My mum loves short hair but i hate it! I m a gal. We live alone 2gether! I m 14. She brings me to d hair salon and always insist on a slope haircut. But early this year she changed my haircut to a xtremly short china doll haircut.I had very short fringe and my nape shaved cause i my wanted it. My hair length was nose length. But my mum was not satisfied with it cause she consisdered it too long. So therefore, 1 week later instead of bringing me to the hair salon she brought me to the barber to get it cut. She told me that it would be better as they would use the shavers. Now my hair is shorter then a flatliner. I have super short side burns cause they were shaved. I look like a total boy. Looks like 2morow i m going 2 have another haircut but this time at the hair salon cause my mum wants to get my bangs cut real short and trim the back and front and not forgetting the top short!
2007-06-22 21:53:22 · 10 answers · asked by ariel 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
It is time for you to stand and deliver! Explain that it is okay to obey your mom but this is ridiculous! At 14 your character and personality are developing and you certainly do not need such ridiculous character assassination! Tell it like it is just like this, "Mom do you want me to look like a man!?" How about could it be because "long hair" would make you look "promiscuous" around guys!? Or just because your mom was "promiscuous" back in her day, does that mean that all girls are like that!? Ridiculous! That is being biased and judgmental! She could have a knack against men if that is the case. You need a chance to grow up but you do not need to be put down, held back or feel ugly about yourself! Start arguing at the salon that you do not like that manly looking hair anymore! You will soon realize that you will have to defend yourself even if it is your family. If you do argue, which may happen, always stay on defense as much as possible because that will keep your opinion strong. Strength and honor! =<)
2007-06-22 22:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Grandmaster Adler von Chase 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I completely feel your pain!!!! When I was younger my mom used to always give me and my sister BOY haircuts. They used the clippers on us that they use on boys at the barber shop and my hair looked like a damn mushroom! It was under my ears all the way around and it gave me such a complex at school. I was jealous of all the girls that had the long, flowing hair. I used to cry after haircuts because I looked like a boy and I remember people used to tell my mom "you have two good looking fellas there". I used to get so pissed and say " I'M A GIRL!". Then finally when I turned either 12 or 13, I had a talk with my mom. I told her that my hair made me feel ugly. I hated going to school because of it and it was embarrassing when all my friends would ask why I always have short hair and couldn't grow it long. I told her my hair was depressing me. I also explained to her that I was now old enough and responsible enough to keep my hair neat. Fortunately for me she understood. Finally after a couple years I had the most beautiful head of hair. I was so confident and happy. Even to this day, I have a hard time getting my hair trimmed because I'm afraid they will cut too much off. I love my long hair and I will keep it long until it's MY choice to cut it shorter. Maybe you should have a talk with mum and tell her how you're feeling. Tell her you're getting older and you can keep your hair neat. Also let her know that short hair is seriously upsetting you. She might possibly understand.
Good luck to you.
2007-06-22 22:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your mom know how you feel about getting these hair cuts? If not, now would be a good time to have a conversation with her about it. At 29, I'm still struggling to get my mom out of my hair, pun intended.
Parents don't always understand that for some of us, how we present our physical appearance is a really big deal to us. For others of us, its not such a big deal. If you are going to have a conversation with her about this, it would be helpful if you were able to describe what, specifically, about these hair cuts really makes you upset. Is it how you look? (sounds like it) Is it how getting the haircuts make you feel? (as in, "my mother is ruling my life and I don't like it") Is it that you have a very particular sense of how you feel you should look? (as in, "I look and feel like a complete and total stranger if I'm not able to present my appearance in a particular way") If you think the last might be the case, you may want to check out some of the longhair web forums online. While these are mostly propagated by men, I'm sure there are some which are focussed on girls and women too.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-06-22 22:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I even have had a compelled haircut in the previous, it grew to become into undesirable! i grew to become into starting to be my hair to my decrease returned as of venture with my acquaintances, yet my female chum hated it plenty! She suggested if i didn' shrink it then she could do it and it would not be solid! 2 days later i fell asleep for the duration of an paintings lesson at school and whilst the instructor left the room she painted my hair with acyrlic paint and used the duck tape to fip bits out....My head bled for something of that day and it took 3 dyas to get the paint out thoroughly! :) :) I dumped her here day :/
2016-10-18 11:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by balok 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, your 14? thats way old enough to make your own decisions about your hair....
tell her that your really don't like your hair that short. you've had numerous hair styles and you would prefer it longer. you can always cut it shorter, but growing it takes a while to grow... your taste is a bit different from hers and you want short hair.
if for some reason she says that you have to get your hair cut or something, put your foot down and say you dont want to. its your hair,
if she acts this way with little things, it will get worse...she has to understand you have your own opinions/style/likes and dislikes etc...
2007-06-22 22:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by GrafZeppelin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how strongly you feel about having such a short hair cut. Tell her you want to grow it out and stand up for your self. If she makes you go again after telling her how much you dislike having short hair , cry, make a scene and try to embarrass her buy begging please no mom etc. i don't want this please don't make me and blah blah. Tell the stylist or barber you don't want your hair cut, if you tell them that they might not cut it.
2007-06-22 22:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say , but your mum is way out of line here, you´re 14, not 4 anymore!!! just refuse to go!!! learn to stick up for yourself!!! if she insists let another adult (aunt, mother´s friend etc) talk reason to her...
2007-06-22 22:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her about it in a nice way and dont argue whatever you do . you have to convince her that your old enough to make some decisions for yourself hope this helps
2007-06-22 22:41:43 · answer #8 · answered by rowleyeyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt mention how old you are but Mums the boss till you grow up so better do what she says.goodluck.
2007-06-22 22:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by frank m 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom was that way to but one day I came home looking like this
http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n100/skybluefire/me/DSC02008.jpg
And she has not talked to me about me hair ever scene that day
and in about 4 weeks i will have this hair
http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n100/skybluefire/Hot%20Hair/l_f7c38c2fac5177d0b98292969077c7bc.jpg
she does not care any more
poor mom
just tell her "mom i do not like this hair let me have it long its my life not yours"
2007-06-22 23:15:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋