I dont get it
2007-06-23 18:00:45 · 15 answers · asked by gizmosgrl13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because rejection is negative and shows that you aren't really 'up to par' with the rest. Especially if you get your hopes up, getting rejected really hurts you because it shows you aren't, and that's inherently negative. After that negativity you also get the repercussions, such as you start thinking "Will I ever be ready again?" "Why didn't s/he like me, what did I do wrong?" It's fairly logical to not like rejection!
2007-06-23 18:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is rejection people are so worried about. I think for me it is the type of rejection you could possibly get and the consequences of the rejection. If you are rejected in a polite manner then it is isn't as bad as if the person laughs in your face and then the world finds out you like someone who don't like you back and then everyone knows you like the person and it is made a newspaper article instead of just a simple rejection.
2007-06-23 18:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by katherine_petrey27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my opinon is that if you are rejected, it meant that your quality was not up to his/her satisfaction, just his/her expection and not all ok. It can be looks, characters, principles, behavor, size, shape, communication, material (poor, too rich, education level, career, type of work etc etc)or just simply, unable to click.
But having rejected doesn't mean you are not up to mark, it just that he/she found that you dun suit him/her, but there are so many other suitor out there that you just fail or yet to meet.
Most of us, once rejected, may feel a lost of self esteem, ego, worthless, shameful and sad/angry, but think it over, it not your fault, maybe it is a blessing in disguise, better reject now than to get badly hurt later.
Instead, learn from the rejection, do some soul searching and look back at what quality you lack, improve on it. It can also be the fact that you are overly qualified, acted, beautiful, sexy, educated, rich that most people find themselve unable to match you.
Therefore, be mature, dun be afraid of being rejected, without rejection, you gain nothing, just like without training and mistakes in life, you learnt nothing. Mistake is the beginning of success, reject is the begining of acceptance.
No big deal ya, aint going to loose a dime out of it.
2007-06-23 18:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the percentage (sometimes) of rejection that one endures. If say a person only tried to start a relationship once and was rejected, they would have a 100% rejection rate. That's why younger people and recent divorces seem to fear it a lot. If you aren't rejected a lot and have had many attempts (possibly like yourself) you will have less fear due to positive reinforcement.
2007-06-23 18:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by rich e rich 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people aren't afraid of rejection. overall it's natural to want acceptance. some people get a strong core of acceptance from family or close friends they know they can trust. others crave acceptance - many times these people lack that strong core i just mentioned.
really depends what you are being rejected from. in love, it depends what you are after and how bad you need it and how easily it is to replace.
2007-06-23 18:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because its the worst thing in the world. nothing feels worst that rejection. No physical pain can match the pain of a pretty girl telling you no or the division one football team that you have dreamed playing for telling you their no longer interested in you. Rejection is the worst thing in the world no physical pain can ever match it.
2007-06-23 18:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by big t daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason people are afride of rejection is that people are afride of whats different and people can be different for many reasons! This person is fat, this person is ugly this person is skinny or this person dont fit in with that croud. or this person is not like that person!
2007-06-23 18:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by mickey_112404 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because imagine u love this guy with all ur heart and u finally get the courage to ask him out to dinner or sumthing and he just reject u imidiatlly
it's never happened to me because i 'm afraid it will
2007-06-23 18:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by Cristy77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection hurts...a lot. So naturaly people are 'afraid' of it.
2007-06-23 18:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting rejected really hurts your self esteem. i've been rejected several times and let me tell you it sucks.
2007-06-23 18:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by money mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋