Ever had a selfish insensitive lover? Can they change?

Question

I have been lucky enough to have several lovers who knew what they were doing and enjoyed my satisfaction.
Now I am seeing a guy who was enthusiastic at first but now just satisfies himself. I tried to show him and talk to him, but he just bought me a vibrator. It would be so much easier if he would show some love. I'm too old and insecure to start dating.

Answer 1

If you aren't satisfied too, then what is the point in having sex with him still?
If all he wants to give you is a vibrator, what do you need him for???

Answer 2

I would rather be alone! If you've had mutually satisfying relationships in the physical department, what makes you stay with Mr. Selfish? Stop! Don't touch his d***. He can fend for himself if he doesn't want to be involved in your satisfaction. There is no such thing as too old!

Answer 3

Have you tried asking him if there's something that he'd like to do? I know that seems to be going in the opposite direction of what you're seeking, but hear me out.

I dated a guy that was similar to the one you're with now. After several talks and fights, I finally asked him if there was something he was lacking. He said he always wanted to try a particular thing. Keeping an open mind, we did what he always wanted to and suddenly my satisfaction became just as important as his... if not more-so.

It's not a fool-proof theory, but it's one that worked for me. If you try everything (talking, etc.) and he's still not willing to be there for you, then you may have to decide if you're willing to just deal with it, or move on. I really hope he comes through for you.

Answer 4

I am very sorry to tell you this but men in general are selfish and if he is more concerned with his satisfaction then yours he most likely will not change. I am a very happly married woman but my husband is very similar, he tries but it is just not in his character. He is a good man but sometimes I feel I have to go outside the marriage for sexual satisfaction. Good Luck

Answer 5

i agree you have avery selfish lover.. a good lover by the way i am.. make sure your partner is satisified very wet prior to making himself satisfied.. she should have a number of orgasms to his one...