in what ways have you changed?

Question

just thinking about Uncle Waynes previous question about saying sorry , has me thinking about how I have changed

I was very cold hearted , woulndn't even tell my mum I loved her let alone anyone else
didn't care too much if I hurt people , just shrugged it off and got on with my life

I can't even imagine being like that any more
it seems like a different person
and this change has only happened in the past 8 years or so
thank goodness I have grown , developed a sense of empathy and compassion
I am not even sure how or when this change took place ... only that it has

how have you changed ?
do you attribute it to anything in particular ?

lol you did not george
you have to be one of the funniest guys here

Answer 1

good question.
Yes I have.
One of those changes is being able to look at myself and see that I have.
It's almost about self awareness and I think this can be the only starting point to any (worthwhile) change in life.
I think I have finally realised that as well as a physical presence I also have a social presence too. Not on a world wide or community scale but on a personal one.
I have realised that no matter how I feel about those around me it all means nothing unless they know how I feel toward them.
I love my wife but if I don't tell her or show her then all that feeling is in vain.
It is not our own awareness of our passing that measures as people but the effect our passing has on others.
I attribute this to nothing more and nothing less than a single moment of clarity I experienced some time ago when a friend became terminally ill.
I have no religion, no beliefs but I carry with me a strong network of support from my 'family' and concrete freindships that provide support and stability.
Thank f"£k for them and thanks for the therapautic question.
This life has never been comfortable for me but right now I,ve got a smile on my lips and a glint in my eye. Right now? Lifes good!

Answer 2

I began as a hyper-sensitive child hurt by everything she encountered. I became a strong woman who loves herself and accepts that the world will have hurtful things and also, that the world is just as it should be....

I had to tone down my empathy and compassion because it was destroying me. I never stop changing and lately I have realized that there is no good/bad, right/wrong...things just are. I have the best intentions for each being and thing in this world, even when it means leaving them alone to suffer to learn their lesson...

Kisses and hugs to you!

Answer 3

Believing in the Lord has changed me in so many ways. Its not just believing, but its growing in him as well. As ive gotten closer to God and become a better christian, my ability to love and forgive has grown also. I used to worry about the most ridiculous things, but now, I wake up everyday and know that my only Job is to honor and follow Christ. If I do that, he will take care of the rest and always give me a path to follow. He has never left my side, and because of my faith Im a better person. It breaks my heart to see people go through pain and not have the Lord. Eternal joy is just one prayer away.

Answer 4

I think I was very much like you when you were younger. In my late teens/early twenties, it was all about ME. Talk about arrogant and cold! That was me. I think the "change" came with my daughter. Only then did I know how to love someone more than me. Family began to mean something more to me then. I rebuilt bridges I had burned, and mended fences I had left gaping holes in. In that moment I became a mother, my heart softened. She IS my life. Thanks for reminding me how far I've come. :)

Answer 5

Most people change as they mature and get older, I think. As for me--I had an unhappy childhood in a disfunctional home--I was blessed to marry a kind man and have learned to love and trust through the years. Also, having my children changed me. I learned what it was to love someone much more than myself. They also taught me patience.

Answer 6

I used to be moderate/conservative in my social thought and political leanings. Now, I would consider myself radically left and very progressive-minded.

What do I attribute it to? The Bush administration, higher education, reading lots of brilliant philosophers and scholars, and some great documentaries. Oh and meeting many diverse people from very diverse backgrounds.

Answer 7

I honestly don't recognize myself, I have been three different people, three distinct phases in my life, but the current one is not who I wanted to be--the second one was, but life happens and you can't always plan what you might fear someday, the fire that's burned you twice and left a scar so deep

Answer 8

I've changed and become more tolerant...and yet, I continue to change, hopefully for the better. As far as the I Love You's...Pangel, my freind, there are many here who love you, including Greenwood. Many blessings for you. Thank you for sharing your lovely memory.

Peace, Love, and Blessings
Greenwood

Answer 9

I used to get really angry, especially when people said I was "acting smart."

Then I realized I was smart, and realized some people aren't.

Now, like, I'm confident in what I say and if someone doesn't like the tone they read into it or they think I'm presumptious, they can bite me.

Answer 10

I used to be a very extremist fundie Christian. Obviously now I am not. Trust me, you guys would have not liked me back then. (Or maybe you would have, Acid Zebra insists he still would have liked me.)

I used to be way too forgiving and nice to people. I learned that it can be very harmful to put up with such stupidity because it made me miserable, so I have an much lower sense of tolerance for stupidity than I used to.