Okay,the thing is.I dont really know what it means to be in love.I never dated anyone more than lets say,3 weeks.I am still young,but I want to be in a relationship so I can spend my time with someone and talk,and shre our interests,etc...
So,I meet this guy,online,on a chat.He's from my town too,so it can be very easy for us to date.But the thing is,he's a moron!!!He only think of himself,sex,stupidity,etc...But I still like him,alot,and he's very smart,only he plays to be really a jerk.(Oh,and he is really cute and handsome).So,I ask him if he wants to date me,and he says he's not into dating,blablabla...And rejectes me...A few days later,I meet his friend online.He's really nicer and a better guy than te first one.But(there's always a but),I know I'm gonna sound mean and stupid now,but he's just not like the first one...But he likes me and would probably want to be with me...So what do I do now?Please people help...It's begining to bother me alot...
2007-06-23 09:41:44 · 18 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Deep down I suspect you're a pretty smart girl (psg) and already know the answer to your own question....but in the meanwhile, yes, you do sound more stupid than mean. For some reason, you seem to think (or else you do) have a certain amount of chemistry with the first guy (#1) that just isn't there with the second guy (#2). But because your a psg you recognize that #1 is self centered and immature and even though he looks like a dreamboat he's just not ready for what you want in a relationship. I suspect you are at that age where your emotional maturity is way ahead of most of the guys in your dating range. Which means you are probably too young yourself to be in a serious relationship (even though you long to be). I know this is not what you want to hear, but try and be patient. Time is the great leveler and it won't be too long before the guys start to catch up a little. If you continue to pursue this, I'm afraid you are in for a heartbreak. However, let's say you decided to give #2 a chance, which might be okay, but I think you might end up hurting him the same way #1 might hurt you and that would put you taking steps backward rather than forward. But I am convinced that you already knew every bit of what I am saying because, after all, I know and you know that you're a pretty smart girl.
2007-06-23 09:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love, you'll feel it. you won't have doubts and you'll never think he's a moron, even if he is. Just meet people, and you'll find the best one. I am a little like you too, so I understand you, short term relationships bother me and long term elationships are more preferable to share interests, opinion, etc. But let me tell you that it is hart to find to find a man like that. Most of them are morons longing just for sex and do not care about the rest. But it does not mean that the opposites do not exist. Good luck!
2007-06-23 17:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by Esmeralda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sell yourself short by dating a good looking guy that only wants to get in your pants and then leave you. You're REALLY gonna be bothered then, as you put your last line. Who says you have to date this other guy. You can never have enough friends, and who knows, it might turn into more later. First off, get off the kick of wanting to find a relationship. Let those come naturally. If you force one, you usually sell yourself short, or date someone that really turns out to like you, and then you wind up hurting them. Take it easy..... let "love" take its course.
2007-06-23 16:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know the guy is a jerk...why are you even considering dating him still...that's how ppl screw themselves...and then a month or 2 from now...you'll be asking how to get rid of the jerk...don't start a relationship when someone who is already showing you he's selfish and probably only really wants sex from you...be smart...i understand you want to be in an relationship but don't set yourself up for heartache.....you said it yourself..he's a moron...you deserve better...don't settle for less...wait and get something you want and deserve.....
2007-06-23 16:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by ericka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget this internet dating thing.Too many jerks.
Go out with your friends and go to some dances and try and meet someone nice.
If you are in school go to some school dances or join some clubs.
Try some sports activities like slo pitch or whatever you like.
Go to some church functions.
Ask some of your friends if they know anyone you might like etc.
Don't get mixed up with some low class bum who only wants you for one thing.
Don't panic and make a rash decision or you could regret it for the rest of your life.
Keep looking and try and surround yourself with good friends and make good choices.
Good luck.
2007-06-23 17:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by laredokid22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he's alabout himself for get it its not love. being in love is the most invigerating feeling ever, you would give you life for this person, thats how much you love him, and you never want to part with him, you both wouldnt do anything the other person wouldnt want. if this guy want ounly sex dont bother, there is a guy out there for you some ware and all you need to do is look for him. its all about how the heart looks, not the out side. :) be smart hunny, this guy is not the one your looking for
2007-06-23 16:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by rachel marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol, aha, well, most girls tend to fall for the bad boy thats not "into dating" lol. i dont think u should go out with a guy that u dont truely like, its unfair on the guy, i think u could still talk to the 1 thats not into dating, n u can date, but not really call it dating, u know what i mean? like dont say ur dating, just "hanging around with eachother" that could make a difference. lol. just keep persuing him, unless hes also flirting with other girls, in which case hes not worth it. on the other hand u could learn to love his awesome friend.... lol
2007-06-23 16:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by JuLiA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into love your really young then shorty you still a way long time to go before you want to settle down take your time first enjoy life and when love really hits you you will know but like i said dont rush into it.
2007-06-23 16:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by navagator73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you always want what you cant get. The decisions up to you, it can go either way. I would advise you go with the guy that likes you. The other guy seems like he would cheat on you and not pay attention to your feelings. It shouldnt matter what he looks like but how you feel around him. If you like him, who the **** cares what he looks. Hope everything works out
2007-06-23 16:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading this, all I have to say is keep looking. If you go for this gut you will wind up with trouble. If your Young, don't push it, or be in a hurry. That's a good way to get a lot of trouble. If he is that bad, run!
2007-06-23 16:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by Saint 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋