I worry alot and I'll ask him several questions. I am also insecure and I need him to reassure me. Does it sound like I don't trust him?
2007-06-23 17:54:07 · 9 answers · asked by sexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you already stated what the problem is - you are insecure. It isn't that you don't trust him, but you are afraid that your trust is misplaced, because you aren't secure yet in yourself or your relationship.
Hopefully your guy will realize you need some reassurance, and will be honest with you and show you that he cares about you and wants to be with you.
But, you also need to try to be more secure in who you are, and be happy with yourself, and know that you deserve happiness.
If you get too clingy or ask too many questions, you might drive him away. You are allowed to ask your boyfriend questions, but if you seem totally paranoid, it will turn him off. You'll need to believe him, unless you discover for sure that he is lying/cheating.
All the best!
2007-06-23 18:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes just caring for your man can be misconstrued to not trusting him. If he did something in your relationship in the past like cheating then I would say you are still trying to get over that. If he has never cheated on you I would say that you are right and are being insecure, but you shouldn't be. I used to question my boyfriend, but not because I did't trust him, but because I am so attracted to him that I would worry someone else would be too and that they would be prettier than me and he would leave me. After realizing that and talking to him about it he made me realize I was just being silly. He loves me very much and always tells me how beautiful I am. He would never want to lose me. Once you see that about yourself and he can reassure you, you will be fine and not feel like you don't trust him. I know that was kind of confusing sounding, but I hope it helps.
2007-06-24 01:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by **Sparkles** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. you need trust. That is probably the most vital of characteristics needed for a good healthy relationship. My gf trusts me completely, and never says no whenever I want to go out with my boys for a night on the town. She never questions where I have been, nor does she call/text me all the time wondering where I'm at. You need to build on the trust and go from there.
2007-06-24 00:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by Adrian Hill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself: you're insecure. That insecurity can come with side-effects of distrust. That's not his problem, that's YOUR problem, that you need to work on. Take a look at yourself, do an evaluation. Why are you insecure? What makes you worry about him? Then make a list, take measures to fix your problems, and then talk to your boyfriend about it. He's a keeper if he supports you and wants to help you with your insecurity issues.
2007-06-24 01:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by leeseylou2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ,you seem to be an insecure person.You have to help yourself,develop some trust for him and stop asking questions all the time.
2007-06-24 01:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i have the same problem or had i should say.
just take some time and learn to trust him and then realize that f he dumped you tomorrow for someone else then you'd be fine on your own after while...
2007-06-24 01:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sounds like you don't trust him. And sounds like you annoy him.....maybe not for much longer.
2007-06-24 01:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, cuz im the same way with my boyfriend. i think you are perfectly fine. just sometimes, try to reasure yourself by think" remember what happened last time? everything was ok..." its tough, trust me, i know....but i think you're ok :)
2007-06-24 01:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the only one that can know whether you trust him or not.
2007-06-24 00:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by ☼♫☆☺♡♥☺☆♫☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋