i met someone really wonderful online and became b/f and g/f
with em,,it has been 9months now that we are together but it sucks due to the distance we share and other matters!
we talk more then 15 times a day on the phone and send eachother gifts and have plans to meet soon.. and i know he loves me as much as i love him. i never thought possible but love does work its on rules when it comes to fallen in love.
2007-06-23 11:52:55 · 27 answers · asked by JEAN N REAGAN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have to say it is possible. i am married to him ;)
good luck
2007-06-23 11:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by zirconiag 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, I have a girlfriend of a year and 8 months now who I've only seen in person for 4 days. We talked for about a year and two months before we'd met, we had plans since about 4 months in, but never acted on them until then. Not too awful long ago I flew out (over 4 states) to see her. It simply reaffirmed what we both already knew; We're in love. We talk almost every night on the phone, and in a year and eight months, only four of those have been spent with no contact (involuntarily of course). It's a lot harder than a relationship where you see one another every day, and only the most determined, committed people will be able to make it. My cousin met his wife online, and met after two months - they're a perfect example of the fact that it DOES happen.
I find it so amazing that people don't believe it can work, honestly, it shows me that love is unappreciated today, because often times relationships are based not out of love, but on lust - something that is much more likely to be found in person, than online. Where as love can be found even online, and with the right people, the right commitment, and true love between the parties, it can, and will work. Back on point, it usually shows the doubters are more interested in lust than love.
Yes, people can make themselves out to be someone they're not. They can do that in person too, maybe not to the same extreme, but they can take 5-6 years off their age, they can claim experience they don't have, lie and make stuff up just as good as anyone online. A big part of love is trust, if you can't trust, you can't love anyone, online, or offline.
If both parties decide to be honest with one-another, I think the relationship can be BETTER than many in person relationships (bare in mind, any serious relationship online should make the jump to an in person relationship eventually) because then you know this person - mentally, more so than physically, you have a deeper conversation when you're not so distracted by sexual urges mounting themselves. (Sex has It's place and time in a relationship - that being AFTER love). You have to talk, the depth of your relationship cannot be "make-out buddies" and function (whereas some of those relationships do last until marriage - then fail when that's all they were). You HAVE to have a deep emotional connection to have even a mediocre online relationship
2007-06-23 19:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by Ethernaut 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm I should make this a book.
How my mommy met my new daddy. Haha. Sorry I just though of that. Yeah you can fall in love. My boyfriend and I only talked over the phone and computer the first month and a half we were dating, although I met him two times before while he was working but that was just a five minute thing. I didnt meet him on the internet but thats how I talked to him for the most part and I loved him then, but I had to go on atleast two dates before I fell inlove with him. But also thats how my mom found my step-dad. Oh the power of the internet.
2007-06-23 19:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course....you can LOVE someone you meet on the beach, or the telephone, or in church for goodness sake..so why not someone you meet on line?
my question is what were you waiting for on this line you met each other?
i hope it was a bottle of wine...
please do tell...
Or did you mean online--like the internet? The answer is still yes..i have met/exchange info/laughs "online" with plenty of people i love since our echanges...
But I sense you might have meant "is it possible to be in love"? Sure, but I think it is probably a "crush/strong interest/curiousity" than actual in love...
As someone else answered, I need to look the other person (in my case, the other woman) in the eyes before i can tell if their is a physical attraction to the equation.
Too many people in my CASE (not of wine, here) think they can meet someone special online...but that relationship is different than the human existence. You can end on online conversation for the moment and resume it later, and nobody minds...try doing that in person/or on the telephone, and than check the reactions you both feel.
That might be a good test for you. I don't know much about this online stuff. Asl me about wine, or something black and white.
Good luck to you.
2007-06-24 17:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by ChopperPilot 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tried the whole online thing once and it got to about the same pitch as you're at. We talked on the phone, sent each other things, talked about meeting, etc. But really, it basically just turned out to be a waste of time. Sure it feels ok, but you can't really carry on a relationship like you can in person, so until you get to that point, i wouldn't call it a real relationship.
2007-06-23 18:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Gosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you even met him? I met someone online who lived miles away. He came & stayed with me & things were great. Then he went back home & got sectioned in a mental hospital & hid the reason why from me. Thats when I realised he wasnt what i thought he was at all.
Be careful! Try to meet someone other than the internet. I know i sound mean but i dont want anyone to go thru what I did.
2007-06-23 18:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knights in search of their princess had to ride a white horse to search for her, now they just ride on an internet cable.....love does work in its own mysterious and unique way.....even if you don't like him after some social interaction in person, you can always end it......other than that, as much time as you two have invested in each other, I really don't see it happening, because real love has no distance nor boundaries, and I believe you've come across a real deal.....only you know for sure, and God's best blessings upon you both.....
2007-06-23 19:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by toocoolsnoopy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not have beleived this to ever be possible on the cyber world, however over the past 8-9 months i have found such a woman who has captured my heart and my soul. and that is you... it amazes me every day that a man could have such feeling for someone he has never met felt smelled nor touched .....but i am standing here before you today declaring that this phenomenon can and does happen to people you would never expect it too. jean i love you baby with all my heart .
2007-06-23 22:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by pisof49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible to love someone who is not as they seem. The Internet / email allow someone to become pretty much whomever they want to be. For example: ( I'm 31 years old, 6 feet tall and muscular, or am I 62 years old and obese?.)
It will be interesting for you to finally learn all the truth. I hope you do so safely.
God bless you
2007-06-23 18:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by John M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it has happened to me once, but then we had to deal with a long distance relationship and cultural differences. However, by the time we meant, we really knew each other well and luckily the chemistry was amazing. I would still say he is my love, but the logistics didn't work.
2007-06-23 19:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to find some1 online that you connect with, but you won't know if it's love till you actually meet and live together for awhile.
But yes, it is possible it could blossom into love.
Friends I know are living proof.
2007-06-23 18:57:13 · answer #11 · answered by Rex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋