I'm fed up, any solutions?

Question

every week end , I have to fight with one of my parents! since finished my studies and started working, we started fighting because of the way I manage my salary. I think it's a very personal matter, I work hard to get this money so i'm the only concerned of the way to spend it
I need to buy clothes for job and for everyday's liufe, I need to hung out with my friends, to have lunch at restaurants from tiem to time, but they don't understand that, they just want me to save it, and to keep it at the bank
I participate in he family expences, I pay my brothers medecines, the water, the electricity fees and many other things, even if I have a low salary
I don't understand why they are bothering me like that
they even don't want me to travel during my vocation!!

any suggestions?!!

for your information, in my society it's forbiden to live alone when you are a single girl, unless you really have to, for exemple if you have to work in another city ....if I had this opportunity I wouldn't stay a day more!

yes, actually i'm save an amount monthly through a bank service that helps you to save money for your retirement , so I'm not that bad in financial management!

You know, when I posted the question, I was so angry, now I feel more quite, and I feel guilty because I wrotte that about them, finaly they love me, and I love them too, ut I would like to explain to thm that it's time to give me the opportunity to manage my life like I want! they can advice but not 20 times per day!!!

Answer 1

These days its hard to teach kids any type of responsibility. What most young people of today don't understand is that things are much harder financially now than they were even 10 years ago.
I congratulate you on the fact that you have a job. There are many who would rather laze about at home, rather than have a sense of pride in themselves by earning a wage. You must be proud of yourself.
It is important to know (when it comes your salary and finances) that there has to be a balance. It is important for you to have your fun (and you're allowed because it is your money) so that you can destress, but it is important to know when to look at your money and know when to stop spending, and save.
Ultimately, what you choose for yourself is your choice as you earn your money, but try to be wise about it. Don't impulse buy, because, trust me, you will regret that item that cost you stacks of money that you wore once and is now sitting in the back of the closet. Don't go crazy with the mobile phone, and don't be concerned with looking like you have more money to spend than you actually do (usually in front of the friends). These are usually the things that get most young, newly employed people into trouble.
Take care and good luck :)

Answer 2

I suggest you make a deal with them that you will save something out of each paycheck. Even if it is $10, it adds up. I think your parents are trying to teach you financial responsibility.

There are so many people these days that live paycheck to paycheck. Just the other day my husband's daughter called "the water heater broke... and we've got no money to get a new one" She has a master's degree and her husband has a good job with the County. WHY dont they have money for a new water heater??

It's important to save for emergencies. It's important to save for things you want so you dont need to use credit to buy things. It's important to save for your future... and I know you're too young to be thinking of it... but someday you'll want to save for your retirement!

Your parents are just trying to get you off on the right foot.

Answer 3

I don't think you are as generous as you make out you are. You surely don't make that much money so early in your life after school. Perhaps your parents are worried that you will be one of those adult kids who still wants to live at home and mooch off of them. Just move out and then you can truly say you have control over your own money. You can save or spend the way you wish and it will be nobody's concern.

Answer 4

If your finished school totally and have a full time job why would you live at home where your parents would have that much information about your money situation?

Remove your self and take control over your own life.

Answer 5

sounds like you have a family that cares for you so very much. and you know what, it seems like they raised you really good. you are doing a lot of good and smart things with your money. let them know this, that without their teaching you how to handle money you would not be doing so many good things with your paycheck. and, you will continue to do responsible things with your money, but some of that pay is meant to be enjoyed by you. you will do with it what YOU want since you earned it, and you know when stop. tell them you love them, and you appreciate everything they have done for you, but you have grown up now and it's time to trust their daughter with all the good points they have taught you. remember, just to always be responsible, you don't want to prove them wrong. good luck to you.:)

Answer 6

It's good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it's good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven't lost the things that money can't buy. And that is your family.
Money may be the husk of many things but not the kernel. It brings you food, but not appetite; medicine, but not health; acquaintance, but not friends; servants, but not loyalty; days of joy, but not peace or happiness.

Answer 7

Wow that really sucks. Your helping out with the bills and doing your part, I think your parents are just being parents and want you to save your money. All parents tell their children that. Just keep doing what your doing. Its your money!

Answer 8

I doubt anything will change the way they are so you are going to have to change the way you react to it. Listen to what they have to say, smile at them, and then do just what you want anyway.
Then take a minute to think how lucky you are to have parents who care about you when so many people dont have that.

Answer 9

dear fed up hang in there.your parents are trying to teach you to save for a rainy day like that vacation you have in mind 10.00 will get you to the beach 1000.00will get you n your brother to Disney world so try direct deposit your check and take what you need try to leave 105IN THE CHRISTMAS ACCOUNT FOR CHRISTMAS ITS A GOOD HABIT N GET THEM OFF YOUR BACK luv DAD BASIC INSTRUCTIONS BEFORE LEAVING EARTH bible amen

Answer 10

Move out.