you can only clean a house so much and cook so much before you lose the plot. My kids are easy to look after. I need my time out of the house. I like working because of the social side of things. Being a mum is the best thing i have ever done. I want to give them everything they need.
2007-06-23 14:23:25 · 7 answers · asked by okleah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think I know how you are feeling. I have raised 4 wonderful children and I love than more than words. But I was a stay-at-home mom most of the years they were small. All those years I really missed working. I love to meet people and felt kind of bored with the household routine every day, all that time.
But I also knew that NOBODY would ever care for or teach and nurture my little ones as well as I could. It is just impossible for anyone to care as much as their own mommy.
But the fact is, you brought these children in to the world and they need you all the time, every day. It is such a short time when they are little, even though it seems like an eternity at times. Believe me, the time will soon come when they are in school all day and you will have more freedom to work and socialize the way you like to.
When my 3rd child was 21/2 yrs old, I got a job at a little job at a preschool where I could bring him with me. This was a part-time job, just mornings. He loved it and I did too. I had the best of both worlds.
Then, when I had my 4th child, we moved and I could not find such a nice part-time arrangement as before but we really needed a second income for the family. I put my littlest one in a day-care situation with a very nice lady and took a full-time office job. It was so hard for me to leave my baby for so much time each day and she never seemed to like it either. So, after a few months, I quit that job and I opened a preschool in my home and it was great. I felt so close to my children and was at home every afternoon as the older ones got home from school also. I did miss being around adults and socializing. But it was truly a very short time and I had to send my youngest one to school. I could never bring that special time back if I had continued to work and leave her with someone else. So, instead of regrets, I have many special memories.
People all around you will encourage you to go to work and get over your natural feelings of responsibility toward raising you kids. That is what is "popular" these days. But I know from working with children for many years in Scouts, preschool teaching and later teaching in public schools, that kids really benefit from having their mom home with them. They are just happier, more confident, and better behaved.
So I just wanted to share my experience with you. I hope you can make the best decision for your family and yourself. Just remember, the time when they are small is very short. Then, all too soon they are grown and don't need you anymore. Try to enjoy this time. I know you will be glad for it as the years go by.
Good Luck!
2007-06-23 15:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The transition was more weird than it was hard. It just felt "wrong" not to get up and go to work at first. But I've been home for six years now and no, I don't regret it a bit. The one thing that has made it good is that I joined a MOMS club group. That gave me friends and things to do besides just go to the park. When we moved from South Carolina to Virginia, finding the local group really helped me feel less like a stranger and an actual resident. I actually have very mixed feelings about going back to work someday. On the one hand, sometimes I look at my neighbor getting in her car to go to work and think "I want a job." But most of the time, I feel I am so overwhelmed here at home I just don't know how I'd manage a job and the house. So, since what I really want to do is be a writer, I am now trying to pursue that so I don't have to get a job someday.
2016-04-01 01:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not a bad mother for wanting to work and socialize outside of the home. Some people need that, others don't. Before we can give our best we have to feel our best. I was a stay at home mom for 5 years and in the beginning it was great! But like you said you can only cook and clean so much. I went back to work and it's been great! You do what you need to do to feel good about yourself. You'll be an even better mother.
2007-06-23 16:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to get away from the kids and the house to save your sanity. I used to think that I would love to be a stay at home mom. but circumstances did not allow that. And I have come to enjoy being out in the world rather than staying at home.
My kids are all grown and the longest I was ever without a job was a year. I don't think they missed anything. they all turned out fine.
Do what works for you. Some women thrive at home --some don't . If your children are happy, then you are doing the right thing for you.
2007-06-23 15:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not a bad mom you are just one of those people who actually don't want to sit around and do nothing. Have fun with your kids before they grow up to fast, cause if you blink you are gonna miss it. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. If you have to get a job 2 to 3 days out of the week at the mall or maybe even volunteer somewhere.
2007-06-23 15:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by exoticflava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you aren't working just to get away from them you aren't a bad mom. lots of people need more than being a homemaker. just remember not to put down the ones that are fine with just doing that. nothing wrong with wanting to be with adults and learn more than the latest casserole recipe. as long as you and your family are happy that's all that matters.
2007-06-23 15:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way u are an awsome mom just the way u r just as long as you spend a little time with kids their is nothing wrong with workng you sport you're family with ur work moey don't u ?
2007-06-23 14:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋