I have a relative who it unmarried and pregnant. I have always heard that it is in poor taste to have a baby shower in this situation. What does etiquette dictate?
2007-06-23 08:13:16 · 11 answers · asked by bonnie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I've never heard of having a baby shower for an unwed mother being in bad taste... in fact, they probably need it more than those that are married. Yes, it's an unfortunate situation, but I'd give her one anyways and try to be supportive. The only thing that is in bad taste is to have a baby shower for mothers that have already had a baby shower and are expecting baby #2.
2007-06-23 08:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by April W 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was always told that it was considered tacky to have a baby shower with another child. Though, I have been told that you should have another baby shower if the next child is of a different gender. I personally don't think I would have another baby shower. I would feel like I'm looking for handouts. But that is just me. I know a lot of women now a days have multiple baby showers...and no one minds. Plus...who doesn't love going to baby showers. :-D
2016-05-18 03:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never in poor taste for a friend or relative to give an expectant mother a baby shower, no matter what the expectant mother's situation or how many children she already has.
It is, however, poor etiquette to give ones self a baby shower.
2007-06-23 08:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by silverin.unwritten 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think in the "olden" days (like when I was a child) these things were kept quiet because they were usually accidents. So no showers were given. However many woman now choose to have children without being married. Go ahead and give the shower and celebrate this baby.
If there would happen to be anyone who disapproved of this, you would probably wouldn't want this person at the shower anyway.
2007-06-23 10:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe it's poor etiquette. I mean, it's not like the person has a disease, so why shun them as so. A baby is a joyous thing and the mother should be embraced.
It's believe it's in poor taste for family to shun someone in a time of joy, need and support.
Just b/c they aren't married, does not mean they will be a burden to society, a bad parent or a bad person.
2007-06-23 09:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Times change and the rules of etiquette change with the times. A baby shower for this mom-to-be is perfectly acceptable.
2007-06-27 04:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who are expecting a baby needs baby things. Throw a shower and welcome the baby to come. Would the baby be any more precious of the mother were married? No. Would the baby be any better off if the mother is punished or snubbed for religious or cultural beliefs? No.
Are the mother and baby living people and deserve to be treated with humanity? Yes.
2007-06-23 08:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow I've always heard that everyone gets a baby shower - shouldn't matter if they are married or not. Like the person above said, they probably actually would benefit from it MORE.
2007-06-23 08:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
THe shower is for the baby and not the mother. Quit judging and try to be happy for your relative.
2007-06-23 09:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by cttx2ne 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
screw etiquette think in human terms the woman is still gonna have a baby she probably could use the support and the gifts.especially if she does not have a legitimate mate. human nature can not be controlled, i am a bastard from ireland-proud of it....
2007-06-23 08:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by TERRY H 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋