She had a swatch of the color that my bridesmaids were wearing and she new my mom was wearing a color that matched them too. She does not get along with my husband or me very well. Do you think this was a sign of disrespect?
2007-06-23 01:57:37 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It was disrespectful, but look at it this way. It is generally considered a big no no to wear white to someone else's wedding. Rest assured all who were there (well all the women anyway) took note of her white outfit, and had plenty to say about it after they got home. She just made herself look bad is all. I wouldn't let it bother me if I were you.
2007-06-23 19:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jadalina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may have been a sign of disrespect, but you will never know that for sure unless SHE tells you. Anyway, the wedding is over. Was it beautiful and fun? If so, then all was not lost. Don't let the little things like that irritate you. You have your whole life to live with your new hubby and he should be your focus, not things that have happened. You really need to move on from this and not m-i-l- know that it upset you. Yes, she should have respected your wishes, but what is done is done and you don't need to let your new in-laws know they can push your buttons this way. Heads up honey. You're a grown woman newly married, and a whole fun new world to explore. Life is too short to worry over little trivial things such as an inappropriate dress color. God bless you and congratulations.
2007-06-26 09:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might have been, or it might be a sign that she just doesn't think very much about what she's doing.
My advice would be, let it go. You've got a long life ahead of you with this mother-in-law and you want to establish your position early. The way to do it is, take the high road. Don't get into petty nit-picking about everything she does; if she gets the idea she can get to you that easily, she'll have the upper hand whenever she wants it just by pulling some stupid stunt like that. Just smile and kill her with kindness. It'll make things a lot easier for you down the road.
2007-06-23 02:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anne M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Your own mother was wearing a color that matched your bridesmaids. Maybe she just wanted to make sure that her dress didn't clash with your mother's or the bridesmaid. It's the start of your new life - so maybe you could try to make a new start with her as well. Believe me it will make a difference in the long run. Just speaking from experience.
2007-06-23 02:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by chelem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why let a day affect your outlook towards your new mother-in-law? As long as you had a great wedding, dont worry about what she wore. She may have thought very much when she chose the color. I can't even remember what my mother-in-law wore to my wedding 2 years ago.
Although your husband may not be in best of terms with his mother, she is still his mother. You married her son, so try to be cordial with her and keep the relationship warm. Like it or not, she is going to be your mother-in-law and your children's granny for a long long time.
2007-06-23 02:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by Didi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it was a sign of disrespect at all.
Hopefully over time whatever issues are there between all of you will be worked out so you all can have happiness. Some day children will come into the picture and it would be nice for the future children to see everyone getting along.
2007-06-23 02:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Patty G 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
MOST DEFINITELY. That's the number one cardinal rule of weddings, the bride and only the bride is supposed to wear white. I am shocked and appalled by you mother-in-law's actions; to be so disrespectful on a person's wedding day is horrible.
2007-06-23 08:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit tacky but what the hey .. what's done is done and let it go at that. Don't say a word about it to no one. More than likely she has been the brunt of jokes about it from those who attended. If she wanted to be a joke then she did it on her own. Just concentrate on your new life with new husband and forget about it. Let water go under the bridge.
2007-06-23 02:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law wore black to our wedding she felt so bad that her daughter was really getting married me. (Kidding)
What matters is what the two of you said and how you love and treat each other, not what moms or anyone else wears. Forget it, there's lots of harder thing to worry about to keep a marriage happy. Beside did you ever think she could be stupid?
2007-06-23 02:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think she behaved disrespectfully. Keep a close eye on her or else once you have children she'll never stop interfering. You new husband is an only child yeah? Your mum-in-law is prob jealous you "took" her son away from her.
Be civil with her but make it clear from the start that you will be doing everything your way.
2007-06-23 02:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋