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Some say only if you would hang out with them outside of work, but I'm not sure that matters since I actually spend more time with my co-workers than I do with most of my friends and family. Can you get away with inviting some but not all?

2007-06-23 13:46:49 · 14 answers · asked by Lisa S 2 in Family & Relationships Weddings

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it's called, just another form of office politics.

you invite some but not others and they will certainly be offended.

but it's your wedding, do what will make you happiest.....not others.

2007-06-23 16:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I say invite the people that you want there. Just make sure that if they are not invited to your wedding, they are also not invited to the shower...that is just rude and asking for a gift basicly.
If you do not really associate with people or only associate on a business level and they are not people that you would hang out with outside the office, then it is perfectly fine not to invite them. If they are offended, they should not be. I am a bartender in a high class bar. I see the same people all the time, talk to them everyday...get along with them great, but if they were not in my job place daily, they would not be part of my life.
That is also something to think about. If you left your job, would you still associate with these people. Make a list and if the answer is no you would not associate with them if you were at another job,, then they do not need to be at your wedding. It is a personal day for you, your bride to be and close friends. It is not meant to be a party to make co workers happy. It is to make you happy, keep that in mind.

2007-06-23 20:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lillianne 5 · 0 0

It's completely upto you.
I think it's ok to invite SOME but not all, I don't think it's ok to invite MOST but not all.

Do you have a particular reason for not wanting to invite all? Are you trying to keep it small for budget or atmosphere reasons?

When my sister got married last year, she only invited a few people from her office (their office actually, her and her hubby worked together). Her big thing was that she didn't want people who were not invited to the wedding, to come to the shower, she thought that would be rude. It ended up happening though because her co-workers had started planning her shower before they contacted me. I don't think anyone was offended. In this day and age, people know how costly weddings can get, and some people don't even like going to weddings of co-workers who aren't even really friends.

2007-06-23 14:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0 0

That's tough. You can't invite some and not others - the ones not invites will inevitably find out and feel resentment. Most office-mates will throw you a small party at the office to congratulate you on getting married - I know my office did. I would've felt horrible not inviting them then to the wedding when they did all that. They even took up a collection and gave me a money order for almost $200! So nice. So, I invited all of them. I knew they wouldn't come - for one, my wedding was out of state. In my case, it was easy because I knew they wouldn't actually come. I got to make them all feel good without expanding the wedding budget astronomically. I'm not sure what your situation is but I would suggest you invite them. They are, afterall, the people you'll see most often when you return. You don't want to made the work environment bad for yourself.

2007-06-23 14:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think it depends on the size of your team at work - do you work with a team of 20 or a team of 5? If you work with only a few and invite just a couple, the others may be a bit put out... but it's your wedding and money so don't invite anyone you don't want to! I personally wouldn't invite my colleagues to my wedding - they're nice and I like them at work, but don't care to spend my personal time with them. I know that sounds bad! But I wouldn't invite them to my wedding unless it's someone I do choose to spend time with outside of work. (I think the difference is forced time together versus chosen time together.)

2007-06-23 15:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It becomes a very fine line. There was a wedding last week only about half of work place and recently retired from the work place people were invited. Many hard feelings.

I wasn't invited, not a big deal. For me, the big deal was I was invited to the shower!!!

2007-06-23 14:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Devon 6 · 0 0

it's fine to have them but if you're not gonna invite all....send the invitations to their homes instead of passing them out at work. Be prepared for post-wedding conversation between the ones that did go. So it might not stay a secret.

2007-06-23 14:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by dnhsguy02 2 · 0 0

You can invite whoever you like. That rule of thumb is mostly for buget brides who need a little help on who to cut from their guest list. It's kinda like the rule that if you havn't spoken to your family member in 2 years you don't have to invite them to the wedding. If you can afford everyone it's not a problem but they are helpful little guidleines if you can't.

2007-06-23 13:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0 0

If you can afford them go ahead and invite them.

If you have a small company, it might be best to invite all to avoid hurt feelings. If you have a low budget, invite the ones you really want there.

If its a large company, invite who you want to invite.

2007-06-23 18:54:18 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0 0

Um, why not.....i mean lets be real here its your choice.
i think that you can do it quietly and just explain to people you are trying to keep it small and you cant afford to invite everyone. i am sure that if they are nice they will understand and wont say to much. it gets out of hand sometimes when you start going into workplaces and what not.....good luck

2007-06-23 14:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by jelly_bean_19_69 2 · 0 0

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