me and my ex split up a couple of months ago. we were fighting alot and he ended the relationship. i moved out after only 6 months with my mom. we just started spending time together. he is always so busy. i work nights and he works both days and nights as a retail manager. he always has plans and is doing things and i feel so left out. i miss him alot. i miss spending time together. but i dont know how much i can take competing for his time. im thinking about moving the rest of my things out of his house and returning his house key. do u think this would get his attention? ive tried talking to him and im getting nowhere. he keeps telling me that he wants to see me and well work things out. i want him to go out and have fun. but he just cant seem to balance the two. what should i do??
2007-06-23 05:34:44 · 11 answers · asked by tish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i DID move out. i just have alot of household items left stored there. when i left he said he wanted time apart, so it was no rush to move out everything. i am the EX but he was the one who wanted to start spending time together again. thats why im confused if it was HIS idea. im not trying to take away his fun or tell him what to do. im just confused about the mixed signals..
2007-06-23 05:41:18 · update #1
okay.. you people keep saying i need to get a life. thats completely not my point. i work ten hours a day, five days a week. i go out and do my own thing on the weekends. i hang out with my friends and family alot. i dont sit at home and do nothing when he is out doing this thing. i just feel left out when he is making plans with his friends and it seems like he doesnt put much effort into spending time with me.
2007-06-23 05:54:34 · update #2
Tish... move your stuff out ASAP, but do it when he is not there so he can't convince you to not move it. The one time my bf and I broke up I left stuff at "our" apartment because I felt like it meant it wasn't official then, but I got smart and had my friend help me move all my stuff out and left the key. That really did it for him, made him feel like he was really going to lose me. I'm glad you are spending time with your friends and keeping busy. Don't worry about these people saying to get a life, I know you have a life, but he is always on your mind, and that's ok. So just get your stuff out of there and really really try to ignore him. You really have to let him miss you to make your relationship stronger in the long run. Good Luck Girl!
2007-06-23 07:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by **Sparkles** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds alot more healthier than you, he is engaged in life, trying to get ahead, and out there learning and being in the world. Try to emulate him. Young people living together benifits ususally the males sex needs and so there you go. Your atypical clueless female who needs an education. Hooking up is not the end all, its boring, you need a life, and like a guy the personal relationship is the iceing on the cake. But you need to bake your own cake. (get a life plan for your self). Then get the icing ( a nice guyfriend) . Then your busy with your life and happy to spend some time with a social life, notice I didn't say Live together.
2007-06-23 05:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes working than you have to decide if you can deal with him working long hours. if he is going out all the time with friends and leaves you behind all the time then you shouldn't be living with him. i believe that if you live with someone you should be ready or even come close to marriage. at least thought about it. if he is going out all the time trust me he doesn't see you as very important in his life. i went through this. always out with friends while the girlfriend stayed home. you get to a point of your life where you realize that if you plan to get married one day its gonna be with your girlfriend not your friends so you have to eventually spend more time with the girlfriend than the friends. he needs to grow up and decide whether he wants a serious relationship with a live in girlfriend or a "see you when i see you relationship" wtih someone who doesnt expect to much of him. see what he wants and make your decision.
2007-06-23 05:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by chevereeddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex. Let him have a life. So what if he'd rather spend time with his friends than with you. Your the EX not the center of his life anymore. Maybe you should go get a life of your own.
2007-06-23 05:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jessye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so hard when you love someone. But, remember the golden rule:
Words are cheap. Actions speak louder than words.
That's what I usually go by. Men can "say" anything but it's what they "do" to back up their words. I should take my own advice. It's hard when you're in love with someone. Time to move on. Sorry.
2007-06-23 05:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by All That Glitters isn't Gold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men,their jobs and their friends , go hand in hand. I have tried that one as well. Don't ever interfere with their job times, if he enjoys it, let him be, accept him as he is, and enjoy the little time you have with him. If he good at what he does and its going some where, you are going to have to give him his space and respect.
But you have the right to interfere when it comes to his time with his friends, he needs to make a choice on what is more important, you or his friends. If he cant, then you have your answer on what to do.
2007-06-23 05:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that would get his attention. If he doesn't want to spend time with you and on the relationship then what relationship is there. Matbe he needs a rude awaking....Gl
2007-06-23 05:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by 2shy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out of his house pronto (shacking up is never a good idea, it just makes you a cheap quickie) Why should he work for that which you are just handing over to him?
2007-06-23 05:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that your thinking of moving out but ur not sure yet. tell him its b/c you feel that your getting left out. thta should work
2007-06-23 05:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by chris i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a bunny?
2007-06-23 05:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋