i just met my perfect match, everything was going perfect until hr ex of 5 years ago started saying thats she is being unfair on her daughter by confussing her about me, she recently met me after a recent break up and said she never felt like this towards anyone before. i'm confussed that shes become a little distant, i really don't want to lose her, help????
2007-06-23 23:13:14 · 5 answers · asked by jarhead_warrior 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really think that you two need to talk openly and honestly. The most difficult part may be for you to listen to her needs. It is apparent that her ex still makes quite an impression on her views and I am assuming that he may be the father of her child which would explain their connection. Is this correct? Being there for her and showing her that you support her emotionally will make all the difference. She is mostly likely going through a difficult time, especially after recently coming out of another relationship and her ex has further confused her with bringing her daughter into the situation. Females deal with their feelings very differently than males. We can't just disconnect from the other person just because the relationship ended...it takes time for us to heal emotionally.
I am sure that your girlfriend is just in a state of confusion. This does not necessarily mean that she is confused about the way(s) in which she feels about you, but the situation rather in terms of her daughter, ex and former relationship. Ultimately, she wants to be a good mother which is the reason she has stepped back a little and withdrawn herself. She just needs to make sure that her daughter is emotionally protected. Another thing to consider would be if your girlfriend has custody of her daughter because she may be concerned that if she does not adhere to her ex's wishes that he may take her to court and seek custody of the child. I believe that this is more about the situation and has less to do with your relationship.
Seriously, just be there for her and be a good listener. Some of the best relationships are based on friendship. Good luck to you!
2007-06-23 23:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont wanna loose her then tell her you know that she is confused and if she needs time to sort it out that you will wait. While she is being push and prodded by others she doesnt need you to join in. Be the calm water that she can come and rest in when everything gets tough and she will appreciate you for it.
2007-06-23 23:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should watch They Royal Tenenbaums. Maybe it'll help.
2007-06-23 23:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by phnixigntn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its not good for you to let yourself fallen with somebody else without knowing his personality very much...yeah!! i know LOVE is so unfair...but you in yourself must know the right way of being in love!!!!
2007-06-24 00:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slower she is on the rebound and obviously still has something for her ex. give her time
2007-06-23 23:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋