im serious this is no joke, i barely let my parents or sibling hug me, i dont like hugs , i dont like being touched, and i BARELY SAY "I love you" NO I was never raped or molested before!
but im affectionate to my cat, cuz shes soo cute,
i rub her belly and hug her alot and kiss her head..and i say 'ilove u'
but i barely hug my parent, the last time i hugged them was many years ago.
its like i dont like human affection
i'm 16, my brother makes fun of me
he said ''I wonder what your gonna be like when u get a boyfriend''
which is true when i think about it, probably thats why i dont care to have one
so isnt this kinda normal? just my personality?
2007-06-23 17:25:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i am 29 and have always been that way my parents never where ones to dote out affections i knew they loved me sure we just didnt do the lovey dovey stuff. now i have kids and a hubby and pets i pet my pets rub bellies and such i hug my kids good nite but as far as lovey dovey stuff no i dont do it i am happy my family is happy so i wouldnt worry too much you are fine.. besides pets are so much easier to love no yelling or demands just love and food of course lol
2007-06-23 17:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by RoseyRevisited 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its' a choice you make everytime you interact with anyone. It feels natural because you've done it for so long but you can consciously and willfully override it as you so choose to. If you get the feelings and emotions you feel from the other people you interact with instead of inspiring them by yourself, you'll feel less motivation to be interactive more or less than before when you felt the drudgery of being reactive and taking all your cues about life and the situation from how you perceived others to be seeing you and the situation. Now you'll be able to inspire your own actions. To make your own feelings the feelings of the moment and others will take their cues from you rather than the other way around. Everything will change for the better as this happens. Watch
2007-06-24 00:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal (or within the normal range). After all, pets are pretty simple to understand, and there's not a lot of complications in relating to them. They pretty much accept you the way you are. And they always like getting petted. So it's pretty easy to be liked.
If you want to transition to showing more affection, it's mostly a matter of getting used to it. When I was in middle school, my mom asked that we hug her every night. It was awkward at first but now it's not a big deal.
2007-06-24 00:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Surely Funke 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My analysis is that your cat does not hit back or talk back so you approach her without fear. The sad fact is some parents (families) are not very affectionate and the children don't learn to be loving. Try reaching out to them and forgiving them for any ill treatment you have or have imagined receiving and for any affection you have not been receiving.
As for your future boyfriend just imagine he is a cat, HA!
Good luck, good health, peace and love!
2007-06-24 00:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol well ironically my mom says that i treat my pet dog better than i to them. And yea i don't hug my parents or say i love you to them but I always baby my doggy around. I say ppl are diff and who knows maybe u'll change when u find that special someone
2007-06-24 00:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by oceanblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...seriously...
I CANNOT STOP LAUGHING AT THIS!
Dude...you could probably be my twin! Everyday I pray that God will give me more love! hahaha! I have two cats...the one is pretty much my bff! haha! I think its normal...I could just be saying that because Im the same way...but I just dont think that we are very mushy people! I hate mushy stuff! Its awkward! haha
2007-06-24 00:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not good at all. You need to find Jesus, now! Anyday now can be the End and Christ comes as a thief in the night. If you give more affection to an animal than your own flesh and blood, then something is wrong.. very wrong. There must be legions of invisible demons surrounding you at all times. Jesus can save you and His blood will wash away all your sins. Just be asking Him for forgiveness and accepting Him as your personal saviour, you can be free of evil for ever!
2007-06-24 00:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
oh my......that is how i exactly feel!
i cant help but to show affection n love to my cats because they r too adorable.
i may sound crazy....loving my cats too much...but i dont regard animals as mere objects. my cats r like my babies n i love them dearly. non cat lovers cant understand that.
somehow i feel that it is much more worthy to help animals....as humans are mostly able to help themselves. i do more contributions to animal organizations/cats welfare as compared to the human welfares.
2007-06-27 12:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ms B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Krazy I answered this question in the last question I answered girl get some help please.Have dad get you in to see a psychiatrist.
2007-06-24 00:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by dymond 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well it mite just be becuz ur cat was the only thing that hasnt betrayed u at one point in time... try getting therapy and talk about ur problem and apologize to ur loved ones and get bac in wit ur life
2007-06-24 00:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋