I've been talking to this girl for a few months now and I'm just really frustrated because she won't open up and let me show her that I really like her. She was with her ex for 4 years when she was cheated on last year. I've tried lots of things like just sending flowers to work and she says she enjoys that and I make her laugh, but i doesn't seem to be getting me anywhere. She says she thinks I'm great, but she doesn't know when she'll be ready. I don't want to give up on her or push her into a relationship, but I would like to help her understand that I would never hurt her. I have a feeling this will take some serious time. What should I do?
2007-06-23 13:59:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think she needs to open up so that you can show her that you really like her. It sounds like you've been doing that already. Having such patience and understanding goes a long way, and to top that off with making her laugh and even sending her flowers at work, she's a lucky woman to be on the receiving end of such wonderful treatment. Now maybe her wounds are very deep, I'm certainly not going to argue that, I've been there. The cynicism created by that kind of situation is hard to let go. And maybe your attention has been helping her start to feel better about herself. But with all the things you've done and her lack of interest in moving forward, maybe it's time to ask yourself whether or not she likes you in that way. It sounds like you've done everything right, above and beyond your average guy, so why isn't she responding? If she didn't care about your feelings, she would have blown you off by now. But maybe she's been touched by your kindness and understanding and doesn't want to hurt you. It sounds like it's time to re-evaluate your situation and what you've been getting in return.
2007-06-23 14:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by ashkuly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love this girl and want to be with her and mean what you say give her some breathing room right now she is recovering from past pain and it is a hard thing to over come. Be her friend she knows how you feel and let her work through it trust takes time and if she feels pressured or pushed by you she will surely run and you will lose her for good. Let her come to you and it may take awhile for her to do that but it is far worth it than loseing someone great. Good luck and be patient it will all work out.
2007-06-23 14:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude stop being frustrated ! Be kind, loving, loyal and above all patient. If you can pull these things off you may possibly become the white knight she needs !
2007-06-23 14:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if she has a wall up, it is because she feels she needs it. It's her wall and the only thing you can do is respect it. If you come at it with a jackhammer, you will just reinforce her felt need to keep it up. be patient and respect her and her wall. She will take it down when she's ready and she is the only one who can take it down because it is her wall.
2007-06-23 14:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wounds takes time to heal, be realiable, be there for her. Don't push, just let her come to you. And then you'll be able to come on... (*high five* I am on fire today)
2007-06-23 14:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Leon Clemens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋