my dad's secratary (who is a HUGE part of his job) just quit. the government has been down his throat for a while now for some things that happened in his past, so that is making him lose a lot of money too. He stopped drinking five years ago, so that has helped save money, but he has been in debt since he was in college. he always tells me all the details of all his problems, and its starting to make me nervous about all the changes we are going to have to go through. any advice? by the way, i thirteen.
2007-06-23 14:39:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes, you will go through some very stressful changes in your life style but you have to remember that YOU are not the cause of your dad's money problems. its ok for him to let you know what's going on but its not ok if he tries to dump the problem on you. you can be concern and you can try to help but at 13 there isn't alot that you can do. and pray that he stays off the booze. good luck
2007-06-23 14:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by oldguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say try to be supportive of your dad. Like for example if he cant buy you this certain thing, dont get too mad at him. 4 awhile when my mom was single, my dad helped her out(yes they are split up) and i also helped out. I babysat and mowed ppl's lawns. In fact, i still do that today, but i dont (secretly)put the money in her purse, unless i feel very generous(yes it was that bad when my mom and my dad split up). I still wonder if she found out it was me putting 10 bucks in her purse everyday because if I just said, here mom, u can have 10 bucks, she would refuse it. So thats y i had to sneak it into her purse.--We weren't POOR either, I just wanted her to buy me stuff and I wanted her to buy herself stuff. Anyway, now she is married and since then, she had a son and we got a higher income. So i think that if you got a simple job that a thirteen year old could do, such as babysitting relatives, or mowing relatives or neighboors lawns, you could either buy half of your own stuff, or do what i did and "give" your dad the money.
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2007-06-24 15:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by supaflyredhead1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and father are so close then open up to him about how you are feeling. You may find out that he has a idea on whats going on in his life.
Just so you know life does change in a blink of an eye. As long as you have your family with you, you'll be just fine. Things change just try to make the best of it and make sure to let your Dad know that hes your number one know matter how much money you guys have.
Its nice to see that the two of you are so close.
2007-06-23 21:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by mrs.mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may seem bad to you right now but as you get older you will find that almost every one has money problomes, and it is just something you learn to deal with. The govewrnment can take away all your money but the one thing they cant take away is your life and the love you and your father share. Enjoy your time with him and dont worry about the money problomes
2007-06-23 22:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by lisa marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thirteen year-olds shouldnt worry about anything. Let him take care of his own problems. Besides, what is the worst that can happen?? Look at everything positively and hopefully he isnt trying to worry you over adult stuff!
2007-06-23 21:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like too much pressure for a 13 yr old. Sorry to hear of this, it must be very hard on you.
Can you talk to your school counselor?
2007-06-23 21:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a dad. Just try to support him and show him you Love him. Sometime you have to encourage him and tell him "Dad, You can do all things through Christ that strengthing you". And I bet your dad will be able to work it out....
2007-06-23 21:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by richonetime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel, my parent always discuss their financial issues infront of me...and it makes me wonder what is going to happen next, and it is scary sometimes, and its no fun when all of your friends go shopping and can spend alot of money, when u cant...
btw im thirteen too.
2007-06-23 21:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋