Can someone explain to me the difference between these too? I've been seeing someone for over a year now, we basically get together like once a month and have sex and hang out, but we text each other every day. I've never met his family, yet we've gone out of town to my family's cabin for the weekend several times. As far as I know he's not seeing anyone else, but we don't really talk about it either. He gets pissed off whenever I say "I know I'm just a booty call to you..but...." When I bring up breaking up with him, he asks me why I'm being mean. We're both in our 30's and I'm looking for a real relationship- which I thought was what he was looking for too. So does this sound like a non-committed guy just looking for sex to you?
2007-06-23 18:28:45 · 16 answers · asked by Tiggerfrk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well seeing as how he is not seeing anyone else, only you, and gets mad when you assume that you are only a booty call to him, and doesnt want you to leave him, then I would definitely say that he cares about you. I think that he really does not want to commit...I think he has some issues in that department that you are going to have to help him through if you want it to be more. Do you hang out outside of these sexcapades? Are you like friends with benefits or do you really not spend time with each other? If you dont spend time with each other, then its possible that he really does not want anything more and that you should look elsewhere for your commitment. If he is a true friend to you...friend with benefits, then he just needs a little coaxing and you are the person to do it!! =D I wish you the best of luck, and if things dont work out in your favor, just remember that you deserve better!
2007-06-23 18:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Casual To Committed Relationship
2016-11-02 22:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casual sex moves laterally. The relationship never changes because it's just sex and either person can meet someone at any time and abandon the arrangement. In the end, someone's feelings end up getting hurt.
A committed relationship, however, evolves and moves forward. As the dynamics change, each person wants something more from the relationship. A commited relationship is something you can discuss openly. Texting and occasionally hanging out don't make a relationship.
A grown man in his 30s does not respond to questions with juvenille things like "Why are you being mean?" If he wants things to develop into a real relationship, then he'll do what he has to do to make it into one. He sounds like he wants things to remain the same with you, but he still wants to keep his options open. If he isn't having sex with anyone else now, it doesn't mean that he won't find someone else.
Good luck to you.
2007-06-23 18:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At best committed casual sex.
Most guys are having sex more than once a month.
If he wanted it to be more, he would introduce to his parents, want to be with you more.
He likes it just like it is hence the booty call act. It is booty call.
You're wasting the primo years of your life on a dead end, Move on.
2007-06-23 18:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Eve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy as things are, then that is fine. But if you love this guy, then why are you allowing this situation to continue? If you are looking for a commitment from him, then you need to bring it up and see how he feels. If he is not willing to do this, then you should consider letting him go and finding someone who WILL be in a committed relationship with you.
2007-06-23 18:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Merry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a casual sex/booty call relationship. Of course he does not want to give this up, it is a guys dream.
If you want a real relationship it is time to move on.....
2007-06-23 18:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by desertmoonwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Non committed guys looking for sex normally don't meet the family or want to. You need to talk to him. Just straight up ask him what he wants out of your relationship. If he says just sex, then tell him you need to find more.
2007-06-23 18:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres no comparison btwn casual sex and relationship sex.
relationship sex means sooooooooo much more. for one youre in a relationship because you have things in common and like eachother. sex is an expression of that. sorta like a benefit.
casual sex is rude. its a booty call. that means the man doesnt care much abt u other than for sex. its what ur "relationhsip" is based on as opposed to the other one which is a benefit. casual sex is degrating in my opinion. hope that helps
2007-06-23 18:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by sweety 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my suggestion is to ask him. "Are we having a serious relationship or is this just a casual sex date?!" If he takes it offensivly and then makes YOU feel bad then changes the subject then you are just a sex toy at his beck and call. The same answer lies for you if he refuses to discuss it, he would refuse to discuss it most likely because he is secretly ashamed of this but doesnt want to risk giving it up. Its time you ask now then find out later.
2007-06-23 18:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by babygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my personal opinion, he might, but he might not be. It all depends, when you're with him is that all he wants to do, get in your pants? Ask your self these questions, does he introduce you to his friends by your name, or "something else", he hasn't introduced you to his family, a little wierd sense it's been over a year. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year and I live with him and his parents. You jsut got to follow your heart and think to your self. If YOU want a commited guy then you need to find one that is into you for you, ya know? But just because you have not met his family, does nto mean he's running around, maybe he's nervous? Just follow your heart girl, and you'll figure out the right thing to do.
I hope this helped<3 :)
2007-06-23 18:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋