i dumped my ex a month ago for someone else that i really liked who i am now going out with. My ex doesnt talk to me anymore. Now ive got this feeling that i still like my ex a bit. I told his friend that i still liked him a bit but i like my boyfreind too. What do i do?? and How do i get him to talk to me??
2007-06-23 05:28:48 · 25 answers · asked by NoYouHangUp.. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who would want to talk to someone who dumped them for someone else? Do you ex a favor and get off his *** already.
2007-06-23 05:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Boy, do you need to spend some time alone!
Stay away from your ex-boyfriend. You've already dumped him, now you're teasing him as well? Getting messages to him that you still like him? But not sure?
He's right not to talk to you. Why should he risk getting his heart broken again by a fickle, hedonistic girl who treats choosing boyfriends like choosing dessert at a restaraunt?
And your current boyfriend? How do you think he'd feel if he knew that you were trying to hook up with your ex?
You obviously have no consideration for others' feelings and are entirely too self-centered. Take a break from all your boyfriends and spend some time alone. Think about who you are as a person, your goals, dreams, priorities...what you want out of life. Then go find someone you value, someone with similar priorities, goals and dreams.
Stop playing with people's hearts.
2007-06-23 05:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by ann81969 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the guy alone, you dump him because somebody better came along, and then wonder why he wont talk to you, then you get this "feeling!" that you think you still like your ex and tell his friend in the vain hope that this may filter back to him!
You are either not ready for a mature grown up relationship or you enjoy being caught up in a love triangle and is used to getting things her own way.
You have already hurt one person and your willing to do the same thing again, it might surprise you to know that boy's have feelings to and you cant pick them up and put them down when the mood takes you, it's not fair on either of them.
Leave your ex alone and concentrate on your current partner, otherwise you may find yourself all alone and that in its self would be a lesson well taught!
2007-06-23 06:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are never easy. You're always doomed to hurt each other, one way or the other: it might be in a non specific way, it might be by ignoring each other's wishes, it can happen in lots of ways.
You broke up with your ex-boyfriend. Assuming the relationship wasn't sour, you broke up to be with someone else. Unfortunately, this happens. However, this is really hurtful for your ex-boyfriend.
Consider the message you've given him: I'm in a relationship with you, but there is someone else who will make me happier then you can do. At least that's what I believe, and I believe it so strongly, that I'm gonna dump your ***, for his'.
Since I'm actually leaving for someone else, not because we as a couple have problems, this means that you don't measure up to my new boyfriend.
I'm certain that wasn't what you wanted to tell him when you broke up with him for your new one, but it is sort of implied.
So don't be surprised that your ex doesn't want to talk with you, right now. It could happen in the future, when he has forgiven you, but right now .... not very likely.
This doesn't mean that you couldn't contact him, but do it with a letter. Write it down, the whole thing. Why you left him, why you chose the other guy, what you were feeling, what you're feeling now, what you want (and be sure of that) ... just be honest with yourself and with him.
This might not lead to him speaking to you, but it might help him in understanding, and getting over his hurt. But don't insist in meeting him face-to-face. Just write him. It gives him the opportunity to read your words again and again. Besides, it sidesteps quarrels and shouting matches.
But in all this, remember one thing: you hurt him. So, please, don't do it again.
Steven
2007-06-23 05:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ssq0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anything else in your world but hooking up? Check into an education. A hobby would be good here too, anything to get your mind off this ego love thing that is too weird. Females need to develop themselves so life is not all about the mall and hooking up musical chairs!
2007-06-23 05:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, i think when you dumped ur ex, you weren't thinkin straight. but you must know that missin ur ex is pretty common after a breakup. since you already dumped him for someone else, i think hes got another impression of u. so try to stay/be happy with ur current bf? don't talk to ur ex until about three weeks later. if u really want him to talk to u, i think you should start by apologising if u hurt him and that u wanna stay friends, sincerely :)
goodluck!
2007-06-23 05:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by bebebe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop being so wishy-washy and make up your mind. I hope you don't honestly expect men to just wait around while you bounce from guy to guy according to your latest whim. Pick a guy and stick with him, unless you want to develop the reputation of being a flighty whore.
If this offends you, it's only because I struck too close to home. Push your emotions aside and look at things rationally, and you'll see the wisdom in these words.
2007-06-23 05:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well u dumped ur ex for a reason so just move on. it's been a month so u probably will have some lingering feels but in time they'll go away
2007-06-23 05:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you 5 years old, your messing with peoples lives. you cant have all the sweets in the shop!! you dumped your ex for a reason and got with your new bf, if your not happy then finish with him and stop messing about.
I dont mean to be mean but blokes have feelings too
2007-06-23 05:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by jintyyt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP MESSING WITH THE GUYS FEELINGS YOU DUMPED YOUR BF FOR A REASON YOU DON'T DUMP YOUR CURRENT BF FOR YOUR EX. THAT SHOWS YOUR DESPRIT. THINK ABOUT WHY YOU DUMPED YOU EX IN THE FIRST PLACE BECUASE YOU LIKE ANOTHER MORE STICK WITH THE GUY YOU'VE GOT NOW YOUR EX DOSEN'T TALK TO YOU BECAUSE HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU. YOU DUMPED HIM WHY WOULD HE TALK TO YOU.!?
2007-06-23 05:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋