Gosh i'm so confused!!?

Question

Okay i'm so confused to the point i wonder how to put this down...

i'm in a long distance rship. but i sometimes hate my bf cuz he likes to criticise me in a way that rly hurts me. i'm a girl with esteem who wanna feel good abt myself!

but then i meet 2 other great guys at home! i think i like them both! i cant stand my bf. i wanna break up with him but i'm afraid of loneliness n what if these 2 guys cannot replace the security i hv with my bf?

these 2 guys are awesome and i think they both like me. gosh there are so many great guys back at home, what am i doing with my loser bf?

but bottom it all... i'm jz afraid i leave my bf and become vulnerable to loneliness if the guys don't pick me, and what if they pick me and the rship don't last, what if i dont feel secure... that's why i'm so scared to be single and alone.... help! those guys are so interesting!

Answer 1

Hi dear,

I saw that your primary problem is not about your bf, but more about your own feeling of afraid being lonely & feel vulnerable. Don't be! You should reallize that you're such a precious girl. You deserved to get respect from guys. So you should first raise your SELF CONFIDENT before you expect guys will be interesting on you. The fact that you write "you thought both them are like you" means that you're good enough to attract guys attention. So, what are you worried of? I think you're smart enough and at least has good looking. In that case, why should you have such low self esteem about yourself of being afraid of lonelines, being not secure when you don't have bf, or may feel vulnereable? That's not really make sense. Am I true on this point?

You also state earlier that "you are a girl with esteem who wanna feel good abt yourself?" So be that kind of girl. Be strong from now on :)

You also need to understand that not having a bf is not related to security, loneliness, etc, etc. It's all just in your head. You keep thinking about it, you make it grow like it was really bad if you don't have bf. You'll feel sad, loneliness, vulnerable, etc, etc... NOT even one of them is true. So move on.

You also said about "sometimes you hate your bf cuz he likes to criticise you in a way that rly hurts you?". I don't know if my reply here is hurts you or not? if you feel so, I'm sorry to says that it might your bf is somehow true when he criticise you. But in general, it's not good if your bf do hurt your feeling so bad and not considerate of your feeling. If so, just leave him firmly, because he doesn't deserve you :)

And... after you fix the problem about your "self esteem" and about wrong perception in security, loneliness, vulnerable, etc, etc.. You'll ready to catch another guys. Don't worry about something you can't control like is they will really like you? or is you'll get him or not?. Just concentrate and focus for anything you have control for it, i.e: how you manage your emotion, how you manage your dresses, your personality, your cheers, your friendships, your approach, your manner, etc.

So. don't be scared to be single and alone again.
Okay :)

Answer 2

Well Miss Perfect like me tell you something between me and you! You don't need be dependent on a boy or young man. Because you are you and they were not there when you are born they are luxury not what you need so you can break up with anyone. You don't need to be afraid to let go and move on. And if you think that is time be ready for the consequences and live with it. Live isn't always a chocolate cake you have to taste the dirt. And if those two guys don't last long then it is go you will have time to be alone. Because if you need boys you need to be alone! Good Luck and follow your heart!

Answer 3

dont worry about it. your current boyfriend obviously doesnt love yo enough not to hurt you. those two guys back at home sound real nice. Believe me the single life isnt as horrible as you make it out to be. Just cuz you are gunna feel lonely isnt a good enough reason to stay in a relationship. a relationship is full of love not worry. and just think you will be able to see your new boyfriend more if you decide to break up with your a**hole one

Answer 4

You should be single for a while and learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Then you can want a man and not need a man to feel complete. You are way too needy and you won't have a good relationship because of this. That is why you hang on to some one who is mean to you.

Answer 5

Christ girl! You need to break up with your boyfriend. Even if the two boys back home don't pick you up, someone will eventually pick you up. I don't understand why you would be with a boy that criticizes you, it is not right. Besides, long distance relationships don't work, ever. You need to break up with this guy, and go about your buisness.

Answer 6

u're really afraid to be alone yeah! well. if u are extremely certain that the great guys like you, then go for it. well, sooner or later you and ur bf are gonna break up. i think u shouldnt drag it anymore and get togther with ONE OF the great guys :)

Answer 7

Just continue to date the a$$hole long distance until one of the guys steps up

Answer 8

Learn how to spell and get proper grammar. Maybe then your self esteem will pick itself up off the ground.