ones are already taken & being good fathers to their children. From experience a lot of the decent ones are also a bit shye. Mens expectations are also a lot higher these days, thanks to the media shoveling images of stick thin skimpy often airbrushed models, who look about 12 with breast implants, down their throats.
2007-06-24 14:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by Claire P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its pretty obvious all he wants is a sexual convienance. Its best to stop dealing with him because he is making it very clear that he is not interested in making you his official GF. With men like this is just best to move on from them and let some other female who dont mind being used as a sexual toy deal with him. Don't stick around with this one. If you deal with too many men who want to use you this way or any other way and dont have the sense to recognize them for what they are and get away from them fast , then you will only end up mistrustful and bitter towards men. Hold yourself to a higher standard so when the right one does come along you will not be carrying any baggage from the wrong ones. Why would you want to deal with that man if he is making it very clear to you that hes looking at you as a sexual object there to fullfill HIS needs? What do you think your worth is? Men can only cheapen women if we allow them to cheapen us. Women must understand that WE as women hold the power and its high time we recognize that, believe it, and start living it. Never give a man any power over you unless its a 50/50 relationship and the two of you are meeting each other needs. Dont forget these words for they will come in handy as life goes on. Get rid of the zero and keep yourself open in a positive way for the hero.
2007-06-24 11:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by My Business 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your given your dinner on a plate every day, would it inspire you to cook? If you were chauffeured every where would it inspire you to drive? If you brought a book and someone told you its entire contents would you read it?
Answer to your question, because you make it easy for him to only address his selfish needs. HE IS USING YOU.
If you want to be respected in any relationship you have to set the boundary of what respecting you means. With this chap you are giving mixed messages. I want a relationship, but whilst i am waiting for that from you i will let you use me. Instead of wasting time and energy figuring out why he is the way he is in order to move forward. Tell yourself no matter, how he performs, on the occasions when he drip feeds you, an audience with him. It does not fulfil your needs , otherwise you would not be asking this question. GET RID he will never change.
The next time you meet someone remember, a healthy relationship attends to the needs and wants of both of you any less just builds resentment. Good Luck
2007-07-02 10:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by free to see 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not waste anymore of my time with this guy. If you know that he is only after one thing and you are wanting a relationship then move on. I too have found that there are more men out there that want nothing but sex without having to have a relationship. I do not waste my time and neither should you.
2007-07-01 17:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by sabb_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can empathise wholeheartedly!
This man is an a**hole. He doesn't want a relationship with you and is seeing how much over the disrespect line he can push you.
Move on, you seem like an intelligent lady-he is what i believe is termed 'a player'
I think you have to let this particular bird fly from the gilded cage. . . .
2007-06-29 19:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by RedSnook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well . . . you're still seeing him, so you're kinda approving of what he's doing. You need to leave him and find someone who wants a relationship (and don't go back). If he wanted one it wouldn't be so difficult to get him to agree to be in one. I think there are a lot of men like him, but I doubt they are in the majority. You have to pass guys like him up if you want a stable relationship. Good luck!
2007-06-24 10:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say get rid of him.There are better fish in the sea.(old expression)If all this guy is interested in is sex .Than obviously it wouldn't matter who you were to him as long as you put out.Don't get into these types of guys.find someone whom truley cares about you.And don't be in a hurry to get serious if you are in school.concentrate on school and a better education.
2007-07-02 09:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋