Some religions still have the parents pick out their marriage partners. Is this right or wrong?

Answer 1

this is a cultural idea, that the families pick the marriage partner. It isn't right OR wrong. It just is what they do. And I have heard that these arranged marriages can work out very well. I guess it just depends on what expectations you have entering the marriage. If you want someone with a similar background, income level, family background, religion, etc. And you want a good provider who is good with children, and wants the same lifestyle that you do, you would do very well with an arranged partner. Because your parents would tend to pick someone like yourself. If you are hoping to be a modern person, not raised traditional, you would be upset by this arrangement, because you would be hoping for more in a marriage. The older marriages have all worked out well because they expected different things than we do now in modern times. Is this you that is in a religion that picks your partner? It isn't right OR wrong. It is a cultural situation. If you are horrified by parents picking your partners, as happens in the U.S. when other cultures move here and have already arranged marriages "back home", then you need to talk to your parents about the problem you have with arranged marriages.

Answer 2

I have never heard of a religion that ever says that parents should choose their child's spouses. The only thing that it could say is respect your parents choices and decisions. In today's world we look at arranged marriges as bad, and it can be because their are cultures, not religions who still pratice, but sometimes those couples over time build love and get to know each other. But again there is still bad cases. I mean its not always right, and it not always wrong. But you have to remeber its culture and not religious beliefs.

Answer 3

I only think it's wrong if the parents force their son or daughter to marry the one they picked. I'm all for parents deciding if the person they chose is a good match or not, but ultimately it's the child's happiness and they should get the last decision, not the parents.

Answer 4

It is not Religious .It is cultural,Geographical and Ehnic.In India among the followers of all Religions -Hindu, Muslim, Christian, Jain, Sikh, Parsi, even intra Religious denominations-still 95 %- only parents select the life-partners for their children.Within the same Religion/caste among permiisible combinations also Economic status plays a role in marriages--Love marriages --intra/inter Religious marriages do take place.--Quarrels/Murders also take place in such "Love Marriages" even among highly educated (Ph.D./M.D.) people..The newly married couple have been burned alive by parents of both the parties.This aspect has formed the "Theme" of 100s of Cinema Films/T.V.serials in all the 18 languages, even today also.Even among the U.S.educated/U.S Citizens of Indian origin -Ist generation-among all Religions this is very common.

Answer 5

Well at least the child doesn't have to look for a mate. Some Christians almost have arranged marriages. Do you think that Prince William could marry a nobody?

Answer 6

Wrong. A marriage without some attraction won't work.

Answer 7

There are religions that choose, (they dont actually choose) but you marry, the one you wind up next to.
There are some cultures, that do pick the one you will marry. so good luck. I believe the moonies did it, or was it that other group that wear nurses uniforms.
EDIT- they showed them on tv, where thee was 1000 of them getting married, like that .FACT.

Answer 8

I don't agree with it.

Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Nothing about parents picking the spouse.

Answer 9

It's cultural.. While I can't fathom choosing a spouse for any of my children someone of a different culture couldn't fathom not choosing..

I don't think it's right or wrong it's just differences in culture and cultural rituals..

Answer 10

Parents are quite experienced people/We should take their advice..But if parents force their children to marry smone only they like, that is against human rights!