Good excuses to avoid a wedding where i dont want to see half the people there.
2007-06-23 04:05:09 · 26 answers · asked by Its me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
WOW.. so many pro's here. Makes me proud to live on this planet.
2007-06-23 04:11:28 · update #1
for ppl who say it's the bride and groom's day and you should go, I'd say HELL NO! If I'm invited to a place and I don't want to see a ppl I don't care for I simply will say no. plus the bride and groom have enough guests to keep the occupied. You should come up with an excuse and let them know sooner rather than later because afterall weddings are expensive and maybe they can either save the money or invite someone else.
BTW, don't tell them the truth, they will be mad at you for it. Some kind of family emergency is always the best excuse! :)
2007-06-23 07:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Shelley S 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This isn't your own wedding, I assume????
If you're a guest, the I'd say you should just go. I'm saying this because the wedding isn't about you - it's about the bride and groom. One of them is your friend or relative, probably. By showing up, you'll give them a great gift. But if you don't show, then this might hurt them. Plus, for all you know, your friend/ relative might need you there for moral support - if only to gossip about some people that both of you can't stand...
If you can't stand half of the people there (....yeah, I hear you!!!), and you go anyway, this might be a great opportunity to pick up the latest gossip about them. Then taht'll give you some kind of reassurance why you didn't like them in the first place.
...and if you're single: keep in mind that weddings are great events to meet someone new!
2007-06-23 11:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Nina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any idea what it costs for a wedding reception? If you didn't want to go in the first place, you should have RSVPed with "Will not attend." So in the future, before you decide you're going to a wedding, call the bride and groom and ask who else is invited. It's not a big deal, and in the end, you're not causing them to waste their money.
But if you really don't want to go, then call them and tell them. Also, get them a nice gift that they actually asked for. That's the least you can do, after the bride and groom paid a minimum of $30 for you to eat and drink.
I say suck it up and go. If you don't like half the people there, that's why there's free alcohol, my friend.
2007-06-23 17:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by Quiet Rebel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is NOT to offer an explanation. Anything that you say will sound trite and fake (much like what the majority of these morons posted). Simply explain that you are very sorry that it is on such short notice, but you won't be able to make the wedding. The sooner you can do this, the better...just a courtesy.
2007-06-23 11:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by Doc918 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, who cares if you don't like half the guests???? This isn't about the guests.
Do you have close relationships with the bride & (or) groom??? If you do, then get to the wedding. You're there to support them, not the masses.
Once you've done a little obligatory time at the reception, you can make your excuses and take off....but at least you will have supported your friend(s).
2007-06-23 11:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are sick, strept throat you believe and you don't want to take the chance to get the bride and groom sick, that would be horrible.
Call a family member, of the wedding party the morning of the wedding to pass on the message
2007-06-23 11:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by ofsoundmind 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get them a card send them money as if you were attending and in the card write my apologies for not attending i hope your day was romantic and beautiful! Dont make an excuse just apologize, no lies are needed! They will appreciate the notice and well the gift!
2007-06-25 00:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by ih8jocks1692 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just let them know something personal has came up and it was last min thing very important and at the same time hand them the gift that you are required to give if invited whether you go or not it is proper ... I just learned this on on the Style network channel so good luck....
2007-06-23 11:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by SJ H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Proper etiquette states that you should write the bride and groom a short note explaining that your plans have changed, and while you really wanted to be there you unfortunately can not, and offer to make it up to them personally ( like dinner).
They say to do it this way b/c they have paid for you to eat and drink. It would be incredibly rude to just be a "no show".
2007-06-23 11:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by Candi is Dandy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You ate last night Chinese take away this morning and you've got food poisoning .... It came on all of a sudden... you're so cramped up with pain, sweating, white, shaking, uncontrollable vomiting and a bad spot of diarrhea, you wouldn't miss this day for the world but your bodily functions wont allow you too!
Good luck
2007-06-23 11:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋