Given the divorce rate, domestic violence, and affairs rate. Why do people waste their lives no sex b4 marrige

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Given the divorce rate, domestic violence, and affairs rate. Why do people waste their lives no sex b4 marriage instead of living life to the full and if and only if they meet someone specail worth sticking with then do so.

OH AND DONT BOTHER WITH THE STD/AID ARGUMENT..


THATS ONLY FOR THOSE UNEDUCATED IN SEX ED AND CONDOMS

MOST LIKLY MANY WAITING TO GET MARRIED WILL END UP THOSE WHO CAN ONLY HUG A CAT AGED 50 STILL WITH THEIR MUM HAVING HAD NO LIFE AT ALL.

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RESPECTING ONE'S SELF.

is not wasting your life and getting all you can out of life be its sexaul shenaigans, travelling the world, skydiving...


its not letting people bully and treat you bad etc.

Its hitting someone who calls you a **** or whore as you want some affection in your life

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On the contrary the very things you mention concerning the failings of marriage and the violence of mankind are the result living life without God


IF YOU SUPPORT GOD AND THE CHURCH YOU SUPPORT THIS

Abusing, raping, and ripping the babies from the arms of 30,000 girls up to just 10 years ago

http://www.cinemaguild.com/sexin.pdf
http://www.netreach.net/~steed/magdalen.html

http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2003/04/04/1048962932185.html
http://www.nac1.bravehost.com/magdalene/magdalene_laundries.html
http://www.bbc.co.uk/northernireland/drama/tv/sinners/index.shtml
http://www.thewildgeese.com/pages/magdalen.html

http://www.torrentspy.com/torrent/397040/The_Magdalene_Sisters

http://www.netreach.net/~steed/magdalen.html

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0380703/

http://www.bbc.co.uk/northernireland/drama/sinners/interviews/annemarie.shtml
Origonal documentry available from

http://cgi.ebay.com/SEX-IN-A-COLD-CLIMATE-DVD-DOCUMENTRY-REG-0_W0QQitemZ6437066430QQcategoryZ617QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/programmes/panorama/3180406.stm

http://www.bbc.co.uk/pressoffice/pressreleases/stories/2003/10_october/09/panorama_holy_city

http://www.bbc.co.uk/pressoffice/pressreleases/stories/2003/10_october/09/panorama_holy_city.shtml

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/programmes/panorama/3147672.stm

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/programmes/panorama/3180174.stm

CHURCH SUPPORT FOR CHILD RAPE

http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/news/article-23369148-details/Pope+'led+cover-up+of+child+abuse+by+priests'/article.do

http://observer.guardian.co.uk/international/story/0,6903,1020400,00.html

http://observer.guardian.co.uk/international/story/0,6903,1020400,00.html

INQUISITION
http://members.lycos.co.uk/witchen/torchermethods.html

http://news.sky.com/skynews/article/0,,30200-1254780,00.html

http://www.thesun.co.uk/article/0,,2-2007130233,00.html

NASTY TREATMENT OF GIRLS

http://www.buzzpatrol.com/links/polish-high-school-student-expelled-for-playboy-shoot


WWW.EVILBIBLE.COM

4) Laws of Rape (Deuteronomy 22:28-29 NLT)



If a man is caught in the act of raping a young woman who is not engaged, he must pay fifty pieces of silver to her father. Then he must marry the young woman because he violated her, and he will never be allowed to divorce her.



What kind of lunatic would make a rape victim marry her attacker? Answer: God.



5) Death to the Rape Victim (Deuteronomy 22:23-24 NAB)



If within the city a man comes upon a maiden who is betrothed, and has relations with her, you shall bring them both out of the gate of the city and there stone them to death: the girl because she did not cry out for help though she was in the city, and the man because he violated his neighbors wife.



It is clear that God doesn't give a damn about the rape victim. He is only concerned about the violation of another mans "property".


the god is good argument wont wash and as said there are condoms and the pill

Answer 1

Not many people abstain before marriage.
The problem you speak of is not in my opinion sex before marriage, but poor choices in mates. How many women are attracted to the "BAD BOY" types, then complain how they are treated? Quite a few. I myself made a very poor choice the first time around and I was a poor choice for her. After divorcing, I was still making poor choices, but eventually wised up and started looking for the right woman for me, which takes effort for both men and women. first you have to be totally honest with yourself and decide what you really need in a mate and if you can be what they need. If more people did this and stopped chasing and marrying fantisies the divorce rate would plunge and so would family voilence.

One thing men and women do that causes bad marriages is they chase after the man or woman that everyone else thinhks is hot and then when the catch them, they regret it. My father in law was one of those men in collage that all the women were after and her mother got him and she thought she was the luckiest girl in collage until after a few years of marriage. Now he is a good guy, but when we marry a fantasy, it usually is a poor choice for us. Being in a bad marriage does not mean we are bad people just humans who made a poor choice in partners. Even in christianity a man or woman may be a strong christian, live what they believe and marry good christians, but still make a poor choice because their personalities are not compatable.

The first preacher I asked to perform our marrage for us refused unless I could write down 20 things about my current wife that I hated, his idea was that if you cannot find 20 things about each other that you absolutly hate, then you do not know each other well enough to get married. Well I have been married to this woman 14 years now and still cannot list 20 things I dislike about her, but I know her very well and she knows me very well. Thinking like that is a disiaster waiting to happen. Yes, you should know your mate, but knowing them does not mean you have to hate or dislike things about them. Yes we will have things aht irrate us at times, but the key is are those irratitations enough to hinder the marriage? For example a woman may not like fishing and if she really gets upset over her man going fishing, then they need to look at that closely and decide if it will hinder the marriage. If so, then maybe they should not get married.
BB

Answer 2

This is a funny question because the answer is so basic and in the instinct. It's sad that it's asked or thought of really.

A lot of the divorces, violence and affairs can happen because of broken homes, infidelity, promiscuity and having sex before marriage.

Sex is also not the most important thing. It was really about procreation in the first place, and where does that occur in? Marriage. So people should really be doing valuable things like taking care of their family, loved ones, doing hobbies and interests and not be all focused on sex. That's more animal-like and people are above that.

Also, for most people, acting responsibly, having morals and finding their love for marriage and being married is living life to the fullest.

Answer 3

The simple fact is that people who actually wait until they are married before having sex stay married to a much larger degree than those who play around before marriage. I guess it becomes a habit to sleep with just anyone you fancy and when you meet someone you fall for you get with them...get married and eventually when the sex becomes less...you go looking elsewhere because you know you can and it is so easy to find someone to sleep with.
In the pre 1960s people generally stayed together when married but the permissive 60's made sex easy for anyone who wanted to take advantage of the new way of living.
I believe that if I had waited till marriage before having sex..my life would have developed much differently......and for the better.
Best wishes, Mike.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Some people choose to abstain from sex before marriage due to the very things you did mention. It is not merely about saving yourself for the sacred commitment that they believe marriage to be, but a personal vow to uphold the teachings of God concerning sexual practice and extract the blessings that come with them. On the contrary the very things you mention concerning the failings of marriage and the violence of mankind are the result living life without God. The living of life to the full is not only possible, but more likely to be achieved when Godly values are not forsaken. Sexual promiscuity has a high cost to it and leaves many to suffer with unwanted pregnancy, painful choices, diseases, and feelings of emptiness. Sexuality is most appreciated in a commited relationship and is an expression of not merely lust, but the love and respect the individuals have for one another and themselves. Living a life of bad choices prior to making a commitment will in fact, jeopardize that commitment and in many cases destroy the chance one has of living life to the full.

Answer 6

I think you are backwards, most of the divorces come because so many people are having sex before marriage. Obviously this isn't the only reason but it plays a big part.

Answer 7

The cheapening of the Sexual relationship is a large part of the problems that you are sighting. It leads to the devaluing of the Family and especially of Father. By waiting to have sex after marriage...the couple can concentrate on other things that make relationships work instead of just having sex.

Answer 8

I did just that.... had sex b4 marriage then met my partner 16 years ago and have been only his since!
We are not married though.... don't see the point!


This is my view but I recognise that others will have a different view! :)

Answer 9

no sex before marriage is not a waste of life. the divorce rate among those who wait til they are married is extremely small. perhaps more people should take the hint.

Answer 10

Good Christians wait for someone special who won't divorce/abuse/cheat on them. They don't have premarital sex because it's a sin.