My husband and I have a controlled seperation (limited time, while we get therapy and work on our selves). We have two kids, and the youngest is showing behavior problems. I can tell he is affected by my husband's and my problems. My 3 year old wants attention and is hitting, throwing things, and I feel like I am constantly disciplining him. I am just afraid that this seperation will affect him long term, his pediatrician says he is too young for therapy though. I need advice on therapy for my son!
2007-06-23 15:44:41 · 9 answers · asked by sally 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son does not talk very much, and I think that is part of the problem. I am having him assesed next week for speech therapy. Thanks for all your answers, they are helping. Keep them coming!
2007-06-23 16:06:38 · update #1
Also, money is tight, (we wouldn't qualify for financial aid). If you know of a less costly alternative to therapy, I am all ears!
2007-06-23 16:20:02 · update #2
There is play therapy. Also, he might benefit from one on one time with you doing something fun like going to a playground.
2007-06-23 15:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by naejplman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about what is going on he may feel as though you have left him out of decisions he feels are very important for him to be a part of. They have play therapy that may help but I dont think he needs that if the problem started when the seperation began than he's trying to tell you something. You and your husband should make play dates with the children a couple times a week so they have both of you there and it gives them a bit of "normalsy" back. They are having a hard time with this just as everyone else involved. And they are alot smarter than we often give them credit for. My ex and I seperated when our son was 3 years old and for almost 2 years he got worse and worse, and we put him in therapy and did parenting classe and other unneeded things when finally he and his dad decided to take him to the movies and the park and at least "act" like we were a family. His behavior has improoved drastically. I hope everything works out for you and your little guy.
2007-07-01 12:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by nynerprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that your pediatrician was not helpful. Most people have heard of the terrible twos, but I think that two was heaven compared to 3! It so happens that his behavior is not abnormal for his age. You can read a few articles that might help you. If you and your husband are already in counseling then you should tell your counselor you concerns about your child and ask her for help. Try this book:
1 2 3 magic
easy-to-learn parenting techniques for parents of children ages 2-12.
Step 1: Control Obnoxious Behavior. Learn a simple technique to get your kids to STOP doing what you don't want them to do
Step 2: Encourage Good Behavior. Learn several effective methods to get your kids to START doing what you do want them to do
Step 3: Strengthen Relationships. Learn four powerful techniques that reinforce your bond with your children
2007-07-01 10:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by cmdlopez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand. Similar problem happened with us and we found help at a non denominational church. They teach preschool to kindergarten and someone there gave our son one on one time twice a week. Just playing and being happy. I made it a point not to yell or act out too. A simple task like bringing in grocery's would have normally consisted of me bringing them in and yelling sit down, stay still, wait!!!! Now I make it a fun game and smile and stuff. My husband is the one that yells and gets angry but it didn't help with me being a certain way. I think our son has forgotten about before because him acting out was a learned thing and now he doesn't do it anymore. We are Catholic and at first I was weary about going to a non denominational church for help but now I am just grateful.
2007-06-29 07:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a lot of kids, esp. young ones, the parents are the recipients of the therapy. You explain everything to the therapist and he'll tell you what to do to make your son happier, less combative, and better adjusted. Your son doesn't need the therapy. You do.
2007-07-01 05:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds more like he is going through "The terrible twos" I'm on the doctor's side here, but if you want to spend the money go right ahead. I think it would be funny if after tossing thousands of dollars into therapy you found out he was going through "The terrible twos" ...don't you?
2007-06-23 15:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a good psychologist who does play therapy and works with families. If the child is pretty verbal he will benefit and you will gain some insight into what's happening.
2007-06-23 15:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are therapists who specialize in very young children. I suggest you see another pediatrician to get a referral.
2007-06-23 15:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop spending so much time disciplining him and spend more time loving on him. Talk to him about the changes and let him talk about his feelings and most importantly let him know that he's not responsible for any of it.
2007-06-23 15:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋