My ex boyfriend got a call from his LOSER friend yesterday, and told him that I had cheated on him in the months leading up to our breakup. I was with this guy for 5 years, and NEVER ONCE cheated. I can't understand how he can believe this guy. The one who told him this has horrible drama right now in his life with his maybe soon to be ex wife. I say maybe cause they have sex all the time...and even though he threatens her...she still keeps in contact with him. UGH. He is known to blow things out of proportion...like major, major anger problems.
My ex said last night that he doesn't want to talk to them again (the friend or his crazy wife)...and he doesn't trust me anymore. He told me not to try and convince him otherwise, and to have a good life.
I don't know what to do! He was my best friend...and even though we had broken up we were trying the friend thing...and it seemed to be working. I have another boyfriend, and he (my ex) is dating someone too. We aren't trying to get back together...but...damn...I can't let him believe that I cheated. He sounded so hurt when I talked to him.
He was such a big part of my life for so long, I can't completely write him off. (it has been 5 months since the breakup)
He is a sweet person, and I am so, so angry at this stupid friend.
We had broken up for things that we both couldn't handle anymore....but always knew we would be friends.
Any advice on what I can say or do? This is nonsense!
2007-06-23 08:20:49 · 21 answers · asked by WantSomethingGood 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh...and FYI: He doesn't read this kind of thing...so kindly f-ck off!
2007-06-23 08:36:26 · update #1
Yes, it is nonsense. If he were a good friend, he would have given you a chance to share your side of the story. That's what friends do. If his mind is made up, then I'd say good riddance to him...you don't want people like that in your life. Aren't you glad you found this out now? Can you imagine what would have happened if you had married him? EEEK!
2007-06-23 08:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Concerned Parent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the channel on this soap opera !!!...You don't need this drama in your life with the crazy friend or your EX.....If your Ex believes this crazy friend then you better off without him....Even though it hurts you have too move on with your life. Seems he isn't gonna change his mind...So move on and let's start working on this new relationship you have going. If you can look at your self in the mirror every morning and know you did nothing wrong then move on ..His lost on a good friend.....P.S ( native indian) has issues with men not all men are dogs and there only dogs if you let them take advantage of you.....and that called being a FOOL !!
2007-06-23 08:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by thebaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I were you I would probably just let it go and forget all about those people. However, I can understand you don't want someone thinking ill of you. If I were you I would send a letter (you know.. by snail mail) stating that you don't plan to contact him again, that you wish him the best but you insist on your faithfulness during the course of your relationship.
Sounds like you speculate a lot about the crazy friend and he did the same to you.
2007-06-23 08:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you comprehend what if he or you is pondering cheating. The its the two approximately to take place or it already has occurred. I cheated on my husband as quickly as I became 20 and that i became into questioning approximately it a on an identical time as till now I ever did it. whilst he left me however i found out i myself needed him to stay with me reason the guy I cheated on him with would desire to by no potential evaluate to him. the only component with the myspace is saying somebody is warm or smokin does not appear as if he's thinkin approximately cheating. So perhaps you 2 purely could communicate.
2016-11-07 07:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just end the friendship. There is no sense in suffering like this. Too much drama. Trust me youll get over it soon. I was in the same situation and i would say 99.9% of the time the friends thing doesnt work for too long. well maybe on TV it does.lol.
2007-06-23 08:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by student4444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, seems like you have a lot of troubles... but what i would do is get your ex's crazy friend, your ex, and you together and make the crazy friend admit to you and him together that "you cheated". because that would be facing reality, and he might just say that he made it up. you never really know. but the one thing i hate is when people judge other people by what other people say. just stay strong! and he doesnt come aroung then maybe it wasnt meant to be. you sound like a good person, you will find someone else.
2007-06-23 08:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was kind of in this situation. My ex that I dated for four years swears up and down I cheated on him when I didn't. I just got tired of it and broke it off.
Really, if he doesn't trust you, just let it be. Don't let his opinion of you affect you that much. He was an important part of your life but you need to move on, just make sure the guy you're dating now knows what happened and understands you didn't cheat.
2007-06-23 08:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ava-Marie Germaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, we have to give it ti God, the things, which we have no controll over, He is the master, when i come to love, i uderstand, how it is to have a friendship with your ex, and that is cool, but, at some point you have to let go, getting back to gather, sometimes rekindling thoughs reason, why you broke up in the first place, their is love out their for you, God made more than one Adam, you can go out there and find you another loser?, or you can trust in him to find you your soulmate.!!!
2007-06-23 08:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by hardybody111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd talk to his trouble making friend about it, and ask him what kind of sick pleasure could he possibly be getting out of hurting his "Friend"? why would anyone want to hurt someone that is your friend anyway... find out why he said that, and then make him tell your ex the TRUTH. if he refuses, then i don't know what else to besides drag him out by his ear, and make him call your ex while you stand there and hear him tell the poor guy the truth. He should be ashamed of himself for causing pain on someone he's supposed to be friends with.
2007-06-23 08:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by tweetybird37406 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are broken up. Apparently he's not ready to move on yet or ready to give up control over you if he's still trying to start fights. Just tell him that while it was a great relationship and you guys shared some good memories, it's over and he has to accept that.
2007-06-23 08:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋