ok so my bff saw my bf kissing another girl. this isnt the first time hes done something like this to me. anyway, i broke up with him. he said he didnt do it. hes been really sad lately and he sends me emails saying he loves me and wants to get back together. should i say yes?
2007-06-23 16:10:09 · 24 answers · asked by x_LITTLE_RED_♥_MCR_x 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank yall for ur answers
i just kicked him 2 the curb
2007-06-23 16:37:04 · update #1
Do you trust him when he says he didn't do it?
Judge him by his actions not words. Emails don't take a great deal of love to write. Has he shown you his love with more than words?
Now, it seems from your question - you would like say yes, and might say 'yes' no matter what advice you get. It's your life and only you can decide. There isn't no right or wrong answers here. See some sense of reality, beyond the emotion.
either way, wish you good luck!
2007-06-23 16:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by King S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U said this isn't the first time he has done something like this. So if thats so then why do u want to be with a person who goes around kissing on other girls? The part about him calling and sending emails saying he loves u and wanting u back is just a front, he's been caught and now guilt is kicking him in the butt. He wants he cake and to eat it too but u can't allow that to happen. Dump him because if he has proved more then once he's not faithful to u so u need to move to a guy who kisses only u
Good Luck
2007-06-23 23:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly cheated, no you should not go back to him. Most guys who have cheated will deny it. Do you trust your best friend? I would tell my best friend if I saw it happen. You can find someone who will devote all his time to you and only you in the kissing department. I would have dumped him also. You could always ask the girl he kissed, but it may be worthless. I have been cheated on numberous times and I decided, once a cheat, always a cheat. Some people forgive and go on. You have to think that if you do, will you be wondering where he is. That kind of trust is hard to get back if he really did it. My Aunts husband cheated on her with my Uncle's wife. My aunt divorced her husband and my Uncle stayed with his wife. It is up to each individual to decide. If he denys it, you will always be wondering. You can go back to him and give him a second chance, but you have to have rules. Honesty and communication are very important in every relationship. Talk to him and state your will not tolerates or what you expect in a relationship. I told that to guys after I had been cheated on. They knew from the get go.
Best wishes to you in your life.
2007-06-23 23:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should say no. If some fake crocodile tears and a sad face can make you break your guard then you are pretty easy. Maybe he does this because this is the strategy that works against you. If you can say that he does this a lot then what makes you think he didn't do it again. Come on don't be a dumb one on this.
2007-06-23 23:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by mzcanice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, i'd say no. Hes being a jerk to you. Hes using you. I say lose him, find someone else. There are better people out there. Don't keep going back to someone who will do this to you again. I know you love him, and you don't wanna lose him..but think about how you'll feel. You'll feel the same. If your bff saw him, its true. I bet you he didn't think he'd get caught.
i'm sorry that hes a jerk to you.. i hope things get betterr :)
2007-06-23 23:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by patheticxmikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that BFF and Boyfriends don't mix well. Are you sure your BFF was being honest with you or maybe she just doesn't like him and the time he's taken away from you. (I've had problems with this before .. from both ends being the jealous one and having my best friend be jealous) If you still like him, talk to him about it and consider taking him back.
2007-06-23 23:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it comes down to who do you trust more? Is your girlfriend more trustworthy or is your boyfriend? You say it wouldn't be the first time, that alone is grounds to doubt him in my book. Has your girlfriend ever lied to you that you know of? If not, go with her word and let his sorry as regret what he did - alone. Why do you want to be his doormat? Do you enjoy him trampling on you? Does it feel good? It's ok to be selfish when people are using you!
2007-06-23 23:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think so but swear that if he does it again you are totally breaking up with no second thoughts. that should get to him if he really likes you for who you are, not just another one of his girls. by the way, your friend saw that so if she really likes your bf too, she might be just saying that so that she can edge you away and step in. It may or may not be true, depending upon whether or not she is a true friend to the end. good luck!
2007-06-23 23:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sk8erchik 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
pretty much you are in a no win situation. you have to decide who you believe, your friend or your boffriend. one of them is not being honest. if you know for sure he has done it before, he is probably not being truthful. if that is the case why would you want to be with someone who is not honest with you. move on and find someone who respects you enough to be honest.
i myself have been less than honest at times and unless he confesses and truly feels bad for it he will do it again. i tell you this being a guy.
2007-06-23 23:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by manimal2878 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Girl, if he's done this more than once, that's pretty bad. Ever heard the old adage "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me" ? If this was just one time, and he had a good reason or excuse, not just a denial, then I'd say yes. But since he's done this before, he'll do it again.
2007-06-23 23:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by Yuki 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋