Is it possible to get married at the age of fourteen?

Question

marriage,love

I see where you would think that this is me that I'm talking about,I am talking about my cousin who is dating a 19 year old and needs someone other than me to tell her that it's a bad idea and she should wait until she's at least 21 to get married since it's a really big thing.thanks for all of the help,I really don't want her to ruin her life.

Answer 1

I think at the age of 14 you should just be exploring the options of DATING, not marriage. You have a whole lifetime to decide stuff like that. Enjoy being young and worry free from the possible stresses of marriage, children, all that stuff. At 22, I would do anything to be 14 again and not have a care in the world. Stay young, be safe, and have fun.

Answer 2

I believe there are a couple of states where it's still possible, so long as the parents give their consent. Several more will allow it at sixteen under the same circumstances. However, without parental consent, one has to wait until one's eighteenth birthday to apply for a marriage license anywhere in the USA.

If your cousin needs to hear that it's a bad idea, here's what I have to say to her:

Not only is it a bad idea, but if you're having sex with a nineteen-year-old, he's in legal hot water nearly anywhere. Wait. Grow up. Stay in school.

I know happily ever after is a powerful dream at fourteen. I also know that the story only ends with the wedding in fairy tales. In reality, life goes on and there are a million little disagreements and annoyances that go with living with someone else, no matter how much you love him. Without emotional maturity, it's virtually impossible to make things work.

You feel very grown up at fourteen, but in reality the next few years are going to mature you a great deal. Let that happen. If you still love this guy and he still loves you when you're completely grown, then grab him and have my blessings! If you are truly in love - the sort of love that a good marriage is based on - you'll still love one another after you're out of school.

Answer 3

Even if you did find someone to marry you in a State that it's legal, WHY would you want to do this to yourself...?
I was married at the age of 16, and although it lasted 19 years, I missed out on my teenage year, college, etc...
the only plus side are my 2 beautiful boys, so I can't complain about that....If you are p.g., adopt your child out because you don't have to get married..there are plenty of 2 parent homes to take your child...
If you are in "LOVE" than you need to remember that what you want at 14 is not what you will want at age 16, 18, 20, 22, and so on..wait till you are 25 years old at least, K? <>< Best blessings to you!

Answer 4

14? woa. not a good Idea. There is no way anyone is going to allow that one to happen I hope. I am pretty sure the earliest that a girl can get married is 16 and that is only with parental consent.

Listen to the words of experience, I got married when I was 16 years old. It isn't a good idea people change to much when they mature. You end up feeling like you missed out on your life. You never really find out who you really are. You go from being under your mom and dads control to being under your husbands control then before long you have kids ruling your life also.

You end up with a lot of regrets and what ifs. please reconsider what you are thinking.

I am not saying this because I had a bad marriage, infact I have been married for 22 years I love my husband and my kids very much but. there is always something inside me.

I really cheated myself out of a life out of finding out if I could stand on my own, finding out what I wanted to do, what I liked to do. I wish I would have waited.

I am not going to tell you what to do I am not going to judge you but I really want you to think about it before you do it every decission you make in life has consequences both good and bad ones. Some times the good out weighs the bad but the bad ones usually find a way to stand out just a little bit more then the good ones.

being married is so hard to do. it takes constant work and You have to always put the other persons needs ahead of your own, You have to swallow a lot of heartache and disapointment. because beleive me things change real quick when you get married. There are bills to pay and the work never seems to end there really is no time for you. you are washing dishes doing laundry working because no one can make it on one persons salery now days. then by the time you get home you and him both are going to be to tired to even think about hugging and cuddeling and doing all the things you can do when you are just dating.

I am just being real it isn't going to be the way you think it is.

Think real hard but I do know that you will at least have to wait until you are 16 if you can talk your parents into letting you do it if not you have to wait until you are 18 years old. hopefully you do.

Answer 5

Actually in a select few states it is possible to marry at 14. You need to already live in one of those few states, have your parents permission, and a judges order.

Wow! That's a lot of hassle to get married so young. Might as well wait until 18 so no one will fuss.

Answer 6

I don't know state rules, but I presume if you have your parents' signed permission you can. But don't. 14 is totally too young for any of that stuff. Stay in school, and grow up. It is showing immaturity right here by asking that question. You, if you are the 14 yo, have so much ahead of you that the marriage would not last in this day and age. Please don't do something that dumb.

Answer 7

I'm sure with parental consent, but even if she did, she will be divorced by 20. That is just sad. She shouldn't even be dating a 19 year old. Her parents should be putting a stop to that relationship anyway.

Answer 8

No, unless it is in like some weird country. But the lowest age to get married is 16 and I think its in Kentucky or something. Why would you even want to get married at 14??!!? Thats crazy! you're soo young!

Answer 9

Okay, I will tell her it's a bad idea.

My standard answer is:
1. She needs to finish her education. Yes, this means both high school and college.
2. Then she needs to get a good job.
3. After that, she can get engaged.

Uh, where are her parents? Do they know about this 19-year-old?

Answer 10

Go to West Virginia or Arkansas, I think both of those states allow marriage at 14. Insert joke here