i think my boyfriend might be gay?

Question

my boyfriend always talks about celebrities he thinks are hot, but they're always guys. he (well, we) also jokes around about his friends and how they're hot and stuff. we've kind of talked about this before, and he says he really has no problem admitting he finds men attractive, which i think is cool, because it's not like i would mind if he were bisexual or anything, and it shows that he's secure enough to talk about that stuff. the problem is, i'm worried that he might cheat on me with another guy, because he has no problem with me making out with other girls (and actually promotes it) and i think this might make him think that it's not as taboo to cheat on me with one of his guy friends. i've brought this up with him jokingly, and told him straight up that i wouldn't be cool with him and other guys, but i'm still worried he might experiment and think it's okay. how can i bring this up with him as to not offend him and still have a serious conversation?

i should add that i have absolutely no problem with him being gay or bisexual, in fact i think he's probably bisexual. i just don't want him to think it's okay to experiment while he's in a relationship with me

he's very committed to me and he's the most loving boyfriend i've ever had. it's not a question of whether or not he wants to be with me, it's just that (i'm sorry to say) he's not always that bright and i think that he may think that i think it's okay, as long as it's not with girls.

Answer 1

question is way to long, i'll take the 2 points though

Answer 2

If you told him straight up already, then don't worry about it. Him being bi is no issue to you because he is dating YOU. Cheating is wrong whether it's with a guy or a girl and if he doesn't see that it's wrong and IS cheating no matter who it's with, then he's not the one for you. But I don't think he's that type of guy. Go ahead and have a conversation with him though, without all the joking at first. He'll probably want to talk about it too :)

Answer 3

Tuff question....
Easy answer:

Does he wear pink,
Does he have a lissp.
Does he use the womans restroom,
Does he have sex with men,

If so, the mofo is very gay.
and yeah, he would cheat on you,
because he is soooooo gay.

Take it as a benefit since you LEARNED
not to repeat that mistake, u can find
someone else better.

Someone
that is STRAIGHT is:

Has medium to short hair.
slightly Ugly
Slightly overweight
Has peachfuzz
Talks about women and sports.
Has disgusting habits.
Never wears pink
Has sex with women
Uses the mens restroom
Talks with a medium to deep voice.
Usually has less than $20,000.
Doesn't know much about fashion labels.

So next time you CAN pick a straight dude.
That dude you are REPULSED because
he is MESSY and RUDE, yeah, that dude
is the straight man. Sometimes he
will swear, possibly alot.

Laters,
Ric
A straight man.

Answer 4

First of all, if you are having sex, make sure you are using condoms and practicing safe sex.

You have tried using humor to broach the subject, but this is a serious matter as the conscequences of your actions, and his could be potentially harmful. It sounds like he wants an open relationship. This is the time for you to decide what you really want out of a relationship.

You can always be friends....

Answer 5

I don't think you should continue to talk about this with him as it's a bummer for a guy to hear this (it shows that you're insecure, and frankly, neurotic). He knows how you feel about him trying hoagie, so just let it rest. Besides, if he's cheating on you, does it really matter if it's with a dude or a chick (other than the whole AIDS thing and that it's just gross)? If you can't trust him, get a new guy. If you trust him, keep you're anxiety about him being a potential pillow-biter to yourself.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, I think your boyfriend is bisexual. Obviously if he were really serious about you he wouldn't suggedt those things.

But that doesn't mean he would cheat on you with another guys...unless he's already come out.

So talk to him, tell him what you feel. If he's so open to you about other things, i think you can talk about this seriously, just don't be emotional about it.

Answer 7

Honestly you got a real big problem. If he's bi, then eventually he's gonna want to try it with a guy. And if you're not cool with it then that means he won't be cool with you anymore. You need to talk to him and tell him that you think he may be bi, but don't be accusing. Be understanding. Tell him that it's ok if he is, but if he is then you need to know now cause your relationship will NOT work if he is bi unless you can learn to handle him with other guys.

Answer 8

Just leave the gay and straight hand towels out and see which one he uses.

Have you considered the consequences of having an adulterous shifty partner?

There's a lot of straight-forward guys out there. Move on.

Answer 9

Sometimes I also joke around that some of my friends are hot. But in every single case I do that I'm just joking, I'm definitely not gay.

If you think he is serious than it could be a problem, but he is probably not serious about his friends.

Answer 10

Becareful how you approach this. If you go at it wrong, then he may take offense to your concerns. You should just sithim down and explain to him what you are worried about. If you think that it is ok for him to try it, let him know, but let him know that you want to be in the loop, per say, when he does it. If you do not think it is cool for him to try, then let him know that as well.

Answer 11

Well...at some point when you guys are havig a serious conversation, just bring up the fact that you consider any sex to be cheating. Be clear that you would call any sex with any one/thing/whatever wrong.