They have been excpecting this visit for a long time , live the other side of the world, and everything is already arranged. But I have less and less patience with the childs father and feel like cancelling the whole trip at the last minute...
2007-06-23 09:04:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
but the big problem is that he is coming with us....
2007-06-23 09:53:13 · update #1
Dear FIZZYMIA. With all honesty it would be a big blow for your parents not to see their grand-child. As you say they have been waiting for a long time for this and to cancel at the last minute would be very upsetting for them. It is possible that your husband is not the only reason for the loss of patience. Travelling and the preparation can add to the pressure, making sure you have everything and seeing your parents again after a long time. Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. Tell him you need help and not hindrance. When the time comes and your all on the plane, you might feel a whole lot better and your husbands attitude might get better once you have arrived and seeing the joy on your parents face. Take the chance and continue planning for your visit and the best of luck to you........
2007-06-23 10:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by David Wilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all grandparents suffer from the same desease......he he.
It ' s most common than u think. My experience is that my grand son gives so much hapiness I never dream, that I simply ignore the rest. I focus on the child. Specially if you live far away it s just only one effort. Somebody told me ." Do as if............"
you are happy.... if you love everyone, and keep your real feelings in a box while visiting. Is important you go: for you, for the child, and for the whole family. You are important . Your role is important . Sure you will not repent (regret) Wish you luch and the best
2007-06-23 10:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by nikkita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it you will only be hurting the child. My nan is one of the most important people in my life and it really saddens me to know that some people don't have the pleasure of knowing their grandparents and that some grandparents don't have the pleasure of knowing their grandchildren. Put up with the dad, the child's joy at meeting these people who love him or her unconditionally will make it all worth while in the end...oh and be sure not to fight with the child's dad in front of him or her..its not going to help anyone and will just turn the whole memory into a negative one for the child. No one can have too many people around to love him/her so you should welcome all the family that the child has into his/her life.
2007-06-23 10:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by zzzzzzzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you should not cancel the trip. The grandparents shouldn't be punished for the actions of the child's father.
2007-06-23 09:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your predicament but it would be awfully hard on them.The best thing to do is call a truce with the Father just for the duration of the visit.I'm sure this will be hard but just think what pleasure it will give to the grandparents.
2007-06-23 09:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by chezliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gripe is with the father of the children. The grandparents are an innocent party. It would be unforgivable to deny them this visit
2007-06-23 09:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not the grandparents fault, or the childs. All parties have the right to get to know each other whatever your feelings. Just grin and bear it.
2007-06-23 09:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why blame the grandparents for the actions of their son. give them a chance theres no law saying you have to talk to the father.
2007-06-23 09:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by lismarie16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be terrible, stop being selfish and be a good parent and think of your child before yourself!
2007-06-23 09:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by sally j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do that to them! Whatever you're going thru with the father, isn't his parents' fault.
2007-06-23 09:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋