2007-06-24 02:19:53 · 16 answers · asked by La Laurita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes he wanted the ring back. Yes, I gave it back. I've got two kids. He has three. He broke up over a tiff about snoring...but I think that was just a BS excuse. I think cold feet is right and yes, I will be moving right along. This sucks though. I can't wait to stop crying.
2007-06-24 02:36:19 · update #1
honey,
Iisten to Tommie:
relationships are fluid, they change and grow or go, and as new information becomes evident, the terms change, and those who hold on tight to every word spoken will be disappointed
I'd say thank God or your lucky stars that someone unsure is being honest enough to let you know he's not ready. It's better than him sheepishly going through the motions and springing the news on you the day before the wedding or a few months or a year after you're married.
Now, pick yourself up and dust yourself off, make a list of everything you don't like about him, and why it would be better for you to find a stronger, more sure partner.
If you're still friends, let it morph into a friendship, but if he's still keeping you hanging on, keeping you thinking that maybe you two can get married some day, don't push!! Just give him a LOT of space; he doesn't deserve your time.
Now, go get a big glass of water, eat some fruit, then some chocolate, and go swimming or weightlifting or immerse yourself in some work you have to do, and do all you can to stop obsessing about him.
I you're already pissed and angry and hate him, and all....
That doesn't make you feel good just because you're "right."
He's still taking up space in your mind, so get him out and move on. Make that list and youll soon ask why you ever wasted you time.
Remember: Most stains eventually come out in the wash, so the sooner the better!
Be good to yourself and stay physically active and very busy.
Don't blame yourself and don't blame him. It's nobody's fault if it's not a good match, so don't take it perrsonally. There's someone better for you out there.
2007-06-24 02:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by topink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not something you usually retract! Did he take the ring back too? I would have a little chat with him and let him know that the next time he wants to ask you a life changing question he better have his mind made up first. What if you two decide to have a baby, you get pregnant, and then he decides that he doesn't want to be a father yet? Not good. He needs to figure things out before he gets other people's lives involved. Good luck!
2007-06-24 02:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, first of all let me start off by saying that I cannot imagine what you are going through hun. I really feel for you! To propose to someone and give a ring and all that jazz is REALLY SERIOUS! For him to take his offer back 2 weeks later is even more SERIOUS! I honestly have no idea....this may be one for the guys to answer because I have no idea! Good Luck!
2007-06-24 02:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He got cold feet.
Just my opinion, but I think he should have carefully considered everything before making the proposal. If he retracted his proposal to me, I would be moving on.
That's my advice to you. Move on. Find someone else who does value you and wants to marry you.
Aw, sweetie . . . I feel so bad for you. You deserve better.
2007-06-24 02:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would we know why your fiance doesn't want to marry you? Why do you call him your fiance if you aren't engaged? You have bigger issues here than we can help you with on Yahoo Answers. I suggest getting over it and finding someone else because anyone who could break a girls heart like that isn't very nice.
2007-06-24 09:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's obviously not ready. snoring...puhleeez! That is a BS excuse and he obviously couldnt tell you the real reason.
Count your lucky stars!! If he cant communicate then it wasnt going to be a good marriage anyway!
2007-06-24 02:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by J3NN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He got cold feet...........that is when they think about what they are getting into, like what they will do to take care of you......they could be doubting themselves. Give em time, give em some space, don't take it personally. I am sure that the love is still there. Let em know that you understand, and that you still love that person. no matter what.
2007-06-24 02:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by catira1953 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure about this. Maybe he thought about it again and realized that it is not going to work. The other option is that he may have found something about you that he did not know before. Did you cheat on him or anything?
2007-06-24 02:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by travelinbianca16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like cold feet to me.
2007-06-24 02:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by Incongruous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he is still a boy and not a man
a man would never go back on his word, boys do it all the time
find a man, unless you are willing to wait for him to grow up
2007-06-24 02:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋