really like this girl and for a few weeks have been sending texts saying things like i miss you to each other and stuff and last night i went to a party at her house and we kissed and held hands most of the night but she said she didn't want to be in a relationship with me as she doesn't want to hurt me and loose me if it ends. (she said this before we kissed and stuff) anyways today i can tell something has changed she's being colder with me and i text her saying i miss you and she didnt reply and things i can just tell something aint right and i really like here but what should i do? we're going out tonight with a bunch of people and i dont know what to do when i see her, i have a feeling she aint gonna be holding my hand and stuff like last night, please help me what shud i do tonight? or just in general?
2007-06-22 23:57:53 · 9 answers · asked by Nicola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You obviously took it a step too far. You should have respected what she said earlier, before kissing and 'stuff'. You may have lost your chance but respect her and don't be so quick to be with her. Move slower and become very good friends, moving up.
2007-06-23 00:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her why. If she doesn't answer. move on. If she has an answer which makes no sense, ask for clarification. If that makes no sense, she's nuts. Move on. If she changes her mind but tells you she's still in Love with someone else. Ask her if she wants to move on with or without you. If she says without you,. move on. If she comes clean about some illness, ask her how you be supportive as a friend. She'll like that. If she says her parents refuse to allow her to date until a certain, age, move on. or become her friends. If she says it's because she wants to marry rich, move on. If religion differences and/or race is an issue with her, move on...Let her parents meet you as her friends. Maybe they will approve. If the do not approve, move on.
Too many complications, basically, but there might be a glimpse of hope.
2007-06-23 07:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she was just testing the waters and really isn't gay. Some women are just acting out their fantasies, but never really intend to live that life...and it IS a hard one, since gay and lesbian behavior has never really been acceptable in western culture.
2007-06-23 07:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on - she's not into you. Fact of life. There will be someone around the corner who is so don't waste your time and energy. Life's too short.
2007-06-23 07:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by veruca salt 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well...is she "out"? Perhaps if she is not she is not ready to take that step of being outed. Or, perhaps she is just experimenting.
Tonight I would just leave her alone, as hard as that is to do. She needs to make up her mind on which direction she wants to go.
Just sounds like bad timing to me. I know it hurts...sorry to hear that.
2007-06-23 07:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she said she doesn't want a relationship with you, then the only sensible thing to do is to move on.
2007-06-23 07:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move on.
2007-06-23 07:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
2007-06-23 07:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be her safety net. Move on.
2007-06-23 07:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋