This is going to sound weird, but I have dated 8 guys, and I am in a serious relationship with a guy who started out as my best friend. I've known him for 7 years. However I am still a virgin. I am 20 years old.
Thing is, we've been together for a few years, and the furthest I've gone with him is oral. I am scared of penetration and that is the main thing hindering me from having sex with him.
His penis looks big in my opinion and that freaks me out more.
Why am I scared? How can I overcome this fear? He's the best guy for waiting and not forcing me to have sex, but I mean it has been a couple years and I am still a virgin...
2007-06-23 16:15:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
And is 20 too old to be a virgin?
I do love him....how do I overcome this fear?
2007-06-23 16:17:27 · update #1
Pearl Jam...can you stop being so vulgar and rude? Why are there so many weirdos on here...
2007-06-23 16:23:38 · update #2
20 is not too old to be a virgin, and when you are ready for sex, you will overcome your fear on your own.
2007-06-23 16:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by Over and Over 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
young lady 20 is certainly not too old to be a virgin seems to me if girls your age and younger were vigins there wouldn't be so many unwanted children in the world. as for your fear of penetration !! find a woman dr. to talk to maybe she can help you .sex can be scarry when we are young . maybe the underlying fear is pregnancy. take all the time you need befor you do some thing you don't really want to do at this time .
2007-06-23 16:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by lore29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No such thing as "too old to be a virgin".
It depends what you want out of life. If you want sex, there
are things you can do to explore this. For instance, you might
try using a very small dildo initially and see how it feels.
There is nothing to be ashamed of, and there is nothing
saying that you need to do this quickly.
2007-06-23 16:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by Elana 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
20 is not too old to be a virgin. when you are ready you will know. you need to be relaxed. and remember lube is your friend, i like astroglide myself. if he is not pressuring you what is the hurry?
and don't forget the condoms and what not. you don't want to get pregnant or a disease. and don't believe anything he says to the contrary.
2007-06-23 16:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by manimal2878 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be vaginally virginal, but sucking cock kind of defeats the whole point... As an individual, you are not a "virgin". Get it over with. If you've been dating him 8 years, and sucking his wiener, it's high time you screwed him. Listen to yourself. How ridiculous does that sound? The older you get, the more awkward it will be. No one can make you less afraid of receiving a big cock in your vagina.
2007-06-23 16:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Pearl Jam 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
sounds to me like you just aren't ready yet. it's okay to be a virgin and completely normal to be a litte scared of first time sex. when you're ready for it, it won't seem as scary. just wait a while longer.
2007-06-23 16:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can try talking to him about it. Tell him how oyu feel, talking to your partner might make it less scary.
also, you could wait until marriage if you want to, this guy seems so nice and is a diamond for not even pressuring you for sex he would probably understand.
2007-06-23 16:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by cutiepie ;) 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You most likely have a very real condition called Vaginismus.
vaginismus.com is a good site for you to check out. This is an educational site, not porn
2007-06-23 16:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by ✿Donna❀ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just let it all go!! dont worry and 20 is not to old to be a virgin
2007-06-23 16:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ (: 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its ok to be afraid the first time, everyone is!!
use lubricant the first few times, to help..if you think it looks too large
be sure that he knows its your first time, so he will be more gentle
only do it when you are completely ready, dont rush things if youre not sure
noooo 20 is not too old!!! theres no such thing!! :)
2007-06-23 16:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋