Teenagers, how can your parents make you feel like they respect you?

Question

I really want to know. I have a teenage son who feels I do not respect him...and yes, I have asked him too.

Answer 1

I have worked with a lot of teenagers and raised a few of my own. Teenagers have a tremendous need to separate from parents yet they need us at the same time. It's a confusing time for them however most teenagers I have survived and managed to be successful with want...privacy and trust and have this silent need for parents to listen even if they are not going to agree. Respect is a two way street and teenagers have a tendency to think "ME and ME only and seem to slam the door at the two way street concept but they do not have the experience they think they have and you are just going to have to pick and choose your respect issues. Stick to your most important issues and allow your teenager to think he has won on issues you are willing to compromise. Teenagers really want parents to be parents and not friends and therefore they are telling us they do need structure but will never admit it...in fact often they verbally strike like a snake preying for his next meal. You sound like a good parent or you wouldn't be asking this so follow your inner voice and eventually it does get better. Good Luck

Answer 2

Actions speak louder than words. If your son feels you don't respect him look at how you treat him and see if there is any truth in it. If you get into his personal stuff, make plans for him without considering his feelings, or talk down to him, then he might have an argument. However, if this is just typical teen talk "you won't let me do whatever I want and I should get to cause I want to and you don't RESPECT me", then don't fall for it.

Simply examine your behavior. What happens when they are teens is that one day they need you to tie their shoes and whoosh the next day they need to shave. In a blink of an instant parents are faced with their soon to be young adult and they are caught off guard. Ask your son to give you concrete examples of when your have been disrespectful to him, and see if there is any validity in it. Don't be surprised if he can't come up with any. Teens will say anything to put you off guard. Remember you are his mom, not his friend.

Answer 3

Let him have his space. Teenagers like to have a lt of time without their parents around them. Always wanting to take them places and spend quality time. But every so often you should do this, but make sure they DO NOT HAVE PLANS. They will get a feeling that you respect their personal space. Also as much as you would like to, discussing how your kids day went isnt always interesting for them. Just let them say hi and if they want to talk then they should know by now that they can always come to you/

Answer 4

I am 16 I will be 17 in a few more days...Sometimes I really don't feel as though my mom respects me or my opinions.She sometimes say things to me and she won't apologize she'll be like oo I thought this or that.She always say o ya my youngest daughter she is very respectful and soft spoken she takes after her granny.I am soft spoken, but it is only so that I won't hurt her feelings or make her angry.She yells sometimes excessively but she doesn't know it...but I have told her that her yelling makes me want to cry sometimes so she told me she will try she is improving long and along, but she still doesn't understand me when I say can I just be alone for a few...but hey she is my mother so...I don't know ask your son to write down one thing you do and explain why he doesn't like it and you do the same...and also pray about it my friend tell him to be honest so that mean you don't get angry no matter what he says respect his opinions...smiles---2---ya
Later,
Ablebaby

Answer 5

let him do what he wntss to do as long as he doesn;t cross the line..dont nag him for small things or hell think ur just taking out faults in him. Encourage him and stuff, but don;t be too lovey dovey and baby talk him. hes almost an adult so treat him like one. Just be there for him and make sure hes doing okay. Hope i could help

Answer 6

1.trust but sometimes u need to go with ur heart
2.freedom but not too much
3.listento what he has to say don't just go on a rampage
4.life, let him have one
5. he is a teenage boy let him do teenage boy things
i hpoe that helped but i am only 15 so that is what my opinion is.

Answer 7

There is probably no way that's going to happen until he's an adult. I felt the same way, but then I didn't always deserve the respect with my backtalking and such.

Answer 8

when i feel my parents respect me, they listen to what i have to say when i have to say it. when i make suggestions for dinner, they always go there.

its kind of like they go with the flow of what im saying.

Answer 9

leave us alone. let us be with our friends. trust us, thats a big thing. have a meal with us every once and a while. food makes everything better.

Answer 10

Giving me a fair share of privacy...