I met a lovely man at Easter and I fell head over heels in love... I know it was too quick but I'm still thinking about him.
He fell out with me because I got drunk on my birthday and I text him too many times.
He is really special to me, do you think I could ever win him back? He sent me an e-mail asking me not to contact him again
2007-06-24 00:54:26 · 19 answers · asked by PendleGK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, dear! The only thing you can do, is not text, email or phone him, do not turn up at his work or anywhere where he'll be! Right, keep that going for at least 6 weeks, and if he gets back in touch with you, he's realised what he's missed, he can't miss you if you're annoying him, now can he?
2007-06-24 01:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you will never win him back. You got drunk and blew it big time... too many text's = way too clingy! If you keep trying, you'll possibly be known as a stalker, he has made it clear he doesn't want to hear from you again. Move on.
Relationship Rule #1 - Don't get drunk (especially in the first six months) until you know each other well enough.
2007-06-24 08:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by Dave F 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you can't keep a man happy you need to take a step back and take a look at your behaviour,he may think you're getting too serious to quick.If he has asked you not to contact him then respect his wishes if you continue to text he will see that you are just pestering him and he will back off even further.Leave it a few days then email and ask if he'd like to go out if you get no reply move on.
2007-06-24 08:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one's over so you have to think about the next time you meet someone nice.
You are too needy. You scare them away. Without playing a load of silly games, you have to get them to want you. A little bit of emotional indifference initially goes a long way. Make sure you're not always available and that he can see that you have other things in your life other than your desire for him.
2007-06-24 08:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Stella S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever looked at one of those checklists from Alcoholics Anonymous that ask "How do I know if I am an alcoholic?"
All compulsive behavior interferes with personal relationships.
I'm not saying that you are. I'm simply saying that your behavior is consistent with other people who have a drinking problem.
You can type the question, "How do I know if I'm an alcoholic?" into the "Search for questions" box and there are several stories that you may identify with there.
Or, you could just call up and find a meeting. People there are willing to share their experience, strength and hope.
2007-06-24 08:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
xIsn't a man meant to keep you happy? If he asked you not to contact him again I would do just that, otherwise you look desperate or worse like a bunny boiler! Put this one down to life experience, next time take things slowly, don't get so drunk and don't text loads!
2007-06-24 08:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are to clingy. Too insecure. You did not let him have his own space for long enough periods of time. You wore out your welcome in his life.
Try drinking less. Drunk makes anyone look like an idiot and REALLY undesirable.
You lost him. Give it 30 days. If he don't contact you by then contact him once. If no results move on with your life.
I wouldn't take you back.
2007-06-24 08:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by runner1 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Is this a pattern with you? Your question indicates to me that you can't establish a relationship with men. If alcohol is a factor you can forget it. How can he be "special" to you when
you have barely known him long enough to know what's special about him.
If your relationships always end this way you need to take a good look at yourself and consider what you are doing to scare men off.
2007-06-24 08:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by mothermayhem 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone! He has made his feelings clear so it's time to respect both his wishes, and yourself.
You don't need to keep a man happy, you need to BE happy in your own skin. There is someone out there for you, but you will not be made complete by him- that has to come from within YOU.
Take time to start enjoying your own company, and that of your friends; Mr Right will turn up when you're not looking for him.
2007-06-24 08:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by annie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't date anyone that got drunk. The other stuff, being clingy, might need to be dealt with, but stop drinking!
2007-06-24 08:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by WhydoIdothis 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋