my friends kayla & sabrina & me want to go to the mall (none of us can drive) but sabrina's mom's car is a 2 seater so she can't drive anyone. and kayla's mom is at work all day so kayla doesn't have a ride.
so the only way all three of us would get to the mall would be if my mom picked up kayla & drove both of us to the mall (& sabrina takes her own car)
but when i asked her this was the conversation
me"kayla doesnt have a ride so can you pick her up when you take me"
mom"(yelling voice) CAROLINE! I DO NOT WANT TO TAKE 30 MINUTES OUT OF MY DAY TO TAKE YOUR LITTLE FRIENDS TO THE MALL!!!
me "its only one friend and itll take about 15 minutes & her mom isn't home so she doesn't have a way to get there"
mom"WELL TO BAD FOR KAYLA.! IM NOT DOING THIS ALL DAY I HAVE LAUNDRY TO DO!!!!!
so i just walked off
does anyone know what i can say so that she will take us
or should i ask my dad when he gets back from running errands because he is nicer when it comes to things like this
2007-06-23 07:24:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Offer to be a laundry slave for folding or otherwise for 2 times the amount of extra time required for the side trip for your friend.
2007-06-23 07:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by TzaGear 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Mom needs help. You want to go the mall with your friends - your Mom has laundry to do. Offer to help your Mom with the laundry or something else that needs to be done around the house. That will take some pressure off of your Mom and if you haven't gotten to the mall by the time your Dad gets home, he might be more likely to help you get to the mall when he sees you tried to help your Mom. Sounds like your Dad is trying to help out by running errands
If Mom's not happy - nobody's happy! Good luck :)
2007-06-23 15:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom sounds overwhelmed not evil. She's stuck at home doing everyone's laundry on a Saturday and you are going to the mall. Think about that. I think she over reacted but I can understand why. Why don't you tell her this, that if she will pick up your friend and take you to the mall, and I'm assuming picks you back up when you are done, that you will do all the towels and linens in the wash when you get home. And when you do get home, providing she takes you, then you get right to it, do a good job including folding and putting away. No messy half done job and absolutely no whining. Ask her if you can negotiate a deal and see what happens.
2007-06-23 14:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should put the mall on the back burner and help your mom with laundry and other chores first. Then, when you are truly satisfied that you have done YOUR part to help your mom and your dad, you can ask your dad to take you. If your mom works outside of the home and at home on her days off, then she is tired. Help her. The mall will still be there!
2007-06-23 14:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by BLM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What too good or too lazy to help around the house. If you did the laundry. Then just maybe she would have the time to take you. How old are you? Can't or won't take the bus, that is if one is available. Take some of the work off your mom and she will be in more of a mood to help you. Instead of thinking of it as just something else she has to do. (like doing the laundry, cleaning the house, cooking......ext...
2007-06-23 14:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Gunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to calm down.
I've been in your situation. I've felt the same way.
You need to look at it from HER eyes, not just yours. You are asking her to take out a fair chunk of her day to drive you and your friends around. I know that this is the summer, but you need to realize that life doesn't revolve around you just because school is out.
Your mom is busy. She has a schedule to keep, even if it's just laundy. To tell her that you need her to take you to the mall is pretty rude, actually.
And it's not about being nicer or meaner. It's about you WANTING to the go to the mall and getting denied.
2007-06-23 14:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe mom feels overwhelmed and not enough time to get everything done. Why dont you offer tohelp her out with the laundry or whatever it is that needs done in exchange for I ride. As a Mom I know that if my kids wanted me to take time out to take them when Im in the middle of something that offer would definitely make the decision to say yes way easier.
2007-06-23 17:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by tinkswings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you all take the city bus to the mall together?
I think if your old enough to go to the mall by yourselves then your all old enough to learn how public transit works!
Also I think you better learn that parents aren't there for your every whim such as taxi services and other things.
I have 3 children of my own and if they expected me to put my day on hold to run anyone of them around then they would be sadly mistaken. They have 2 feet each and a heart use it would be my response.
2007-06-23 14:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Possible mom would have rather heard 'can I help' instead of 'I want'. Of course you didn't mean 'I want & mom mean if say no to I want'. Go ahead & ask your Dad. Think about 'Can I help' more in future (or now) and remember mom has feelings & 'I wants' too.
Remember, you mom (I'm a mom & grandma) would have rather gone to the mall, too or do something else instead of 'home time' filled with only house chores and nothing fun.
2007-06-23 14:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by Carole Q 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about bargaining with your mom? It sounds like she's stressed. Is the house work getting to her? She says she has to do laundry. If you offered to help with chores would she be more willing (and have more time) to give you and your friend a ride? Would helping with the laundry give her more time for giving people rides?
I'm a grandma with six grown kids and 8 grandkids. One of the biggest treats was when one of my kids got old enough to be able to understand my situation and just OFFERED to help me without being asked. I still remember the day! It was my teenage son and he noticed the kitchen floor needed mopping and volunteered to do it. He thought I looked tired and stressed. He was right. We all feel like being nicer, or taking time to do something, for someone who helps us. It's called give and take.
2007-06-23 14:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Annie D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋