how to stop fighting with my mum??

Question

everyday i always have little problems with my mum that'll soon change into big problems. i'm always the one who make my mum and dad fight.
for example:
-i just lost my cell phone on the bus (some jerk stole it), and i borrowed my mum's yesterday. i silent the cell phone cause i was watching a movie, and because i forgot to un-silent it, my father who's now in italy, can't call my mum because my mum didn't hear her phone vibrating. the next morning i had a fight and until now i don't talk much to my mum because my mum and my dad just had a fight last night (he called my house), dad told mum that she have to buy me a new cell phone (with out camera and bluetooth, and has only black and white colours, like my old one), and i'm not allowed ever to touch my mum's phone again.

that's just only one example that just happened earlier. what should i do so i can get along with mum and don't be a fight starter?i admit it's my fault too. please help?

Answer 1

First of all you need to be more responsible and don't leave things out to where it is possible for someone to steal them. Are you helping around the house? If not you need to be doing it everyday. When you are wrong apologize and mean it. don't be sassy and contradict your parents . At all times be respectful and if you don't agree with them, in a VERY adult manner calmly discuss why you don't and what you'd like to see happen.
Always calm down before you speak to mum if you are hotheaded. Stop and count to 10.
Just remember that she is your mother and deserves your respect at all times

I also would like to say that I agree with another poster that said you are obviously very intelligent. You have to be to be this self aware at your young age. :) I certainly wasn't.

Answer 2

You must be pretty intelligent Raven, to be able to understand what's going on and to recognize and take responsibility as you have done. THAT'S MATURITY !!! And I applaud you for it.

Now - what to do ??? Simple. Tell mum you realize you haven't completely met her expectations and that you want to be more helpful and responsible. Then, from now on,

1. Groom immaculately
2. Dress nicely
3. Study harder than ever
4. Don’t use profanity
5. Spend an hour a day in the library
6. Spend an hour a day at the gym
7. Honor your parents and your teachers
8. Get involved in a worthy school function
9. Volunteer a few hours a week for a worthy cause
10. Help someone every day
11. Go to Church
12. Invite your friends to Church
13. Take group dance lessons
14. SMILE
15. Speak badly of no one

Good Luck

Answer 3

To start with, you knew you were the cause of the arguement between them BUT, your father didn't have to pick it out on your mum.

If he cannot get your mum on the cellphone, what's wrong with calling the house phone? Your father has his own set of problems to deal with; his attitude.

As for your mum, you caused her to miss the phone call and when she confronted you, you didn't have to start a fight with her. Apologize for your oversight. I am sure there is no further reason for her to fight with you if you admit your mistake.

When your father gets home, explain to him that it was your mistake and not your mum. If he has to nag over the issue, let him vent it out.

Answer 4

keep your mouth shut and listen to your MUM lil girl!

Answer 5

dont ask i have the same problem there all the same lol

Answer 6

stop touching things that are not yours.