I went to an Indian Music Concert last night by myself. It was close to where I work and I like the music so I decided to go.
I called my cousin before the concert started. She is married to an Armenian gentlemen and 1 year older than me.
She sometimes goes to Indian shows/concerts alone. I asked her how it was going alone.
She said "Nobody cares." It sounded very callous to me. Is this an appropriate this to say?
I would have said, "No, don't worry about it. Just enjoy the show."
I am also taking some classes in the evenings like fitness, jazz dance, and tennis. I did not mention it to my cousin.
I told the same things to my Aunt and she was happy and said that's good. She was glad that I would be busy and enjoy the show.
I keep my problems with my ex-husband to myself now and don't talk to my cousin. Some people are just too bitter to talk to. She asked if my ex-husband had called and I said "No" even though he had. I did not want to get into it
2007-06-23 04:40:18 · 6 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It sounds like possibly your cousin is having some problems in her life. Possibly she looks at you having fun and is jealous?
It is hard to tell how she said "nobody cares." If she goes to concerts alone it isn't a big deal for her - possibly she doesn't understand why it would be an issue for you.
If your cousin isn't supportive to you, then don't go to her for conversation or support. Go to your Aunt, who sounds great and supportive.
If you are spiritual, pray for your cousin, think positive loving thoughts for her. If you aren't spiritual, send her a note or card that tells her "I think of you with love" or some similar loving up-lifting quote and write how important she is to you.
2007-06-23 04:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by AnnaB 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, we all know the saying that you can pick your friends, but not your family. I'm quite a bit older than you and I've found that some of my family are just not interested in what is going on in my life--they only want to discuss their's. These are the ones that you DO NOT share any personal problems, etc with!!! Please trust me on this. They will usually end up spreading whatever you told them to other members of the family, and people outside the family. This doesn't mean you can't spend time with them, you just have to guard what you say around them--and that's a tough situtation! These folks are just very self-centered, and they will NEVER change. Good luck, hon.
2007-06-23 05:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by MAGGIE MAE 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she meant nobody at the concert cares that you were going alone. You shouldn't expect every one to think and speak like you even if it is a close relative. Stop reading into things too much. It can make you over think unnecessarily .
2007-06-23 05:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by miss tique 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your cousin may be having problems with her husband. He might be an uncaring jerk. Tell her that you care about her and are concerned. If she won't open up to you, don't push the issue. You can still be friends with your ex, but if he is giving you problems, remember why you divorced him and frankly, I'd tell him to leave you alone, change your phone numbers, and move on without him.
2007-06-23 04:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That "nobody cares" isn't a calous statement, its just that she first felt others would make fun of her for being alone. Also, that you are seeking to move on in your personal life by not talking about failed relationships shows wonderful progress and will benefit you in your next meaningful relationship. Gossip is for old maids, not women who love.
2007-06-23 04:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That sounds like an ok response, but you lost me with all the rest of the info you out out...
2007-06-23 04:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by Betrayed and Insane 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋