Ok, I am bout to have sex with a someone I have known for years. She is recently divorced and we have been talking about furthering our relationship. She is very afraid of having sex with a new partner. She married young and has only had sex with that ex-husband. She is also a bit afraid of my SIZE too. I am 6'4 and she is 5'1.
I don't want to treat her like a virgin but???
Is their any adult advice out there?
Thanks
2007-06-23 19:07:23 · 3 answers · asked by boscatman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to take it slow and be very respectful. Do the work man if she's worth it. Make things as romantic and wonderful for her as possible. Tell her there's no pressure for your first time to be great. Tell her you understand all of her fears and just want her to feel good. If I were you, I wouldn't start off with sex....to ease her into things, I would just make out a few times...get her used to feeling those sensations again. Divorced women sometimes feel insecure about their bodies and about how they'll be perceived in bed. Ok, not just divorced women....all women! :) Be sure to tell her often how beautiful her body is to you, how sexy she is to you. She needs to hear that. Goodluck!
2007-06-23 19:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sex with a new partner is a little nerve wrecking anyway plus she has only had tjis one man justmake it a very special moment for the both of you maybe some heavy foreplay a couple of times so she can just get used to you in general and discover what turns you both on,but dont treat her like a teenager who is having sex for the first time.
2007-06-24 02:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by MO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow! Plenty of foreplay, and make her clim*x at least once before connection. At first you will need to pay more attention to her needs than your own. And be careful of position- they can all work but penetration may need to be pulled back a bit on certain ones!
Have fun!
2007-06-24 02:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋