suggestions for a speacial in memory of moment in my sissters wedding?

Question

My 5 year old son has passed recently he was going to be the ring bearer in my sissters wedding this coming Sep. She has decided to have a butterfly release in memory of her nephew and asked me to pick the song to it. I don't want to sad of song or slow ar to up beat or bring evryones happieness down when we play the song during the buterfly release HELP ME

Answer 1

First, you are incredibly strong to be thinking of all this after your son's recent passing...please accept my condolences. How about "Time of your life" by Green Day?

Answer 2

First, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. What a wonderful idea your sister had to do this for you and your family.

I would put a note in the program that the butterfly release is in honour of your son and not play a song at all. Songs are long and the butterfly will be gone way before it's over. This leaves the guests sitting and thinking about the loss of your son for 2-4 minutes and people will be teary-eyed and upset.

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your loss.

Recently, I was at a wedding where the grooms step-sister, who was to be a bridesmaid, had passed away. She was 23.

The bride gave a flower to the girls mother in her honor. This was just a few seconds at the beginning of the ceremony.

If you don't want to get people all teary eyed, you may not want to play any music at all. By the time you play a 3 minute song, everyone will have a lot of time to think about the tragedy at the beginning of the ceremony. This will take away from the rest of the wedding. Silence can be fitting, and only last for a minute and then the rest of the wedding can move on.

If you would like a song, a favorite one of his would be nice. Be sure to play the song at the rehearsal, so that the wedding party doesn't get as teary eyed at the end.

Answer 4

I think maybe you should not play a song and just make a notation in the program that the butterfly release is in honor of him.

I know you are hurting right now and honoring your son's memory is a beautiful thing but I really think that if you make an obvious special ceremony out of it you will dampen the mood, especially since the death was so recent.

I struggled with the same thing for my wedding since my mother and grandmother recently passed and after talking to a sampling of the guests have decided to make the rembrances for them more subtle since all have agreed being reminded of the sadness of their passing would cause sorrow.

Answer 5

I am so sorry for your loss. I do suggest that since this butterfly release is for your son that you pick a song he liked or a son that reminds you of your son and sister's relationship. How about "I hope you dance" It is about growing up and enjoying what is to come. I think your son would want your sister and all he left behind to keep dancing with him in their hearts.

Answer 6

I don't know of any songs but youcould go to the web site lyrics007 and put in song lyrics with butterfiles and you might be able to fine somehting suitable for the wedding.I am so sorry for your loss and please remember that others ore going to feel this loss also. when the gift of the butterfly release is given in his honor..let the rhythm of themoment guide you all and bind your hearts . sincerely

Answer 7

I am so sorry for your loss. Your sister is wonderful to recognize him in this way on her special day. I would suggest that you choose a fun song that he liked. If he didn't sing songs, choose the theme from his favorite TV show or something like that.

Answer 8

I would chose the same music you would have if he was there.

Maybe a classical piece from swan lake or the nutcracker. For my flower girls we played "Its a small world" with a violinist and keyboard player.

I feel for your loss.